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writes:Ok, so I have a boyfriend and we've been dating for nine months, the big challenge now is that he traveled abroad to study and the time difference is about six hours, we hardly talk because of that. It's been three weeks and some days now. Before he left though, he was a little distant for about three weeks, previously, we talked everyday, but in those three weeks he distanced himself, he called me just four times on his phone. He tells me he loves me, I met his family and all, but I just want to understand if he still wants me to stick around for him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Suggest you try setting up some alternative communication such as instant messaging (Googletalk, MSN etc) or Skype web chat. That takes away the cost problem, and instant messaging in particular makes it easier to have small chats just to keep connected when the time difference is funny (I'm 8hrs difference from my parents and sister and we all just got smartphones so we can IM where ever we are - much easier, and on blackberrys the blackberry messenger is free if your boyfriend gets a contract for the country he's living in).
If he's not willing to try enhancing your communication somehow then its probably not going to work. As Petina1 says this should still be the honeymoon period when you can't get enough of each other.
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reader, Jeffro1977  +, writes (3 October 2010):
He is the one who decided to go off into blue yonder. You shouldn't have to feel upset by how often he contacts you. Best thing to do I find a hobby and forget about him for a bit.
Personally I like to keep balance with things. If your not the main priority in his life. Why does he get to be the main priority in yours?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Long distance relationships can work if you are both deadly serious. There are some phone deals that can give you really cheap calls so that would not be an excuse not to ring quite often to keep in touch and maintain what you have. The term 'wild horses couldnt keep you away' comes to mind. and 'against all odds'. If you are not satisfied between you of the communication times as well as distance then it will not work. The only thing you will have is that when you meet up again you will see how the land lies. From what you tell me it doesnt sound right good at the moment. Nine months of love should be the honeymoon period type of love.
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