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I got my sister pregnant.

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Question - (23 January 2010) 15 Answers - (Newest, 7 January 2011)
A male United Kingdom age , anonymous writes:

I'll give you some background im 22 and i have an 18 year old sister. We've always been really close. When my mom and dad split up she was made to decide where she wanted to live. I had already moved out and got an appartment so to spite our parents i said she could come and live with me.

They were fine with it and they both ended up with new partners and well we kinda got diched out of there little family we didnt like there new partners. Anyway i did the cooking she did the cleaning and she slept on a blow up matrus and i had my own bed.

One night after a heavy night out we came back to the apparetment in a mess as per usual she was to tired to blow up the matress so she striped off the her underwear and got into my bed i was also drunk and thouigh well im not sleeping on the cold condreet floor. so i had the double bed with her some how in the next 20 minutes or so we both became comepletely naked.

she statred giving me oral sex and i stoped her at first but we didnt talk and when she started doing it again she i didnt stop her. We had full blown sex for a cupple of hours with out protection.

in the morning neither of us wanted to think about what had happened we just put it down to a weird experience and laughed about it.

Some time later she sat me down she was as white as a ghost she said. I Pregnent she did two tests to make sure but she was. We had made a baby its noy 6 weeks on. What the hell do we do?

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A female reader, friendly advice United States +, writes (7 January 2011):

to be honest i think you should raise the child after all it is yours no matter who you had the baby with and i wouldnt worry about the birth defect thing incest only increases the chances of birth defects but still the numbers r very slim i trust your both responsible and please do the right thing

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010):

I think that you both should consider an abortion as it was an unplanned messy mistake.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010):

dude if she just a step sister its ok BUT if she ur REAL sister ur screwed

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010):

put into consideration that the child might have birth defects. if your ok with that and can finantionally stablize a 'healthy' environment then i guess it's ok. idk. but also think about how you would explain to your child what happened between you to. it's never going to go away because of you two being related and all. you just need to really think about what your doing and think about the baby first not what you two want.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010):

Hey! People?!?! For goodness sake! Whats wrong with you? You can't just tell this guy to "Get an ABORTION!!!" it is absolutely his choice. And I'm sorry for the poster....but I think if we influenced him in anyway we could be responsible for: 1. either destroying a sibling relationship, or 2. condeming a childs life. I don't think we can have a say in this...and yes - you are in a very bad situation, but YOU need to decide on this along with your sister, I would feel horrible if posters said to me to get an abortion...but it doesn't make it wrong. All I'm saying is do what you think is right. For the sake of everyone, including the baby. Does a foetus have a right to live? I think so...but is it right to bring it into a family were the parents are siblings? It's up to you.

One more point I would like to make is, be strong...if you choose to get an abortion, it will upset everyone of course, but it would be done. No turning back. You'll have to accept it. Or, if you keep the baby, you may very well have to support your sister, and what you will tell the kid when it grows up.

I read back and think "I've been a bit harsh" but then my twin sister would say to me "no, you've just laid out the facts"...and I think....well - just be strong.

Kazz

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010):

Hmm this almost doesn't seem real... Anyhow if it is a genuine post then that was a pretty stupid thing to do, drunk or not. What are your feelings on abortion? In this case I would probably suggest this as that child is going to grow up with a very strange and disturbing history. If you do decide to abort, do it sooner rather than later- that way, it is less like a person.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010):

abortion is not the answer!please get to a doctor immediatly and explain the situation, there is no judgement here ok, just very concerned as ow there is a childs life at stake, if there are to be problems or birth defects they should be able to tell you this, the baby must be put up for adoption. You two made a poor choice and now a pregnancy has resulted, not the best thing that could have happened but it did, you right this by seperating yourselves from each other immediatly and by putting the baby up for adoption, God has already written the days of this childs life, it isnt up to you to decide if this child will get to live them out. you do the right things now irregrdless if it was by wrong that you came to this spot. Nothing in your life is beyond redemption. PLEASE do the right thing. get to doctor and start talking about this stuff now!!!!

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (26 January 2010):

eyeswideopen agony auntNope, not buying it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010):

Abort it. While I don't think incest is wrong with two consenting adults...but you two were drunk, not thinking, not being safe and have made a mistake. For a couple hundred bucks you can solve the problem right now. If you let this kid live you have to deal with being outcast from your family for the rest of your lives and you child being an incest baby. Abort, abort, abort.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010):

fake post or not

DO NOT! I REPEAT DO NOT !

GET AN ABORTION!!

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A male reader, baddogbj China +, writes (23 January 2010):

baddogbj agony auntI'm sorry but you should really take immediate action to lose this baby. It is not a nice thing to have to do but in this case it really is the lesser of two evils. Keep some condoms in the house.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010):

Gosh that's terrible. The choice is all yours, and I'm not a bi fan of abortion but that kid's life would be just too messed up mate. May I also suggest you don't just shrug off the issue and speak about this to an advisor be it a shrink or a counsellor or someone wise whom you trust.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010):

Get an abortion. What else can you do? If its not legal in your country, travel outside the country and do it. Google abortion meds.

Err... I'm also thinking fake post because even if you had just slept with a friend, not a sister, you'd have had her take a morning after pill.

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A male reader, NauseaPunk United Kingdom +, writes (23 January 2010):

fakepost fake post! either that or you are from the south US where this sort of behavior is considered normal...lol

on a more serious note if this is genuine, you should of not allowed yourself to get into a position where this sort of thing could have happened, how on earth is it considered acceptable to sleep naked with ur own sister

how are u gonna tell the baby who his mum is when he grows up? you have a lot to think about my friend..

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (23 January 2010):

I don't know what the hell you do either. Sorry, but I'd be quite embarrassed to have to tell my family. And I don't know how you two "laughed off" having sex with one another...waaay awkward. I'm not sure about the laws in the UK, but I know in many states (if not all) incestial relationships with a sibling is illegal. So, whatever you guys decide is between you two. If you decide to keep it, prepare to explain to it why daddy is also his/her uncle and why he/she has only one set of grandparents. Also, there's a higher risk of birth defects with something like this. I'm not promoting abortion or anything, but just consider your options...it's going to be a lot for your family and your child to have to deal with

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