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writes:I understand this might be a bit of a strange question and hard to answer so any types of responses will be appreciated :)I was just wondering how you stop thinking about someone. I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and we don't have anymore contact with each other, and I just want to move on now. But I keep thinking about him.. like little things make me think of him and I keep daydreaming about him randomly. All of this makes it so that he's pretty much on my mind all day.Does anyone have any idea how to get somebody OFF your mind? Any tips on how to distract yourself from those thoughts when they arise? I don't want to keep thinking about him because then I miss him and stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your responses :)
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Other than taking up jazzercise on Saturday mornings and filling the rest of your now empty time slots that were his, with hobbies..It also doesn't hurt to get back into the dating world and casually date. Just for fun, it really doesn't have to go past the first date, and to see what other options you have out there.
I like to go to the gym, and kickboxing..I visualize my ex and the horrible things he did to me, and just relieve myself of that pent up aggression. Watch sappy movies such as the Notebook just to let out a good cry. Start back up sports you enjoy and that require your attention at all times, tennis, bike riding, swimming, ice skating..Also, a little retail therapy never hurt anyone, to go out and buy a nice new dress or cute heels you've had your eye on. Can even wear your new outfit out on a date for an extra boost of confidence. When you look good, you feel good.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 You never really will. It's more about accepting the fact that you once loved someone or still do and/or always will. And that the love between you both cannot continue anymore (for now). Therefore, the only thing you can do is move on and take it on board as a part of your own journey in your own life. Once you accept this, he will fade away, but always be a special person in your heart forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): I would suggest doing something like running or any form of excercise to help distract your mind from thinking of him.You should also remind yourself of his negative traits as after a breakup its easy to think that they were perfect, when in fact we just focus on the good times. You should also take up a new hobby to meet new people.This will allow you to see that you are part of a bigger picture and not confined to the life you know now i.e: the one that he's a part of.Good Luck and i promise things do get easier :)
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 The best way is to keep yourself busy with friends and activities in your life. Spending time with others I have found to be the best thing and then eventually the memories of the ex will fade out of your mind.
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 movies,music and hanging out with your friends will help but it will take time
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): This is kind of silly, but it helped me. I would take my hand and "gather up" all of the thoughts floating around my head and then smash them all together and then throw them away. I think that doing the physical act of destroying them distracted me or something. In the beginning, I would do it several times per day, then less and less as I would go longer periods without thinking of him. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): Keep busy, go out with friends. If any of your friends talk about him, change the subject and politely tell them that you don't want to talk about him.
Get a new hobby, do some voluntary work, this helped me when i was going through a similar thing and it really helped. Get outdoors, excercise makes you feel 100% better.
Everytime you think about him, force yourself to think about other things. What i used to do was keep a rubber band round my wrist and everytime i thought about something i shouldn't i snapped it againt my wrist, it hurt, a lot, and after you do that a few times it really works.
There is no magic cure, and you won't just suddenly stop thinking about it over night, but by keeping busy and doing other things it will speed up the process and improve your life at the same time.
Good luck x
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (30 October 2010):
Don't think of an elephant, don't think of an elephant, don't think of an elephant. What are you thinking of?
My point is - If you try not to think about something, you will think about it.
The way to get over someone and stop thinking about them is to move on with your life. By that, I mean, fill your life with other things. Invest more in your friendships, organise going out with them... have lots of fun. Take up a new hobby. Do that and you will find yourself thinking less of this guy.. and eventually, you'll suddenly realise that you don't think about him any longer.
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