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anonymous
writes:Iam Chinese but I grew up here! I have a American boyfriend. who iam datinG for one year! I love him. He doesn't work since I met him. He uses drugs and drinks every night and when I tell him to stop using drugs and drinking he tells me you have no faith for me. But iam tired giving him money for stupid stuff and when I don't give him money he tells me I don't belong in this country, white human trash, that I don't know how tocommunicate and that he needs a strong American women it doesn't look like he will ever change! Please help me what should I do?
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 The guy is a loser. Get rid of him as soon as possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Do NOT warn this man you are leaving. Find out the address of an active Woman's Shelter (with a vacancy) for abused woman and situated near you. The city Library may know how to find one. Because the addresses are not always published. Get your identity papers and put them in your purse. And walk out with your purse and bag, as if you are going to the store. But go straight to the woman's shelter for abused women. Because most of all, for your personal safety, you need to get out now.You may have to leave your clothes and many of your posessions behind.This abusive man is dangerous.You have no relationship with this man,You are valuable to him only because you act as his mother - giving him money when he needs it.Never fill the role of his mother to a man. He is treating you as his money purse.Not as a person.For the last 12 months you have wasted all that time on this moron. It's a wake up call for you to never put up with anything like this man ever again.I am shocked that you have put up with such bad behavior from a man. You need to improve your self esteem so you never again allow a man to treat you like this, ever again.You deserve much better respect from aman.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Leave him! He's an addict and you are enabling his addiction. Walk away and let him get help for his problems.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (4 December 2010):
Wow you have found yourself a really great boyfriend there, you must be so proud. But seriously, you ask what you should do. Find yourself a decent human being as a boyfriend.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Leave him before you get emotionally and financially drained.
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