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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Saturday. My boyfriend went home after lunch at my place, saying he had to change his clothes. He never came back.Sunday morning. He texts saying he had to work. Which is acceptable. He said he was very, very tired and that he was going to take a nap. I reminded him that we had a dinner party with my family at 8pm. He told me he'd be there. I called at 7:30pm and he said he was on his way and that he'd meet me there. He didn't show up, I went alone. I texted him wth happened.Monday (today). He answered. Said that he loved me, that something had happened, that he was still very tired because of his job. I told him I missed him and that I wanted to be with him. He said he was going to rest just for a while and that he'd stop by.Guess what? It's 9pm and he didn't show up. Nor called. So I just texted him "I suppose you're not coming. Have a good night".And I can't decide if I'm more sad or pissed.I never did this to him. The worst I have done is being one hour late because I misread a text (and he made a scene).I understand that he is very tired (he has an exhausting job), but he might as well say he isn't coming.I feel hurt, forgotten and alone.But I don't want to text him too much (I've been sending around 7 texts a day. He answers maybe 3), as I don't want to look clingy nor desperate.What should I do (dump him is not an option, but I'd appreciate suggestions)?
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (19 February 2013):
Stop asking him, since it only results in heartache. If you stop contacting him to ask him to do stuff he'll notice the absence and maybe take a hint and put in more effort for fear of losing you.
OR, you could talk to him!
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reader, R1  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 He is treating you pretty badly. It's one thing not to come over and see you and another to not even tell you he wasn't coming. If you really don't want to dump him then at least give him and yourself some space. Leave your phone at home for a day so you can't text him.
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