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Q. I had a baby 3 months ago. I just found out I am pregnant again. I am happy because I wanted my daughter to have a sibling close in age to play with etc. I feel that it will make her happier, I also really love being a mom. I am not married to t...
A. 27 July 2007: I disagree with the person who believes that there is nothing wrong with having children out of wedlock. There is something very wrong with that concept. SEX, creates children not families. Marriage creates a family. If this man loves you, instead ... (read in full...)
How can I stop having sex with my brother? I know it's wrong and I know it has to stop, I just don't know how!
Q. My parents went away for the weekend and my brother and I threw a party. After a wild night of drinking and everyone had left we made an attempt at cleaning up. We started messing about throwing stuff and toy fighting until he held me down and ...
A. 27 July 2007: I am amazed at how many people have actually had sex with siblings...... (read in full...)
I love him but part of me wants to break up with him as his parents dont like me!
Q. Recently, I found out that my boyfriend's parents... have discontempt for me. His mother told him "she's not good enough for you" and his father, on no real basis, thinks I'm a "druggie". Which I am not, just to state. I don't understand what I did ...
A. 27 July 2007: Relationships are hard enough without issues from family members. But how long have you and this guy been dating maybe there is still a chance for his parents to change their mind about you. Maybe you guys just got off on the wrong foot. Give them a ... (read in full...)
Should i teach my friend?
Q. I have a friend that i like. He is 12 and i am 16. is it ok to teach him how to have sex and give blowjobs and have sex and how to make out and how to drink pee and other stuff? Also, I have not gone through puberty yet. Should i be worried?...
A. 27 July 2007: NO. For you to even consider something like that suggest that you are not his friend. Having sex is serious, it is not a game that you should practice. His first time is supposed to be special and with someone he loves and is committed to. At 12 ... (read in full...)
My wife has gone to be with her terminally ill mum, but shes not a care for me, Ive got problems too!!
Q. my wifes mother has terminal cancer and she has gone to be with her which is what i wanted for her to do. The only thing is that i feel that im out of sight out of mind i have an eye problem and could go blind with in 5 years started treatment but ...
A. 27 July 2007: I understand that you are going through some difficulties but I think you are being a bit selfish. Losing a mother is one of the hardest things that a person can live through. Please try and be a little understanding and supportive of your wife, you ... (read in full...)
My fiancee keeps threatening to break up with me
Q. My fiancee keeps threatening to end the relationship if he doesnt have things his way. We have been together for 4 yrs. Recently, he found out about that his job has an opening in a diff country, and Im not in favor for this because just 6mt...
A. 26 July 2007: If he is acting in this manner now it will only get worst when you get married. Cut your losses and get out of this relationship. I know it sounds easier than it really is but you need to concentrate on what makes you happy.
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My married guy and I are so in love...and I want him all to myself. But how can we do that without hurting others?
Q. I have been seeing a married guy for 10mths now I am 24 and he is 40 and its really intense we spend 2 or so hours talking on the phone every night and see one another at work everyday, we spend a few hours after work with one another and every ...
A. 26 July 2007: There is no way, that you can continue this relationaship without hurting someone. The sad part is more than likely the person to get hurt will either be you or his wife. What kind of man leaves his wife and kids for another woman? What is so great ... (read in full...)
I am having trouble trusting my boyfriend not to cheat
Q. My boyfriend has history of being a serious player. He has cheated on every one of his previous girlfriends but he says everything is different with me, its been a while and he's been faithful but I still can't completely trust him. I've told him of ...
A. 26 July 2007: I am a firm believer that you should trust someone until they give you a reason not to. Give him a chance, do not ruin a good relationship over his past its not fair to him or you. You could be missing out on a good thing. "Dance like no-ones wat... (read in full...)
Does race matter?
Q. Hi im wandering about a year ago i got into girls but its really hard for me to get even close to starting something. i know a girl luran thats really nice but i dont have a chance as she is black and im white so that may not go but were good ...
A. 26 July 2007: Race does not matter,we are all human. Love comes in all shapes and sizes and colors.If you like this girl it sounds like you are on the right track starting out as friends. But, you do not want to get stuck in the friendship zone so just wait until ... (read in full...)
Should I send my ex a birthday card?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend 15 months ago. He was the love of my life. We slept together twice after we broke up. He then met someone else in Jan and she moved into his house for four months. They split up after she began going through his ...
A. 26 July 2007: I think you should. But do not expect for him to come running and for you guys to live happily ever after, send him a card out of the kindness of your heart not b/c you want to win him back. Who knows maybe he will one day wake up and realize he ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...
A. 25 July 2007: I would love to help, I am not sure how long I have been logging in but I am available at least 4 days a week. So keep me in mind.... (read in full...)
Brother's new girlfriend is expecting, should I tell my ex sister in law?
Q. Please help! My brother cheated on his wife. She found out, patched it up, but made his life unbearable. He left and went back to the other women 9 months ago. We didn't know until he announced they were having a baby due now! My brother and ex-w...
A. 25 July 2007: I agree with the above answers. Tell her. If you consider her a friend tell her, if she is just your brothers wife then stay out of it but if you and her are FRIENDS tell her. I went through a similiar situation and to this day I hate my in-laws for ... (read in full...)
Is this a relationship worth pursuing or am I just wasting my time?
Q. I Have been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now, 4 or 5 times a week and we mostly enjoy ourselves, we phone every night,we have a good sex life and share all or interests. There are problems that prevent us from taking our relationship a ...
A. 19 July 2007: I do not agree with the answer that I just read, obviously you are looking for more of a commitment. You need to express this to your significant other. I do not think it is a good idea to settle for whatever he is willing to give you, but you do ... (read in full...)
I bleed every time we have sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I just recently started having sex and everytime we do, I end up bleeding! I thought it was normal the first time but now I'm starting to think there's something wrong with me because I always start bleeding whenever we try to have ...
A. 19 July 2007: You should go to your gyn because the bleeding ould be a sign of a problem or it could be nothing either way check it out.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I have caused him too much pain by not trusting him
Q. I have been in 3yr relationship w/my boyfriend.I have been very untrusting of him.He told me several times to stop but I didn't and now because of my trust issues I have driven him away, he won't be affectionate at all to me, says I've hurt him and ...
A. 18 July 2007: Sometimes I get jealous about my husband but I tried something and it works. Sit down with him and you guys write a letter to each other about the things that you love most about him and vice versa this will confirm some of the things that you ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to have sex with another girl and now wants me back
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 16 year old female. I have been dating the same guy for about 2 years now. We get along great and we really love each other. But he is afraid of commitment, so when he gets scared or needs space he just breaks up with me. But ...
A. 18 July 2007: In my opinion this guy is playing both sides of the fence, to be honest it seems like he breaks up with you to see other girls, he is not ready for a relationship. Do yourself a favor and tell him "you need some space" or "maybe I should explore ... (read in full...)
Can anybody give me some advice to as why my ex abusive partner does not approach me when we split up and apologize even when he knows that he was in the wrong?
Q. Can anybody give me some advice to as why my ex abusive partner does not approach me when we split up and apologize even when he knows that he was in the wrong? We have had a stormy realationship for many years and he has been emotionally and ...
A. 5 July 2007: Most of the time when someone doesn't apologize is because they do not see anything wrong with their behavior. Therefore, your ex has a serious problem if he thinks that it is ok to emotionally and/or physically abuse someone, especially the woman ... (read in full...)
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