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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and I are having an issue having sex, she's a virgin and she's really petite. So she told me she wanted to have sex, so i start to touch her and i realize shes really tight, i barely fit my middle finger inside her. so when i try to put my penis inside of her it was imposssible. As i was trying to go inside her she starts trembling, so i get nervous so i stop. She really wants to have sex and i dont know what to do because i barely fit one finger inside her, im not that big, but i am on the thick side, so need some advice...plus she was getting really tense during this
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 i am concerened as to how old this girl is, maybe she"s too young.
it could be a lack of foreplay or lubrication but even petite girls can have sex if the prep is right.
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reader, joeblow6969 +, writes (9 October 2010):
ChiGirl gave the perfect answer. Take your time.
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reader, cheannryl  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Yeah i agree,take it slow boy.no need to hurry,sexy music and romantic place helps,look into her eyes,kiss her lips gently,touch her face,her eyes,her nose,her lips.JUST TAKE IT SLOW;)
And dnt push too hard,feel her.(omg what am i talking about,haha)
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reader, LadyPinky +, writes (9 October 2010):
 If she does start tembleing when you go to enter her maybe shes not ready for sex yet. I big part of sex for me at least is being confrontable and relaxed with each other. I think maybe the two of you should discuss this and talk about how you could make each other more comfrontable during sex. Like how we talk about going through the bases within out sexual relationship maybe you just need more time figureing each other out before you are ready for intercourse.
Hope this helps. :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 I must correct you when it comes to "big". If you are thick you are per definition big. Lenght isn't so much an issue for women (unless the man is extraordinary long and it hurts), but girth (thickness) is what matters. Too thin and we don't feel it, too thick and it is very painful. Even for those who are not virgins.
You need to warm her up a lot more. You say you started touching her down there only after she expressed she would like to have sex. Take some more time to get to know her down there, and work with your fingers for starters. If you can barely fit a finger in there it will only cause the both of you pain if you try to squeeze your penis in. Your penis might actually get hurt as well...
I suggest you take more time with focus simply on peasuring each other sexually without penetration, as well as using your fingers more on her to make her more accustomed to it.
If you put a lot of pressure on having intercourse you will both get so nervous you will forget to enjoy the experience. Relax, don't worry about it, and explore each other more. If you relax and feel comfortable about all of this she shouldn't be trembling and you shouldn't feel this nervous and worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): Have u tried lube? that might help ease penetration?...the wetter the better as it allows for less friction and easier insertion. Hope this helps.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (9 October 2010):
 She's not ready to be penetrated so she needs foreplay. A lot of foreplay, she has to be extremely wet down there, so you can slide in.
On the other hand she might not be ready to have sex yet, so it's an emotional issue. Whatever it is, don't push her into anything, she will retreat even more.
Anyway, the vagina is made to resist to ANY size of penis, so don't worry, she needs to be very wet and relaxed, which is most important.
Good luck
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