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writes:Hello! I have a dilemma and I would appreciate if you guys could give me some advice or opinions.So I have been in a relationship for a little over 8 months with my boyfriend. We are very close, trust each other, and I'm completely happy being with him. The problem is that I am not an emotionally open person and I have a hard time talking about myself, my emotions, and my past, where as he can talk easily and is not afraid to say how he feels(I know we are a little backwards haha)I want to share with him how I feel and everything, but it's hard. Can you guys give me tips on how I can over come this. I've been doing better myself by forcing myself, but it's still hard and I still get a knot in my stomach when I do, so I want to try and make it easier.P.S. You might think this is because of trust issues, but I'm like this with sharing my emotions/past/thoughts with everyone, so it's not just him.Thank you guys for any help! Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Because of your past you are now trying to make sense of it. This can be an ongoing thing. I have things in my past that even now at 53yrs old come back to haunt me. You have to find a way, like i did to deal with some of these issues so that they can't overtake your life and spoil your chances of happiness. Your heart is breaking because you feel cheated out of your childhood. You must find a way for yourself because more often than not, no one else can do this for you. Can you trust your boyfriend not to let the whole world know if you ever fall out.
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reader, possumm.  +, writes (16 November 2010):
try writing it in a letter, writing things down seems lees scary than saying it. just keep trying to build up your courage each day by getting closer to saying what you want. im sure if you talk to your boyfriend he will be very supportive and help you overcome your fear :)
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reader, Molly9945 +, writes (13 November 2010):
Molly9945 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy past is a little extensive because of abuse, so I have emotional issues now that I try to explain to him but it's hard. But I will keep in mind that I need to have fun, it just makes me feel better to talk and explain my emotions to him.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (13 November 2010):
Don't worry about it, you are only young so you've not a lot of 'past' to talk about. At your age i think the thing to do really is just go out and have fun and keep the deep and meaningfuls as short and sweet at intervals. Good Luck!
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reader, hotinlove  +, writes (13 November 2010):
Sometimes it helps to write things down. Focus on one specific thing you really want him to know. Write it down, carry it in your pocket. Pull it out a few times a day, think of a couple different ways to say it. When the time is right you will know just what to say. Not everyone is an open book and we can only get to know that book by reading one page at a time. Good luck! Being open and honest is integral to a relationship.
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