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*ustagal
writes:my 5 yrs bf and me were really cool abt facebook. he gave me his facebook password and i gave him mine. i never had any prob with that. but he used to surf my profile and got angry with some guy leaving msg.bhe yelled at me. i initialy used to visit his profile seldomly. and once i ws really angry when i saw a girls sending him msg many times. we had a fight and from then actually from 3 yrs we changed our password. is it wrong or should we know each others paaword?
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reader, justagal +, writes (28 May 2010):
justagal is verified as being by the original poster of the question well, most of u got me worng. we had each others pw. but we were also having sm probs with that fact. so we changed it 3 yrs back with a mutual dcsion.
and for the male readers, he ws the 1st 1 to ask for it. i nvr bother about it. and he was the 1st one to have issues with it. now we r cool about it and we keep our privacies and respect that. but most of my friends share their pw to their bf and they have theirs. and they made me feel its not ok to not have eachothers password. but i totaly trust him and i thinks its better to keep privacy. i think sm ppl are just manipulating me :S
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reader, s4ndy  +, writes (27 May 2010):
Why would you want each others passwords dont you trust each other, sounds as though neither of you do, Im a little surprised youve been together so long.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (27 May 2010):
If I asked for my girlfriends facebook password she would look at me like I was some kind of paranoid freak! Maybe I could ask her to wear a bug and trace, just so I know where she is and what she's doing at all time.
You guys been going out for 5 years? You should really be in a better place with each other than you are now. I mean, it sounds pretty weak you both getting jealous over the other person getting messages over facebook.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (27 May 2010):
 no, you should within a relationship, have your own privacy. to have no privacy in a relationship is for both partners to be too needy in the same way. you should retain a level of mystery at times and have trust in each other. to me if someone wanted my facebook password i would not see it as improving trust between us, i would view it as a breakdown in trust. does that make sense, for instance if i have to read my boyfriends phone all the time that would be because i was insecure(not because i loved him sooooo much).
there are better ways to show your love to someone than rifling through their stuff and communications
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reader, Boredatwork +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Its all about trust, and you have created yourself a problem here...If you change your password then he will think you have somthing to hide and its likly to cause another argument.I personnaly know all of my GF's email/facebook passwords etc... and she know mine. BUT the big differance is we dont go on each others to 'snoop' in fact i never log on unless she knows about it before hand e.g she wants me to give her some information from an email while she is out. Or she may go on my facebook to upload some photos shes taken of somthing ive done. But again she will let me know before hand.The problem is, there shouldnt be anything on there that you dont want your partner to see, but as CaringGuy said everyone needs some privicy.How you go about changing your passwords without causing a problem i havent a clue, as from a blokes point of view i would be like "what are you hiding from me?".Maybe say u asked a friend to log on to check somthing for you, but then changed your password so they couldnt get on in the furure.... then when he asks for the new password stear him away form the conversation somehow?!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): Dear,Since you guys love each other, both are possissive on each other, this is natural and sometimes this will lead to mis-trust, so you take the initivative and informing that you change his password and you allow him to change your password, enjoy the fun ----- believe the confidence level on each other will increase.Felix
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 May 2010):
You should never really give each others' passwords away to be honest. One person always becomes jealous, or worried or takes something the wrong way. As a couple, you are allowed to have some privacy. Facebook is your page where you can chat to people about things you wouldn't talk about to your boyfriend. So change your password and don't let him see, and don't look at his. It just created so much distrust.
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