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writes:My boyfriend and I just recently broke up. And before I get all these "Don't do anything! You'll ruin their friendship!" responses, the break up was mutual, so we've decided to stay friends; best friends, in fact, because we know no one knows each other like we do. Anyway, because we broke up pretty gracefully, as the spark and all of the feelings were just completely gone for the both of us, it feels as if we'd never dated. Like, we've just been friends the entire year. But don't get my wrong, I loved him so much before things started to change, but it just died.. Which brings me to my problem. While our relationship was dying, I acquired a crush on his best friend. My 'now' ex knows this, because, well, it's just one of those 'the best friend should know' secrets. And he's told me that he's completely okay with it and that he'd support me to go for it. But he's also told me that it'd be a huge challenge to get him to like me.And that's my problem. How exactly could I do that? I find him really, really attractive, but he's never had a girlfriend before. Which makes it a highly unlikely chance that his first girlfriend would be me.. Not to mention I'm not the prettiest girl in school either.. Also, I'm extremely shy and awkward. I don't even talk to him. I just feel like I can't; it's that bad.Even if my ex has no problem with it, would it still be bad for me to go for it? Could I even do it? How? What should I do?Thanks~
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Well if your ex is cool with it, why not ask him to try and hook you guys up? As in, start conversations with the 3 of you, then work your way to just the 2 of you. My relationship started out that way, more or less. Best of luck to you!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 it's always a tough one to fall for a friend of your ex boyfriend. If you do get with him, they might even start comparing notes. At best it could be awkward for them both. I don't think it could work for you, not at this moment in time anyway.
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