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writes:OK... If i am 21 can i go out with this girl that is 15 and she loves me and i love her. her parents like me and trust me, they don't mind if i go out with there daughter. I am a Cristian and i wear a purity ring and i am faithful to my promise with God. is it OK. please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): I dont see it as a problem. Sugarbuns, the man said that he is faithful to his promise to God. and if he is strong in his faith then he can avoid the urge to have sex with her. Just make sure that you two go out with friends or to a public place. Use your best friend as an 'accountability partner'(someone that will guide you to better choices and discourage bad choices) that might help you. And people who say its weird, she could be very mature for her age. Guys mature slower. its a proven fact. and if her parents are okay with it, its not considered illegal. theres some law they just passed about that.
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reader, devastated2008 +, writes (29 October 2009):
 No as a Christian it is better to look out for her best interests first. She needs time to grow and mature. And the best way to protect your vows of purity is to avoid temptation to begin with... that ring is only a symbol of your intent. It doesn't protect you or her from anything. She has too many years to go yet before she will be ready for marriage so keep both your options open for a few years.We all face temptations and Christians especially so guard her and yourself well and create a safe boundary. That would be one of the truest expressions of love for her... to look out for her well-being first.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (29 October 2009):
There's simply too big of an age gap here. The one freind of mine that was in a realtionship like this (female) was seriously damaged when the relationship ended, and IMO never recovred. She's not been in a meaningful relationship and is now 35. If you really like this child (she's NOT a woman yet), then back off and let her mature. If you start playing child bride with her, she's not going to develop properly and you'll be damaging her.
If you even think about having ANY physical contact, sex of ANY KIND... you could easily go to prison, and you should know how inmates treat child molesters, especially when they are YOUNG men... a new definition of HELL ON EARTH will unfold for you, and your cell mate probably won't care about your purity ring.
You need to date women of your own age, dating younger girls could backfire when she relaizes (years later) that she gave up formative years and missed out on alot of fun, and want to go back and seek what she didn't get the first time.
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reader, SugarBear +, writes (29 October 2009):
 No dude its not ok at all and you could actually go to jail, her parents can call the police, you can not sleep with her at all, they may think its rape, shes too young and does not get it.. Move on, end it, get out of there, Find someone your own age who has the same maturity and you work with or go to school with.. Seriously the police could get involved, her dad may meet you at the door with a gun some day.....I would have a complete meltdown if she was my kid. Just let her down easy but do it now.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 Why would any 21 yr old man want to date a child? That is strange to me, when you could have a woman your own age. It may be "okay" on the surface to take her out but you are going to be tempted to have sex, and once you cross that line, you're going to need more than a purity ring to keep you out of jail. Her parents may like you now, but once you've had sex with their underage little girl, see how fast they prosecute you to the fullest extent of the law. If I were you, I'd stay away from her until she's 18. You're just playing with fire.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): It's absolutely fine ; No sex should be involved though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): No, it's fine, as long as you're not having sex. :)
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (28 October 2009):
 Ummm...Bit wrong I think...Not only is she illegal, there's a huge mental and physical gap...
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