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writes:My mom and dad found out about me havin sex, now they are not talkin to me, when i try to, they ignore me..i just cant cope with it no more, i thought that they wud understand..but i guess not=(.. help me plz!!xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): I may be wrong but I'd be open for opinions of people who have children! I think it's like this, every one of us recoil in horror when we think of our parents having sex. Any sex at all. It just seems so disgusting. (urg, get that image out of your head!!!.. See??) I imagine it's like that with parents too. They are just shocked and want to block it out of their minds. Probably. They will get over it eventually. Talk to them. Good luck!
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reader, Reebe +, writes (13 January 2007):
 Well very parent likes to think of their children being innocent, and you are young and shouldn't be having sex anyway, but you have done it now, you don't say if this is with one guy or different guys. I thin they are shocked and upset. You need to speak to them, maybe just your mum or dad which ever one you think will understand more and explain how you are feeling, and that you can't do anything to take back what you've done. Talk through with them how you are feeling. They will come around and if you make the effort to smooth things over with them then maybe they will realise you are growing up.
If you are having sex with different guys please stop save yourself for someone special it will be worth it. Good Luck and be safe.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (13 January 2007):
 I think your parents are just shocked by your actions. Although you're young to be having sex plenty of people do at your age. I would approach them and show them that you're being mature (taking contraceptives, using condoms etc) If you're not doing this visit your doctor and get some advice asap to be safe. Also tell them how much you love the person you're having sex with and how you understand it's not something to be taken lightly. Hopefully if you can show them that you're being mature about sex they'll try a little harder to understand. That said, at your age please be sure you want to be having sex and don't just feel pressured into it and make sure you're aware of all the consequences. Hope this helps.
CD
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 Your parents are just surprised that's all, they might be a bit disapointed that you never came to them first, when my mom found out about me I was 14 and she walked in on me. so if that didn't happen to you your lucky. i was ready to die. But after a few days of me saying how sorry i was, she was still a bit disapointed in me for not talking to her first, but she came to terms with the fact that i was having sex now, and she wanted me to make sure that i was taking care of my self. so your parents are probably just in shock that their baby girl is a growing into a woman. just say to them your sorry that they had to find out in what ever way they found out in and that you should have came to them first. They will be alright soon, you just need to give them time, just think what would you do if you where them, it's hard to find something like that out. Talk to your mom or Dad which ever one your more comfortable talking to this about and just talk to them.
Hope that helps
sweetie
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reader, shania +, writes (13 January 2007):
 My darling,judging by your age you are too young to be having sex.Your parents are shocked and dont know how to approach you....they will in due time come round hopefully but i think that you will find that they are worried about you and feel hurt.They dont want you to have a unwanted pregnancy or a sexual transmitted disease,and that is understandable.You must sit down with your parents and have a good talk.It cant be left like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): They are upset and I can totally understand why they would be. You are under the legal age to have sex with anyone. And not only that but you probably weren't honest with them.
They have probably got a million and one things going through their minds right now so just give them space. They will talk to you eventually because they will want to know what happened and why.
Be honest with them. Good luck x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): They probably dont kno what to say...bit of shock i spose...you were there little inocent girl and now your having sex, it must be quite a step for them.
To be honest you are still pretty young make sure that having sex is what you really want to do...i mean you dont want to do something you regret in the future. Often things you do at this age tend to haunt you a few years later...when its already too late to take them back!
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