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i don't have all the answers but i have lived a good life with lots of love, lovers and adventure.
i am an expert fisherman, and go fishing at least twice a week.
i have a fox terrier dog named sami spratt.
she is the love of my life,( after my wife)
she was born 4hrs after the others, and has a few issues. but like me shes a bit too clever for her own good. |
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Was my wife just joking about us becoming swingers?
Q. my wife and i were talking about our sex the other night and i said maybee we need to spice things up. she says maybe we should be swingers. i asked if thats what she wants she said yes. a min later she says she was just kidding. i just dont know if ...
A. 27 October 2010: if it's what you want, then ask her again. if not, don't go there again.
the swinging lifestyle is full of danger to so called happily married couples. most couples get into this because there is something missing in their own relation... (read in full...)
Only friends, I want more!
Q. Hi, I have a question, and i need your help. I am in love with a women that i flirted with over two yrs ago, and we never really had sex except once was ok, most of the time we were drunk and did not really rock any of our worlds and mostly because ...
A. 27 October 2010: sort out your life first, either end the marriage, or salvage it.
if you move on this woman may change her mind, but don't count on it or you may get hurt.... (read in full...)
I'm 12 weeks pregnant and my husband is cheating. Do I leave him or stay because of the baby?
Q. Hi,I am 12 weeks pregnant and my husband is cheating with one of he's co-worker and she is married too I dont know who's the jerk, but this problem is driving me crazy I just don't know what to do. I must leave him or stay cuz of the baby?...thanks ...
A. 27 October 2010: dont stay because of the baby, you need to have a good talk with him and sort your life out.
do you have the finance to bring this baby into the world and give it the life it rightly deserves.?.
decide only on the basis of whats best for y... (read in full...)
I need to get rid of this young girl before my wife finds out!
Q. I need help getting rid of a girl of a young girl in my life... This is causing me much stress and I don't know what to do.. Here is a little background... I'm in my mid 40s, been married for 20 years and have two teenage daughters. My w...
A. 27 October 2010: well you have made your bed and now must lie in it.
choice-1. leave your wife, ruin her life, loose the respect of your kids, ruin their lives, have no money for the rest of your life, loose you house and car...etc, etc. move in with the girl and... (read in full...)
Its hard enough being a single mother to one, I don't know if I can do it with two!
Q. okay so im 20 years old and i already have an 1yr old daughter... i just found out today that i am pregnant again ..n the guy that i was with already has a little girl with a another woman n doesnt see her at all he drinks alot n likes to go to the ...
A. 27 October 2010: well i cant really say what you want to hear.
but i will say you have been really stupid, you have had sex with this guy, and now you want to bring another unwanted child into this world.
you've been through this before and yet you still went o... (read in full...)
Why do I never give guys a chance?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm REALLY scared to have a boyfriend. I've liked guys in the past and they've made moves on me but my fear of relationships has stopped me from taking things further and just genuinely enjoying myself. Its really bothering beca...
A. 27 October 2010: well you could try writing him a note and give it to him when no-one else is around.
you sound like you are putting up a false front to impress others. thats a mistake. just try to be yourself.... (read in full...)
He's looking for excitement!
Q. I feel he is looking for excitement. how can i spice up our relationship or/and sex lives?...
A. 26 October 2010: you need to tell us more here. are you already having sex or not. why are you not exiting enough for him now?.
there are lots of ways, one i remember all too well was for a new girlfriend to "accidently" drop a note as i picked her up from her... (read in full...)
British reserve getting in the way of approaching an American girl
Q. I am a college student who has come from the UK to America, and I just don't know what to do romantically. I am rather shy, and anhedonic, so I have difficulty just relaxing and having fun with women. There is one girl I really like who's really ...
A. 26 October 2010: try asking another girl, that you know to help. tell her to tell this girl your are shy but have feelings for her and you want to break the ice.
long term, join a debating club, or some other club where you can gain confidence and slowly loose th... (read in full...)
He took rough sex too far and now I'm afraid to trust him
Q. My boyfriend like to be rough during sex. So when he started slapping my face about 6 months ago I told him that he was taking it too far and they only thing I don't want him to do is slap me because I feel like he is abusing me. He still likes to ...
A. 26 October 2010: i once had a g/f who wanted me to do this and i just couldnt do it. sounds like your man and she should get together.
i couldnt bring myself to slap her, even in fun. thats not what she wanted, she wanted to be slapped hard. we split up over it a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still thinks I'm a virgin!
Q. Hey, I need some advice. So, I was dating this guy for about a year. Things between him and I were great, I truely loved him to death. The thing is that he asked if I was a virgin, and at the time I was. I knew that he wasn't, and he knew that I ...
A. 26 October 2010: a gentleman never asks...and a lady never tells.
when you really think about it, its a really good policy, don't you think?.
now that you've done the deed, do you want to sleep with this guy. if so, you need to tell him. if not, don't tell ... (read in full...)
I want to be a London escort
Q. Hi everyone! I'm thinking about becoming a London Escort... Do not tell me that I shouldn't do this.. I'm already an Escort, but not in London. What I would like to know is: How many customers do Escorts receive per day? Thank you for your a...
A. 25 October 2010: well i once knew a girl who was sold into the trade in thailand at 12years of age, and she had to have sex with up to 50 guys a day. she never got paid and only escaped when the truck taking them to a new brothal crashed and the police found her.
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Customs and border patrols?
Q. i need to write my final term paper and it has to be about customs and border patrols can domeone halp me to get like the main idea i have no clue at all :$...
A. 25 October 2010: you go to a library and look up the relevant info, and then write your paper. there is not easy way, or do you expect us to do it for you.
it seems you havent planned this very well or at all.
as a last resort you could maybe ask your tutors.... (read in full...)
How do I know if I should salvage this at all?
Q. I have been married for ten years....sometimes he's been great, alot of times not. i recently kicked him out and started seeing an ex. (well not really, i just wanted to show him i really could find another.) stupid kinda, i know, but we agreed t...
A. 25 October 2010: well girl, you kicked him out, and started things off by going with your ex.
so what did you expect?.
i think you have been really stupid here, and he's well within his rights to move on. you no longer have the right to say who he can see.
s... (read in full...)
Mum thinks I'm having sex, I'm not, but I do give him handjobs.
Q. okay, im in a comitted relationship with this amazing guy, i adore him, and he adores me, we've been dating for 3 months on the 26th of october :) But i have a few questions, not exactly problems, 1. My mom thinks me and my boyfriend are in a ve...
A. 25 October 2010: your mom loves you and she knows the pressure young guys can put on young girls.shes right, keep it safe and dont go all the way till you know for sure your'e really ready to take that step.
one or two minutes is normal. he will have been really e... (read in full...)
I want more, and I'm terrified to put everything out in the open he's going to back away.
Q. I met a man when I was still married. We were both miserable in our marriages and we formed an intense sexual relationship very quickly. He's now separated and I'm divorced. We have become good friends and sleep together on a regular basis. I...
A. 25 October 2010: tread very carefully here, you are sending him mixed messages. is what you have not enough for now.
you are good friends leave it that way till he opens up to you. ... (read in full...)
Why did my 'f-ck buddy' suddenly turn off?
Q. i have a fuck buddy and i told him i thought as him as a friend and that i didnt know if i needed that cause friendship leads to relationship. then i relized he is not going to be here but couple more weeks and he will be out of the state and with ...
A. 25 October 2010: he thought you wanted more, to be more than fwb. he's married so when you said to back of he did. now what is your problem. were you playing games and it backfired on you. be careful what you wish for.
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Does the PE teacher like me???
Q. I have a young male PE teacher in my school and to be quite honest we have ALWAYS gotten along well. He became quite a confidante to me and i found myself telling him about my epilepsy which i feel i cant talk to many people about. I never made any ...
A. 25 October 2010: its his job to get to know his pupils, and any underlying health issues.
he may well have other interest in you but you both know there is no future in it.... (read in full...)
My dad fired him after he caught us kissing! How do I make him see that he is a good person?
Q. my dad owns a construction company and in june he moved came home from work and ask my mom to let CHase ( a new guy he hired) to stay with us until he found a place of his own. Chase is 25, had just moved back to the neighbour hood and my dad wanted ...
A. 25 October 2010: this guy was warned by your dad before he moved in to keep his nose clean.
he has betrayed that trust....big time.
he may be a nice guy but your dad is right here, he just cant be trusted. he has really hurt your dad, he treated him like a son. ... (read in full...)
Is my husband "too close" to his male friend?
Q. My husband met a Guy while he was overseas. They Guy is in his unit. now they text each other constantly. It was bothering me so I told my husband but it didn't do much good. They still text some through the week and all day on the weekends. The Guy ...
A. 24 October 2010: i need more info on this one. were they in the army or such. if so then its very normal to form a very close bond.... (read in full...)
I'm scared to death of his penis!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for a little while now, and everything seems so perfect, he's rubbed me a bit down there, and so have i, but i could never rub him bare! i am scared of his penis for some reason and its so hard, he asked if i wanted to ...
A. 24 October 2010: well its sort of normal. what did you think it would look like?. it wont bite or scratch you though.lol. a penis is like a kitten, all soft and curled up. it comes to life when you stroke it, and when it gets its claws out...beware.
but in some ... (read in full...)
In love with my room mate!
Q. SO i recently moved into a 4 bedroom townhouse with my 3 roommates. 2 girls 1 boy. John and i had a connection from the minute i first picked him up from the airport. we had talked a couple times over skype and we got along really well. when i ...
A. 24 October 2010: go buy some condoms asap.
there, all problems solved?.
i feel he will still play the field though, and there is no long term future with this guy. and to be fair he has warned you. ... (read in full...)
Wedding Blues: Maid of Honor who cannot dance, no gift bought yet and other disturbances
Q. Dearest Aunts and Uncles, I'm in a bind. My absolute favorite aunt who is 32 is getting married! I'd love to get her something special. She's a social worker, lives in New York and is down-to-earth :) So I have four problems. She wants me to walk ...
A. 24 October 2010: wow!. it sounds like a great celebration and a party not to be missed. can i get an invite?. i dont dance too good, but i'll do my best. i'm not sure if i wont stand on someones toes, but hey!. i cant sing so the only thing i can do is talk to you ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for us to enter into a strictly sexual relationship with each other?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in love with a man I know for 20 years. We are both currently in committed relationships, but the opportunity to have a strictly sexual relationship has come up. Neither one of us want to give up our current relationships, w...
A. 24 October 2010: well you could do it, theres nothing stopping you....or is there.
would it be worth it?.
what have you got to loose?.
what happens when you get found out?.
what happens if the sex isnt as great as you thought.... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain this weird phenomenon?
Q. Can anyone explain this weird phenomenon? When I was single I had barely gotten any female attention. Now that I'm not single anymore, it's like suddenly they are lining up to hit on me, seduce me, even try to kiss me. Okay mostly they are drunk ...
A. 23 October 2010: yep, it happened with me as well. i thought i was the only one for a long tome then realised its another female thing.
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Is masturbation bad???
Q. I've been looking at some of the things on here and suprisingly loads of people my age masturbate, yet all guys I know do but only a few girls do... why do you think this is coz most of them say its dirty and they just wouldn't because its wrong. ...
A. 23 October 2010: everyone does it, the birds and bees do it. the trouble is most people lie about it.
why the do is complex, it could be a number of reasons but the lack of education is the most likely.
we treat our teens like idiots.
our parents never had th... (read in full...)
I got banned on a website, will they come looking for me?
Q. I Think I have been banned from a certain website (being a young male you can imagine what type) for not paying for the service. I made several accounts on it and one of their rules was no identity fraud. Well in my eyes I created the names of the ...
A. 23 October 2010: i dont think they will bother you. it depends how much you owe them.
however it should be a lesson to you, not to do this type of thing. its theft. the same as if some person takes your money out of your wallet.
you wouldnt like that, so dont do ... (read in full...)
Are guys OK with inverted nipples?
Q. I have somewhat invertd nipples. They look normal when i simply sqeeze my boobs but whn they are just being thmself, they tend to go in. Im a little self consious so ive been surfin the net for guys opinions on them. Most guys dont care, but a lot ...
A. 23 October 2010: is normal.
i had a g/f when i was young that had the most beautiful breasts, and inverted nipples. they used to come out when i kissed her breasts and sucked on her nipples. they were the most sensitive nipples ever.
they popped out one day we w... (read in full...)
We went out and had a great time but he's hardly texting me now
Q. So an old college 'guy' friend from last year popped up at the beginning of the month with an email on facebook. After that he text me constantly and wanted to meet me and said loads of sweet, nice things about me. I met up with them one weekend and ...
A. 21 October 2010: sounds to me like he likes you but is really not sure what he wants at the moment.
he may have backed off a bit to give himself time to think. thats a good thing. the last thing he wants right now is an overly clingy girl txing him every five seco... (read in full...)
Should I get pregnant knowing my fiance doesn't want another child?
Q. My fiance and I have 3 boys (5,2,1 week), i just gave birth to a baby on 10/14. I desperately want to try for a girl and he doesn't want anymore children. 2 are his and 1 is from a previous relationship. He now wants to use condoms and get me on ...
A. 21 October 2010: what sort of a person are you for even thinking of trapping this guy into fathering another unwanted child.
he has taken you in and you two have made a home for two more children. then you say you want more from him?.
how selfish can you get?.
y... (read in full...)
Huge crush but I'm too shy to talk to him! Help!
Q. Ok so i have this huge crush on this kid in my class. I fell in love with him the minute i saw him! I know he knows who i am and everything, but I now that he will never actually talk to me and im to shy to talk to him! so what do i do?!?!??!...
A. 21 October 2010: so ok your'e shy, so smile at him from a few feet away. if he's interested he will smile back. then he may even talk to you. then what are you going to do?. run away?.
just what are you afraid of. you need to be brave and if you like this guy as m... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want sex and says I can have one night stands
Q. My wife is 51 and I am 48. She says that she no longer feels like sex with any man, although she will reluctantly have sex with me to keep me happy. She has orgasms about half the times we have sex, but says twice a week is too much and that I ...
A. 21 October 2010: to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, richer or poorer, till death do us part.
i guess thats what they mean here. this will be a true test of your love for this woman.
you need to read up about her problems, then ask yourself this qu... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend like his ex's butt better?
Q. Ok i am totally aware as to how ridiculous this is but omg help!! So im in a long distance relationship, been with him now for 2 years (both our longest relationships so far)and we see each other not often but atleast take 3 holidays per yea...
A. 21 October 2010: if my wife asked me the same question, i could not lie to her.
it would be J Lo .....no contest. but then my wife would laugh her head off.
you need to do the same.... (read in full...)
How do I go about satisfying my bi-curiosity?
Q. I want to try having a sexual experience with a woman, but i'm not sure how to go about it. I have been bi-curious for a while now, but i have only ever been involved with men, although, i am a virgin, and i haven't dated many guys, and the guys i ...
A. 21 October 2010: you need to take courage and approach another female your'e attracted to.
do this before you date anymore men. i too suspect your'e gay.
it may be why the guys were treating you so bad.
i hope you can find another your'e comfortable with. go... (read in full...)
Married and confused about love
Q. I have been married to my wife for 1 year now. We have been together for almost 10 years. This is the first time we have lived together and everything seemed to be going fine. We don't fight and we treat each other with respect. We do not have any ...
A. 21 October 2010: the first thing you need to do is tell your wife about this other woman.
if you are going to leave her, then make sure this other woman is the same as when you first met her, people do change and you may not be able to live with her now.and ... (read in full...)
Husband texts other women
Q. Hi, I need some opinions on how you feel about your husband texting/talking on the phone with other women. We have been married for about a year and I trusted him that he is a good husband and will never cheat on me, but now im not so sure. He...
A. 21 October 2010: well i too have a woman friend that i talk to, but my wife knows i do it. i have known her for years and there is nothing sexual in it. we share all sorts of things, but i always tell my wife if its anything she should know.
i work with a group of w... (read in full...)
Do you think that getting a hand job during a massage is really cheating?
Q. I am a little bored and was intrigued by all the ads for Asian massage places and something called "table shower". My question to you all is do you think that getting a hand job during a massage is really cheating? It seems to me that it is not ...
A. 21 October 2010: yep, its cheating....and you know it.
sorry but what did you expect?.... (read in full...)
Huge crush but I'm too shy to talk to him! Help!
Q. Ok so i have this huge crush on this kid in my class. I fell in love with him the minute i saw him! I know he knows who i am and everything, but I now that he will never actually talk to me and im to shy to talk to him! so what do i do?!?!??!...
A. 21 October 2010: why do you think he wont ever talk to him?.
just be yourself and smile at him when you see him. say hello if you can and he will reply.
keep trying if he does'nt show interest the first time, he may be shy as well. good luck.... (read in full...)
Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?
Q. Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...
A. 21 October 2010: you sound like a real wanker to me.
there seen to be lots of guys like you that hang around pools and beaches, causing all sorts of trouble.
its attention seeking, and may get you a criminal record.
at your age you should know whats right ... (read in full...)
Is the volume or distance of a man's ejaculation important?
Q. I was hanging out with a friend over the weekend and somehow after a few beers the topic of sex came up (small wonder among men drinking beer, right). He said since he turned 40, the force and volume of his ejaculations has gone down. He said his ...
A. 21 October 2010: it could be the first sign of prostrate trouble.
he needs to get a second opinion.
if he thinks he has a problem, then he will get worse till it becomes a real problem, i.e. erection worries etc.... (read in full...)
Did I deserve to lose my baby?
Q. hey x so i had a miscarrige last year and at the time i just put it to the back of my head an forget about it as well to be honest i was ashamed because i was only 15 but i recently started going out with my best friend and when arguing, he brought ...
A. 21 October 2010: you need to remove this "best friend' OFF your list and out of your life. you shure wer'nt the first young girl to get pregnant, and no you wern't to blame for the miscarriage.
and it takes two to make a baby.
good luck and god bless.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to communicate with my boyfriend about his career move
Q. Hi, I don't know how to communicate with my boyfriend about his career move. We are both 27. We are together for 2 yrs and want to get married after I finish studying.We love each other and want to start a family soon.I am still studying. He is...
A. 21 October 2010: i worked as a photographer for 7years, in the horse industry.
its hard to break into this profession, you have to be real good to make money. their are heaps of people think its easy but, when you have to make money then its real hard.
as an ama... (read in full...)
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