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My soon-to-be wife has unrespectful teenage children. The situation straightens for only a few days every time I try to correct it.
Q. I need some advise from anyone who will provide so that its coming from others besides me. My question is.... My soon to be wife has two children. They talk to her with no respect..they yell at her...backtalk, and if she tells them no, they question ...
A. 9 January 2008: Well, I am sure that your fiance is just as frustrated with the bad behavior of her children as you are. But I would like to make a suggestion. I think that you should have a private discussion with her about the issue of discipline and her ... (read in full...)
My cheating husband, turning it around
Q. I just found out my husband cheated. I discovered and accessed a secret email acct and saw he had a profile on adult friend finder and replies to postings on craigslist, most recently while away for work w/ a call girl. I confronted him, he denied ...
A. 7 January 2008: You are absolutely right he is the one that should be making an effort to make things better in your marriage. It sounds like your husband is looking for a reason to blame you and to shift the responsibility of his actions. I am sure that you are ... (read in full...)
He's married, we have a baby together, he's not stringing me along is he?
Q. I have a 2 month old daughter, I love my childs father with all my heart and I want us to be a family. However, he is married. His wife called me the day after I had my child, and told me that they were still together and he was living under her ...
A. 4 January 2008: It is very obvious that this guy does not have any plans to leave his wife to be with you. He is definately stringing you along. If you really want to have a family you need to move on because that is something that he can not give you. He already ... (read in full...)
Should I stay broken up for good?
Q. so tonight i was out with my friend and i deceided to stop by my boyfriends friends house on the way home just to see if he was there and say hi. well i drove up and saw his car so i pulled along side of it. then! he took off driving in his car as ...
A. 4 January 2008: I think you have made a very smart decision. You walked away and saved yourself a lot of headaches in the long run. This guy is no good for you. He is a liar and a cheat you deserve better.... (read in full...)
I want to go on with my life, but I do not know how.
Q. ok.i went out with my ex for five years, we have child together, bought a house together,live together obviously, i left him (for certain reasons). few weeks after i left him, he had another girlfriend, after a few months they got engaged, she's now ...
A. 3 January 2008: I am a little confused are you and this guy still together, and living together? Or is he with her now engaged and you are just messing around from time to time with him? ... (read in full...)
How do I act within this situation?
Q. Heya this is not much of a question but a problem that could be answered. I split with my bf the week before xmas and we were really close after 5 months and were getting with each other since january 07. we split he says because of all of the ...
A. 3 January 2008: It sounds to me like he has already made his decision and has moved on. I think it would be wise for you to do the same.... (read in full...)
We argue non-stop. Is my marriage over?
Q. Hi! Hoping someone might be able to give me some advice... I've been married for just over 4 years and we were together for 2 years before this. We've always had quite an erratic relationship - we're both very stubborn, and arguments have alway...
A. 2 January 2008: I think that when it is time to move on you will know. Marriage is hard work and two small children do not make life any easier. I suggest that you think about what it is that is making you unhappy and try and talk with your husband on what can be ... (read in full...)
How can I help her through this pregnancy?
Q. Hello All, i'm new here and have some questions: First of All I'm 32 and my Girlfriend is 30. We've been together 3 1/2 months, and just recently found out she's pregnant. Everything has been going great, planning a future and things for us and the ...
A. 2 January 2008: I was an emotional mess the first few months of my pregnancy. My most vivid memories were the toilet and crying. I think that maybe you can give her a little time to get used to the idea of being a parent and having her life change. This has ... (read in full...)
The Salty Coffee....a love story I read about.
Q. This is not my own work.This is from a guy's profile in one of the dating sites that I am a member of. I did ask him for permission if I can put this story on my blog as I find the story trully sweet and romantic. and wishes people to read it.and ...
A. 2 January 2008: What a great story!... (read in full...)
Am I in love or only feeling jealous of her moving on? Why are my mind and heart going in thousands of directions?
Q. I would like to know if I am still in love or is it just being hurt. Please let me explain. My ex and I broke up 5 months ago, after 7 years, because I cheated on her with a friend of hers. I know I am a very bad person and I pray all the time...
A. 28 December 2007: Love is confusing. I had an issue in my relationship a long time ago. I was upset, I was hurt and I was confused all at the same time so i called my mom and she gave me some really good advice, that I would like to share with you. I was on my way ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking there is more to this??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for five years. We recently moved in together after 2 years in a long distance relationship. I'll get straight to the point. I found some pictures of this girl in his phone and asked him who she was. He told me ...
A. 28 December 2007: I do not understand why he will not talk to you. Even if he will not talk make him listen, and tell him exactly how you feel. Maybe it is best that he doesn't talk you will not have any interruptions. I do not suggest an ultimatum but if he is not ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he just likes me for me or because we make out? I'm invisible when his friends are near.
Q. Dear Cupid, I like this boy, and sometimes we make out but when he is with is friends, Im just an invisible line... How can I get im to notice me even more, and treat me like is girlfriend? And how do I know i e just likes me because im prett...
A. 27 December 2007: Stop making out with him until he starts treating you the way you want to be treated. Let him know that you want some attention and you want to be more than just some girl he makes out with. Sometimes you simply have to ask for what you want. If he ... (read in full...)
Do the loudness and moans mean a higher level of enjoyment during sex?
Q. My gf and I just had sex for the first time. Does the loudness and the amount of noises and moans mean a higher level of enjoyment? Do moans mean that I am satisfying her sexually?...
A. 27 December 2007: Most of the time a moan can mean that she is enjoying it and you are doing a good job. However, toooooo much moaning could mean she is faking.... (read in full...)
Am I in love or only feeling jealous of her moving on? Why are my mind and heart going in thousands of directions?
Q. I would like to know if I am still in love or is it just being hurt. Please let me explain. My ex and I broke up 5 months ago, after 7 years, because I cheated on her with a friend of hers. I know I am a very bad person and I pray all the time...
A. 27 December 2007: If you are keeping such close contact with her what has stopped you from going back? I wouldn't call you a bad person for cheating with her friend but your actions were bad. Everyone makes mistakes. If you are still in love with this women and she ... (read in full...)
A younger lady is doing everything possible to ruin my happy home, even calling ME. What do I do?
Q. i have been married for almost 6yrs now. it has been a very happy one, blessed with two boys. recently, my hubby met a younger lady of about 21yrs. i know my hubby loves me, but this younger lady is doing everything possible to ruin my happy home. ...
A. 27 December 2007: This women is doing everything to ruin your happy home???? I think your husband may have had a little to do with it. How did she get your numbers? Have you thought maybe he was having an affair with this women? Sounds shady to me. I think you need ... (read in full...)
He still cares about his ex, but why can't he be bothered with me?
Q. I have been married for 5 months, been together 2.5 yrs and have a 14 month old child. Prior to that, my husband was with a woman for 10 years, they had a kind of friends relationship with on/off sex but he clearly doted on her, she can do no wrong ...
A. 27 December 2007: To be honest I am shocked. I am shocked that your husband expects for you to be happy with a box of chocolates for Christmas. Not to mention the fact that he brought the same box for his ex-girfriend. To be honset with you I would hold off on that ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom I was sexually abused by my dad? Will I ever have a healthy relationship with a man? Is it bad I live with my parents still? (returning home after my husband's abuses.)
Q. ok...i was sexually abused when i was 6 till i was 17... the few people ive told said i need to tell my mom... and ive been reading other peoples advice on here...most said to tell the mom too....but i cant. i cant do that to her... its been 6 year...
A. 27 December 2007: Hello Again,
I think you should go off post to find a therapist and/or a support group. It will be very good for you and I am confident that things will get better in every aspect of your life once you let out all those feelings you have bottled ... (read in full...)
I refuse to be a friend with benefits. I want a proper relationship. How do I tell him I'm still in love with him?
Q. Me and my ex broke up the beginning of November. We was together close to 7 months. We stopped talking and I truly thought it was over. I was working on moving on. Been a long hard road tho cuz I can honestly say with him it was true love. Im 25 ...
A. 27 December 2007: I think it is a good idea to be very cautious withthis guy. Talk to him and be clear about what you wnat from him. You have made it very obvious that you want to be more than friends and it is important that you make that very clear for him and get ... (read in full...)
I'm leaving my husband because he had a 2 yr affair with my sister, a long time ago. People don't know the true reason and incriminate me for the break up. Should I forgive him instead?
Q. I've been married for 18 years, no kids. Ten years ago, I found out that my sister and husband had had sex, once. I forgave them.... and none of us talked about it again. It was very painful as I had no one to talk to about it at the time... ...
A. 27 December 2007: I really feel for you. You are going through a very tough situation and to be honest I think you are being very nice about a situation that can otherwise be very ugly. You do not want to hurt him or your sister which is great. If it were me I ... (read in full...)
Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?
Q. I have been with my husband for eleven years now, and although things are fairly good between us, he has developed a crush on another woman. He met her on a weekend away with the boys in the middle of summer, and has been sending odd messages her...
A. 27 December 2007: There isn't that much trust in the world. There is no way I would allow my husband to go away with another women. The issue isn't trust it is respect. Did he invite you to come along? If they are just friends then why arent you going? It sounds to ... (read in full...)
I'm leaving my husband because he had a 2 yr affair with my sister, a long time ago. People don't know the true reason and incriminate me for the break up. Should I forgive him instead?
Q. I've been married for 18 years, no kids. Ten years ago, I found out that my sister and husband had had sex, once. I forgave them.... and none of us talked about it again. It was very painful as I had no one to talk to about it at the time... ...
A. 27 December 2007: I think you are making the right decision by leaving. But I am wondering why you feel the need to protect them after what they did to you. Your husband and sister are the ones who should be embarassed not you you were the victim here. To be honest ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom I was sexually abused by my dad? Will I ever have a healthy relationship with a man? Is it bad I live with my parents still? (returning home after my husband's abuses.)
Q. ok...i was sexually abused when i was 6 till i was 17... the few people ive told said i need to tell my mom... and ive been reading other peoples advice on here...most said to tell the mom too....but i cant. i cant do that to her... its been 6 year...
A. 26 December 2007: Dear Jenny,
After reading your post I will make an attempt to give you some good advice. The first thing I think you need to do is get some counseling. Right now relationships with men is not what is important, but your peace of mind is. The type... (read in full...)
Should I continue having an affair or be sexually stressed?
Q. I have been married for 7 years. Both of us are 33. I love my wife a lot and she is very good wife to me. We have two kids. However, our sex life is almost dead. In most cases once in two or three months. I have high sexual derive and sexually ...
A. 26 December 2007: Usually a bad-sex life is a sure sign that there is a bigger more important issue going on in your marriage. So, if I were you i would try figuring out what that issue is and try to correct it. You said you do not want a divorce so why not try and ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking there is more to this??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for five years. We recently moved in together after 2 years in a long distance relationship. I'll get straight to the point. I found some pictures of this girl in his phone and asked him who she was. He told me ...
A. 26 December 2007: I do not think you did anything wrong. If she is his BestFriend I would like to think it would be a good idea for him to introduce you and be hopeful that you two will get along. Her reaction to your friend request indicates that there is something ... (read in full...)
What are her intentions? Please help!
Q. I'm in the military and married my high school sweetheart whom I am more in love with today than I have ever been. We have been together about 7 years and married for almost 4 years. We both cheated when we were "kids" and just dating, but we have ...
A. 26 December 2007: I personally can relate to your how your wife is feeling. My husband sometimes has to go away for work 7-9 months at a time in some cases. It is a very hard life to live. It is very lonely, letters and email, or a phone call can not replace the man ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my boyfriend and his brother. What should I do?
Q. I have a confusing situation going on right now in my love life. It all started about 8 months ago at a party when i hooked up with a guy named John whom I knew but never really thought about it THAT way. After we hooked up, it was a little awk...
A. 26 December 2007: Good, I hope everything works out for you.... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to bother about me, but I'm always here for him. Any advice?
Q. Well I've been dating a guy on and off for 4yrs. The relationship we have is pretty much weird. We're not boyfriend girlfriend. Because that's the way I guess he wants it. He calls me when he wants to which is usually after hours in the am. I've h...
A. 24 December 2007: Sounds to me like you do know. This guy is using you. Whatever happened to dating????? A movie, a nice dinner, going to a show? If the only time this guy is calling you is late at night then I think you have the answer to your question. Leave him, ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my boyfriend and his brother. What should I do?
Q. I have a confusing situation going on right now in my love life. It all started about 8 months ago at a party when i hooked up with a guy named John whom I knew but never really thought about it THAT way. After we hooked up, it was a little awk...
A. 24 December 2007: Forget about your boyfriends brother that is a no,no. If you are truly happy with your boyfriend then you should not be having those type of thoughts anyhow. Maybe it is not a good idea for all of you to hang out together, at least until you get ... (read in full...)
Should I give up my house to be with her?
Q. I'm in a semi-long distance relationship(80 miles), we've been together for almost 2 years. I'm torn from a couple issues. We met on a dating site, she was married and that was in her profile. We began chatting and finally did a meet, in fact a ...
A. 24 December 2007: I hate to say it but if you and this women have plans to be together then there are going to have to be some sacrifices on both parts. It is not fair to either of you to sacrifice everything while the other doesn't have to. Maybe you and her should ... (read in full...)
Is my relationship over? Should we give up?
Q. Is my relationship over? We've been togethr for 12 years but my partner no longer finds me sexually attractive. We are and have always been the best of friends, our relationship has never been based around sex but now my partnber can't bear the ...
A. 24 December 2007: From what I am reading it sounds like you want to make this relationship work. That is a good sign if she is just as dedicated to making the relationship work as you are. I truly believe that when one person doesn't want to be touched by the other ... (read in full...)
Me and the ex are still having sex but I cant tell if he still loves me.
Q. I split up with my boyfirend four months ago. We still have sex with each other even though he has a new girlfriend. I still love him and want him back. How can i tell if he still have feelings for me? what should i do?...
A. 24 December 2007: To answer your question he probably does have feelings for you but the more important question is what kind of feelings. He has already moved on and has a new girlfriend so the chances of him leaving her to get back with you are very slim. If he ... (read in full...)
He told lots of people about my pregnancy and I feel very hurt about it. Am I right in thinking this was a betrayal and what can I do to get over it?
Q. This time last year, I discovered I was pregnant. I am in my late 30s, my boyfriend is 10 years younger, we'd been together for 9 months at that point. I was horrified. I did a test at work and immediately told my boyfriend. He met me in a ba...
A. 24 December 2007: You have every right to be upset with him. Your pregnancy should have been private if that was what you requested from him. If you have to work with him just keep it professional and move on with your life. This guy is an insensitive jerk and he ... (read in full...)
Help! Major college change question
Q. I'm a student in college- and seem to be having a hard ime in classes. I belive most of it is just that I need to take this statistics class in order to graduate, and I'm TERRIBLE at math. I know I'm failing the class. I've been passionate about ...
A. 19 December 2007: If you are terrible in Math a Nursing degree does require some Math and Chemistry involves a lot of math also I am sure you will have to take college level Chemistry. That was my hardest class, and I hate math. However maybe you could get some ... (read in full...)
Ideas for a special present for my boyfriend?
Q. wel basically im with my boyfriend a year dis cuming sunday.. i wanted make sum tin special . i alread made a scrap book wi lil tngs in it eg pictures letters etc. i already got a picture frame with two of us, im jus wondering if der is anyt...
A. 19 December 2007: I think the scrap book was a great idea. That is a great gift so anything else that you add will just be extra.... (read in full...)
Isn't it unacceptable to expect a married (or even single) woman (teacher) to share a hotel room with a man-colleague on a business trip? Am I old fashioned?
Q. This question and asking for opinions is coming from me and my husband. I am a new teacher, I waited until our kids were all in school to go to college. I am a reading specialist, and received an opportunity to attend a 3 day seminare in anot...
A. 19 December 2007: I agree with you and your husband 100%. How can they expect for you to share a room with a man, that is unreasonable and if I were you I would not let this go. There will be other trips and this needs to be addresssed before it happens again and you ... (read in full...)
I have just moved in together with my long distance partner, and paradoxically we're still distant. How do I bridge this distance? Does he really love me?
Q. I met a man and we had a long distance relationship for over five years while we settled our divorces and children's issues. We have just now both relocated to a new state and moved in together. He is adjusting to his new job and I have been setting ...
A. 19 December 2007: I think that Phil gave you a very good advice try getting involved with a something aside from domestic responsibilities. Make some friends, join a gym anything to get your mind off of the move and your boyfriend. I think that will help your mood, ... (read in full...)
Am I just setting myself up for another painful episoide?
Q. A few months agoI have asked help on how to deal with a man i have been chatting online with for 18 months as he had seemed to have pulled away. I found out later that he had met a girl and that he had been looking at houses in my country to move...
A. 19 December 2007: Yes, I beleive this guy is playing a game stringing you along. I agree with your sister and bestfriend. I would stay away. This other woman contacting you was definately a sign that she is still very much involved in his life and whether his kids ... (read in full...)
Can a man have blonde body hair?
Q. Hi, not a problem here, just a question, looking for input from all you guys/girls out there. One of my wife's friends mentioned the other day that she ran into Bob, a guy my wife dated before me. When my wife told me Bob was asking about her...
A. 19 December 2007: My son is a red-hed. He has red hair all over his arms, legs, private parts. But his eyebrows are really dark brown. How strange is that?... (read in full...)
I deceived a married man to get me pregnant and he wants to be there for us, but I don't want him near us unless he leaves his wife, what is the right thing for me to do in this situation?
Q. I'm a single mom who had been seeing a married man for two years before his wife found out. After she found out, he broke it off with me, and we were both devestated. Then I called him a few times, and we started to see each other again, but ...
A. 19 December 2007: Lets be honest here if you had not intended for him to find out you wouldn't have told him. I do not want to seem harsh or mean but I am simply giving you my honest opinion on your situation. I put myself in your shoes and I am sure this must be ... (read in full...)
Can my ex husband stop paying maintenance without the court's approval?
Q. I divorsed my husband 10 years ago. We had a court agreement in which he agreed to pay maintenance for both children. One is now grown up and quite rightly, he has stopped paying for him. For the past 10 months he has stopped paying for the second ...
A. 18 December 2007: This man is supposed to financially support his child knowmatter what! Take him to court!!!... (read in full...)
How do you handle child swearing?
Q. I just received custody of my 2 1/2 old Granddaughter. She has a bad a habit of using a bad word when she gets angry. I know she is missing her parents right now and she probably just acting out, but how do I stop her from using bad words. I tell ...
A. 18 December 2007: My son did the same thing at that age and everyone would go OOOOOOOHHHH he said a curse. So I told everyone when he says a bad word do not act so amused and I would say to him that is not how we speak to each other in this house and 2 minutes in the ... (read in full...)
I deceived a married man to get me pregnant and he wants to be there for us, but I don't want him near us unless he leaves his wife, what is the right thing for me to do in this situation?
Q. I'm a single mom who had been seeing a married man for two years before his wife found out. After she found out, he broke it off with me, and we were both devestated. Then I called him a few times, and we started to see each other again, but ...
A. 18 December 2007: Like it or not she is your childs step-mother!!!! When your child is with dad she will probably be the one who feeds and bathe your baby. If you do not give him visitation the courts will. So get used to it, and if you fight with him over visitation ... (read in full...)
I deceived a married man to get me pregnant and he wants to be there for us, but I don't want him near us unless he leaves his wife, what is the right thing for me to do in this situation?
Q. I'm a single mom who had been seeing a married man for two years before his wife found out. After she found out, he broke it off with me, and we were both devestated. Then I called him a few times, and we started to see each other again, but ...
A. 18 December 2007: I would first like to adress the anonymous female reader who was the first to reply to this post, how can you tell this women that she has done nothing wrong. Since when is sleeping with someone elses husband or boyfriend become OK. This issue is ... (read in full...)
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