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*radley101
writes:before me and my girlfriend were together there was this boy who was intrested in her and she was saying its nothing etc etc.we have now been together for about 2 months , and last week she walked back to hers to get changed and speak to her mum , i then rang her because i get this insinct when somethings wrong so i was asked , why are you taking so long ? and she replyed il start walking back to yours in 5 mins so she turns up 20 mins late , and she told me she spoke to this boy that liked her before just to tell him about me and her being together , anyway she gets back to mine and i was fondiling her ( stuck my hand down her trousers ) and she was wet , so i asked if she had done anything with this boy in a straight forward manner and she replyed with '' i wouldnt do this to you because i love you too much '' so i belevied it. then at college i was walking with her down the corridor and my friend says to her how was mark ( the boy i accused her of cheating with ) and i said back to him what do you mean and he said that apparntly she fucked him and my friend said he could see the shadows because its on the same estate , then flipped out her and she replyed with hes trying to wind me up ! so because i love her i still belevie her so i took her word.as i was still supscious i looked at her chat history in msn and there was this history dating back with this other guy she knew when she was young and she got back in touch with him , but as i read though the history i seen her say things like i wanna fuck you so bad etc , and then there was things about having cam sex and doing it , so i asked her saying what is this but i said that i only read the recent month too see if she would deny it and she blaimed it on her sister and her friends and she quoted the same thing ''i wouldnt do that because i love you too much'' and i know for a fact shes lying because it dates back months ago so she couldnt lie about it , so it made me think has she cheated on me , as much as i would like to beleive her i think about it every night and i am getting restless nights , so i would appricate it if some off you gave your opinions , i really love this girl but i dont want too be cheated on , so could you also give some suggestions about how to find out etc thank you so much .
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reader, LuvDrunk  +, writes (26 May 2010):
You mite love this girl but she obviously doesn't love you. You don't deserve the shit she's putting you through, you've given her more chances than she deserved and now you are going to have to let her go, even if you love her.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 May 2010):
To be honest, I think you have your proof. You've found all those messages about them wanting to have sex and do it on a camera. You're being bullshitted, to put it bluntly, and you need to dump her lying ass out. It's very clear that she's done it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): My instinct is yes she has been cheating x
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (26 May 2010):
Your so-called "friend" don't sound like much of a friend to me mate. Sorry but what sort of a friend would say something like that?
It seems like this girl and guy had something going on before you two met. Do you know for a fact she had sex with him whilst going out with you? NO. Could she have still been interested in him right at the beginning of your relationship? YES. Could she be lying to you about the full story because she is scared of how you would react? YES.
You've only been together for 2 months - that's nothing! She probably still had feelings for this guy at the time you two got together, but perhaps over the last month she has realised she has wanted to be with you.
If you want this to work out, you need to drop this issue. If you keep bringing it up, it is only going to make her become more distant, and more likely open to the possibility of being with Mark.
Stop the snooping, and trust her. Try and get on with having a fun relationship with her and only re-visit this situation if something else happens that you really think doesn't add up. But that said, be careful of the green eyed monster. You could be being jealous without realising it.
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