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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few days short of 2 years. We live in seperate cities, and both have fairly busy lives between work and social lives, so we only usually see each other on weekends and occasional public holidays. We skype each other every night we don't see each other though. When we started dating, we had a fairly good sex life - not perfect, but fairly good. As of lately though, he never seems to be able to enjoy sex. I'm the only one that ever orgasms, and he generally just masturbates me to completion, and he goes soft in the meantime. He never initiates anything sexual, which is a little frustrating, because I have a fairly high sex drive.Everything else goes quite well with us, but that lack of a proper sex life is really frustrating, especially after with everything else going so well. What can I do to help him understand that?
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (30 October 2010):
In answering your final question.. could you show him this webpage? You seem to have explained yourself well.
Other than that I would say you need to try and make sure you have "couple" time as a priority, i.e. make the time for it. You could also discuss fantasies and see if you are able to explore any of these.
Also just because he doesn't initiate doesn't mean he doesn't want to have sex.. some people are just a bit more shy and find it hard.
Above all it seems though you need to have an honest and open conversation about it all.. without attributing blame.. just get to the route of the issue and then work through it.
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