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writes:HI!!I am a Pakistani muslim girl of 26 years. My problem is that i recently got devorced from my husband who was a complete jerk. We didn't have any kind of relationship and i only spend 8 days with him. I am now doing my ph.d in genetics and somehow i am very happy that we got devorced. Now the real problem is that i get really angry at my sisters because they dont respect me at all and always saying things which hurt me a lot. I feel very ashamed of myself. We have fights all the times and i feel very insecure for my relationship with my sisters. Its like they teamed up against me. They are unmarried by the way. They say i am going mad and loosing my mind. Please tell me what to do? I feel like crying all the time. Do u think i am going mad????
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 October 2009):
You've no reason to feel ashamed. I wonder if this is more of a case of them being jealous because you're following a dream. Stand up for yourself, continue with your studies and continue with your life.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (24 October 2009):
 There is an old saying - you can pick your friends, not your family. Sound familiar? You have to put this in perspective. You are doing a phd and it may well be the most stressful couple of years (albeit rewarding). I personally think mine nearly drove me to a padded cell (boredom, frustration, ridiculous ideas from useless research-inactive supervisors). Concentrate on your studies as that is your key to financial independence for the future - get a phd and the world is your oyster. Your sisters are probably jealous as you must be bright and you have walked out of a bad marriage showing you are strong enough to assert yourself. If your sisters keep being mean, ignore them and avoid them if you can.
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reader, Zahir_is_burning +, writes (24 October 2009):
 Hi there. well my advise to u would be to just take ur part away from them. I mean u should shift to hostel or somewhere else to have some peace of mind for a while. u just went through hell having secured divorce from ur husband and being still there with ur sister who seems to me doesn't leave any thing untouched to taunt u, u better quickly move out of this place. u r not going mad....just think over my advice.
Good Luck!
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (24 October 2009):
What? you've not written anything that would allow anyone to comment on your mental health. My question is WHY did you marry this man? No relationship? Did you date him, were you two in love? Did you marry against your will? or for the wrong reasons? (Does he have a good job, and simply want a woman to birth his children?)
Are your sisters looking for men to take care of them? Are they old-world, and simply looking for a ticket out of your parents house?
There's NOTHING wrong with continuing your education, and making a life of yourself. if you sisters are ganging up on you, ask yourself if two despriate and envious little girls are coming after you because they wanted what you had. If so, give them his telephone number and wish them well.
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