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female
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36-40,
*rincessjasmine
writes:I forgot 'the rules'I really liked this guy, hes so super shy and kinda religious. I asked someone if he was single and i think that person told him i was 'interested' which is good b/c that got him to add me on facebook. but i have gotten shot down one too many times from guys that i like becuase i show too much interest too fast.im feeling a little hard on myself b/c i did most of the talking on fb chat and he was the one to say bye and i was the one to tell him to call me. ahhh, is that wrong? did that make me look like i was super interested? will that turn him away from me? i know how much men like the challenge and i know according to the 'rules' u have to seem like you dont care....i clearly didnt do that just now but do you think i still have a chance to try it out? to seem like im not interested after seeming like i AM interested? i sound obsessive but i just dont wana get hurt, im so sick and tired of guys not giving me what i deserve, if he doesnt wana show interest i dont wana obsess over him...b/c im done with that. the ball needs to stay in my court, how do i let that happen?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Carry on talking to him for as long as you can stand it. Let him make the first move, when he's ready, which could be a while if he's shy. You may scare him off otherwise. At least if you let him make the first move, you will know how he feels. Then don't blow it, still act suprised, or otherwise you are still in danger of scaring him off. (some men do need a gentle push, but you seem a bit scary lol)
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