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writes:I was in love with a boy since my high-school days...we wanted to get married o.ce we grow up with our parents consent. we even made love many times..we were so much in love. but things didn't turn up as we had expected. he met an accident and is no longer with me. it has taken 2 years for me to look forward to a happy and promising life ahead. but there is still a problem.what was sheer love for me back then has become a challenge for me now. I our society, pre-marital sex is forbidden. no guy would accept me. even if I don't disclose my past to him, he will certainly come to know this after marriage. what should I do? Is there any way to fake virginity? I have searched the internet but could not find anything helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): yes this is indeed a tough one. i will not advocate lying bec it means that i am adding to the hypocracy.
you say that your previous bf met an accident and that he passed away?? can u not explain this to your potential hb. it is sad that u want to lie, i understand it but it does not make it ok. it means that you have no respect fro your hb and that is sad. lying about ones virginity is actually a moral crime.
just my thoughts, take it or not. your "past" will be found out and then what. if you start your marriage with lies, what do you actually have then?
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000  +, writes (29 November 2010):
That is a tough one. Like you said, premarital sex is forbidden especially in my community. However, it is not a rare thing as sex before marriage had already crept in. There is a way you can get back your virginity if you like. I heard of many girls who had sex when they were studying and lost theirs. They said that they went to a doctor and did a procedure in which their hymen was sewed back in.
Maybe you can find out if that procedure takes place in your country. If not, then I think you are just going to have to tell your husband one day. If he truly loves you he will understand. It will be tough because there is nothing worse than breaking a man's pride as being married to a virgin is somewhat an honour and virginity is considered precious and sacred.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): That's easy you just tell him you're a virgin. That's how you fake it. If he asks you why didn't you bleed, then you say lots of women don't bleed, if he asks why don't you have a hymen you say you lost it riding a bike, or inserting a tampon when you were a kid.
I don't think you should though, I don't think you should lie to your husband and start a marriage based on one big lie.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (29 November 2010):
It is a shame you can't be honest about your past but if you do want to keep it a secret then just don't tell anyone about your past.
There is no real way a man is going to know you're not a virgin.
When you first have sex just pretend to be extra shy and afraid of what it might feel like. Tell him you have never done anything sexual before and ask him will he make sure he goes slowly.
If you can act like you've never done it before, there is a very good chance that he won't know that you've had sex before. Just make sure that if you do decide to lie to him that he never finds out the truth.
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