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I'm quite a fan of being an agony uncle and have been since school (6 years ago - I'm getting old these days) so I hope you/others will trust my answers etc.
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I LOVE music and reading - I'll listen to anything from classical to loud, angry death metal and read anything from biography to crime to the history of sex to Greek epic poetry (Homer, Virgil, Plato etc). Also play electric guitar, bass, samples, ukulele, harmonica and edited vocals.
Just finished a year of Access to HE (2009 - 2010) at college and will be going to uni in September.
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Are these signs I need glasses?
Q. When I read I begin to get a headache come on and I need to blink excessively and my eyes sometimes water. The sun and computer screens make my eyes hurt after a while even when distanced away from me. I've begun leaving curtains closed wh...
A. 15 June 2008: Thanks for the answers. I'll take the advice and get an eye check. I think I could do with one as i haven't been checked since i was about 15 or 16 =/... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl really be just friends?
Q. Can a guy and a girl really be just friends? And by friends, I mean more then just talk and hang out in the same group. I mean have a proper friendship. Can they be best friends? So far in my life, at age of 19, I havent been able to have that. An...
A. 15 June 2008: In a word, yes. guys and girls can "Just be friends". Not a thing wrong with it. My best friend is a girl and we get on fine no arguments, nothing.
So, be friends all you like and hope something comes out of it.
Remember: You can hug a girl w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex. Help please!
Q. Hi, my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with me at the moment. Its been since last sunday that we had sex. I am really frustrated, but trying not to let it show. I asked her what was wrong and she claims that she has no sex drive. 2 days ag...
A. 15 June 2008: Just because she said she didn't wanna have sex this week doesn't mean she's gonna go celibate/celibacy on you.
A relationship isn't all about the sex unless of course its a swingers relationship.
Just try not to be so desperate, a wee... (read in full...)
Advice on anal sex, please.
Q. Please help!!! My partner and I have recently been talking about having anal sex, which is something we both want. We went and brought some anal beads and lube...all was going well until it was time to pull the beads out which were..how do i s...
A. 6 June 2008: I'd imagine the best way to keep things clean would be for you to both have a shower first and clean in that "area".
Or maybe get it all out that day/night before so there's nothing to come out.
I'm afraid I don't know what an enema is so I ap... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I have no boyfriend and am only 12.
Q. i want a baby but im only 12 years of age. im a single,im good with babys i baby sit my cosin 2. i feel like im ready, but am i. how can have a baby without a boyfreind....
A. 5 June 2008: Sorry about the double reply but it would also be very illegal for you to have sex and if it is with someone over 18 he could get a hefty jail sentence.... (read in full...)
My friend has gone a bit 'metal' and I don't know what to do. Please help.
Q. Hey, i'm really worried. i started college and met this guy (as a friend) he seemed really nice. call him J. we ended up being quite good mates.recently though he told me he liked me more than friends. i didnt feel the same way at all and told him...
A. 5 June 2008: It sounds like he's a bit jealous of you getting back with your ex because he thought you and him (J) would become partners.
I think you should tell him to leave you alone or you will cease contact. If he gets really bad you can report him for ... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I have no boyfriend and am only 12.
Q. i want a baby but im only 12 years of age. im a single,im good with babys i baby sit my cosin 2. i feel like im ready, but am i. how can have a baby without a boyfreind....
A. 5 June 2008: You're only 12, you sholdn't even be thinking about sex at your age. You may love and be good with kids but parenthood is VERY hard work and you still have a lot to live for before you become a parent.
Think how having a baby would affect your sch... (read in full...)
Worried about my late-ish period
Q. Hi, I'm worried about my period. I started my period age 12 years 11 months, and I'm 15 years 6 months old now. 2 weeks ago I had very brief sex (about 5 minutes, it was our first time) with my boyfriend of 6 months, we used a condom and neither ...
A. 1 June 2008: If neither of you came and wore and condom then you shouldn't be pregnant as long as he didn't touch you when he pulled out without a condom on
It's only a few days though so like I previously you shouldn't be pregnant.... (read in full...)
I sent a love letter to my teacher. What would he/she do?
Q. This question is specifically for teachers to answer, but if anyone else wants to have their say then that would also be appreciated. If a pupil gave an innocent love letter to you (by innocent, I mean that she made it clear she is aware of the ...
A. 1 June 2008: I think your teacher will just laugh it off as one of those "student-fancies-teacher" sort of things.
I do believe that it is against the law for a stdent to have any sort of relationship with a teacher. It's likely they'll get sacked though a... (read in full...)
I keep on throwing up. what do I do about it?
Q. Hi, this isnt realy a relationship question but I was wondering if you guys could help me! I went to a party last night, had a bit to drink.. didnt feel drunk as my mind was clear but it felt like my arms and legs wern't working properly. Anyway I ...
A. 1 June 2008: Sounds like an evil hangover.
Did you take anything or mix drinks and did you pour them yourself?
If not then there's the chance it was spiked.
Just keep drinking lot of water, take two paracetamol and rest/sleep. Hopefully it'll be gone ... (read in full...)
Need some interesting topics that we can talk about??
Q. uhm...i need advice AGAIN...well theres a girl that i chat with everyday!!i need sime topics interesting topics that we can talk about??i also want to talk about naughty stuff but not to naughty??help on that please!!because i dont want to give her ...
A. 4 April 2008: music is always a good thing to talk about. Who doesn't love music?
Just talk about bands you like, bands you've seen a recommend some to her. It can also help you discover how much more you have in common.
As for naughty stuff, be flirty... (read in full...)
I get the feeling I'll never settle into a strong relationship, friends have comforted me but the thoughts return...
Q. Right, this is going to seem a bit of a strange question (as was my last one (I was given some good help for that, thanks)) Anyway... I'm completely obsessed with music and like something in nearly every genre. I have a playlist set uup on my ...
A. 4 April 2008: Thanks for the quick answer. Clingy is the last thing I'd want to be. I do go out bt never approach anyone, I guess I should start doing that, eh?
I'm supposed to be going on a date tomorrow bt for some reason have this gt feeling she isn't go... (read in full...)
It was just like a scene from a movie, help me make it real please!
Q. There is this guy in one of my university lectures who always seems to sit in the row in front of me. The other day we had what I would describe as a 'tpyical movie like scene'. I dropped my books onto the floor (by accident!) and I was about to ...
A. 4 April 2008: I read a little article about overcoming your shyness last night so I'll describe it here. If you want to approach a person but are too shy, just stand tall and make all this energy and shyness/anxiety "go down into" the ground. Obviously this'l... (read in full...)
I want know if he likes me, what do you think?
Q. i met a guy through my bestfriend. they work together and she has known him a long time. he came over a few days ago to hangout with me, her and her boyfriend. we were all drinking and he ended up stayin the night. although he could have slept on t...
A. 4 April 2008: It sounds like he does like you but as he's recently come out of a relationship it's best to take things slow as I have learnt myself and let him "recover".
I'd say give it a month or 2 and keep in good contact, swap numbers and emails, go on a ... (read in full...)
Could I be gay?
Q. I was looking for some heterosexual porn trailers to masturbate 2 and I did I was masturbating and a gay/bi trailer came on and I continued now I'm questioning my orientation. I have a girlfriend and I'm usually more excited but I wasn't and more ...
A. 4 April 2008: The others have given the good advice. As one has said, it's hormones kicking in, we all get it as teenagers but it's very normal to be curious about things.
In a few years you'll discover your true self (I'm not saying you haven't already)... (read in full...)
Is it bad to still be a virgin at 13?
Q. I'm a 13yr old girl and I'm still a virgin.Is this bad?I'm worried about me because my friends are already having sex with boys at 13 and 14....
A. 28 March 2008: Wait 'til you're the legal age is all I can say.... (read in full...)
Does anyone with sleeping problems have any tips for me?
Q. Hi all, long time no post. Hopefully this will be appropriate for the site. Anyways, in the past week I seem to be having trouble sleeping. 3 nights ago I was awake for almost 36 hours which isn't normal for me, the nest night I fell asleep watc...
A. 28 March 2008: Thanks for the answers. (I know I said I was giving this thing a break =/ but I've only been on it for half an hour tonight.
My mum told me that it's likely my brain HAS gone into overdrive and needs a rest.
I slept well last night after ptti... (read in full...)
I want more than this friend with benefits, should I break it up?
Q. K so, I'm with a girl atm, well, we arn't dating or anything, we're more like friends with benefits. Anyways, we talk for a couple hours a day on the phone, we get along great, and I was planning on asking her out, but as it turns out she's got ...
A. 28 March 2008: I've been in a similar situation where this girl I began to really like has a boyfriend so it gets awkward.
When I asked what should I do, I was told to distance myself a bit. I think you should do that becauuse it does work. Talk to her on the p... (read in full...)
Is it fair I give up ballroom dancing because my boyfriend doesn't want me dancing with other guys?
Q. My boyfriend has a problem with me dancing with another man. Do you think it's fair? Background info: I used to take ballroom dancing with my gay friend. After I dated my boyfriend, I have stopped. He doesn't like me dancing with another men beca...
A. 28 March 2008: I'm with what 'Anonymous' Said.
It's only dancing, there's nothing wrong with it. I've been out to bars and danced with people who I've never met before then the next week danced with someone else.
Dancing is dancing, it's not cheating or anyt... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should tell her or just leave it alone.
Q. Hi there... I just need advice on a matter that has been on my mind almost 24/7 for the past 3 years or so... I have feelings that are so strong towards an ex-teacher of mine(who is also female). After I left High school I stayed in contact with her...
A. 7 November 2007: It may be best to not tell her 'cause if you do things could get complicated and your friendship could be finished. Even something as petty as that (sorry if that sounded a bit harsh). Just treasure a strong friendship and try to not think of her as ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have advice for us?
Q. I recently met a girl on an internet forum. We grew close, and are now pretty much in an internet relationship. We instant message each other, are able to see each other on webcams, and call each other up regularly. We have sent each other letters ...
A. 7 November 2007: You should meet up in busy plce for just one day first. People can be very different on and offline nd you may not like the offline version of your friend as much as you think.
I've been in your situation before and felt I loved this girl and... (read in full...)
Every time I see something that reminds me of my ex girlfriend I break down into tears. Please help...
Q. My gf has just broken up with me and i'm not handling it very well. I feel as if i'm slipping into depression and nothing seems worth doing. I truly loved this girl and was convinced that i wanted to be with her for life. When I used to tell her ...
A. 29 August 2007: My best friend was in *Exactly* the same situation as you are now about 6 or 7 months ago. He was constantly posting up blogs about the same stuff - certain songs, items, random times of day etc etc.
It took him a few months but he finally ... (read in full...)
I'm 28 and a virgin. Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn't wait for someone special?
Q. Hi, I´m a 28 yrs old female virgin too (seems that are a lot of us around here). In my case, it havent´t happened for lack of opportunity. I´ve been always been too "right". With my first boyfriend, when I was about to do, he dumped me. Then nev...
A. 28 August 2007: Well done for waiting for "Mr Right" (if there is one) you should be proud of yourself for not losing your virginity to just some random guy. I'd think it wouldn't be best to lose it to a close friend because that cold affect the friendship and p... (read in full...)
My boyfriends little daughter wants to know why her parenst split. They have told her she will know when she is older. Do you think this is right?
Q. My boyfriend's daughter who is 7 years old told me she wants to know why her mom and my boyfriend got separated. She doesn't understand why everyone keep telling her they will explain to her when she is 17-18. The truth is her mom had an affair with ...
A. 28 August 2007: I, personally don't think she'd understand if she was told the truth. I'm 19 and still don't know why my parents split when I was four. I believe it was just one of those things though. I'd say tell a white lie and say they went their seperate w... (read in full...)
She's paying for dates and he's not initiating sex... what does it all mean?
Q. My friend would like me to find out if it is good sign that she has been going out with this man for a month, and she nearly always pays for him and her, or just her portion of what they do on a date? In other words he rarely pays for his share or ...
A. 16 August 2007: IMHO I think the guy/man/male should be the one paying for dates. I guess it's gentlemanly and although I'm all male I believe it makes the female feel good when a man pays for her food and drink (and garage flowers).
As for the non-sex issue - ... (read in full...)
Are we too young to be engaged?
Q. Im 16 my boyfriend is 17 we have been together a while now and are very much in love. We are considering moving in together at the start of next year. We were talking last night and he said next time we go shopping he wants me to point out some ...
A. 16 August 2007: In a word: No. He's asked you to marry him and you only get one shot at life as was said below. Go for it and good luck.... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me how to make my boobs bigger without puttin on weight
Q. Well me and ma bf are really close i love him and he love's me and i'm thinking that he might not lyk me as much as before cause at school i don't have the biggest boobs and every other girl does. Can anyone tell me how to make then bigger without ...
A. 12 August 2007: Breast size shouldn't matter. If the guy has respect he will love you for you and accept the way you look.
Don't go messing about with you appearence. Like I said if he is respective he will accept you for you.
Hope this helped.... (read in full...)
Should I be having sex this young?
Q. ok well me and my boyfriend jus started goin out and i'm 14 and he is 19 but we were friends forever but now he wants to have sex without using a condom.he says he knows when to pull it out is that possible and should i be haveing sex this young?...
A. 12 August 2007: You might wanna wait another 2 years. You having sex with a 19 yr old is illegal and will get him put behind bars.
Just because he's your best friend doesn't mean it's alright to have sex at your age.
And also: Pulling out isn't always the... (read in full...)
Recently me and my boyfriend decided to take things to next step, and he went down on me. After it I felt very shaky is there a reason for this?
Q. Stupid question but I must ask. Recently me and my boyfriend decided to take things to next step, and he went down on me. After it I felt very shaky is there a reason for this? ...
A. 12 August 2007: As I'm a guy, I'm no expert but I'll give my view anyway. This could be a continued orgasm (If he made you have one of course). If it is a continued orgasm I'm sure plenty of women would love to be in your shoes. Hope this helped.... (read in full...)
What should a wife do when her husband is going to prostitutes?
Q. What should a wife do when her husband is going to prostitutes?...
A. 12 August 2007: Puzzled hit the nail bang on the head. He obviously has no respect for you at all. Get rid of him.... (read in full...)
I'm a female 16 and I'm bisexual.
Q. Hi, I'm a female 16 and I'm bisexual. 2 years ago a new girl came to my high school. We became quite close friends straight away and I know I was young but I developed a crush on her quickly. When I came out to her, we became even closer and we ...
A. 12 August 2007: Well, as you said, it seems like she's playing mind games. Next time she does it try telling her that she's playing with you enough and that you're fed up with it and that if she doesn't stop you will cut off all contact. I know it will be a hard ... (read in full...)
My future mother in law criticises me and is very tactile with her son... should I worry?
Q. I am getting concerned over my future mother in laws behaviour. My boyfriend is 20 and his mother is 40. She is generally ok but makes a lot of personal remarks about the way I look which are not very nice - like my hair is frizzy or my clothes ...
A. 11 August 2007: You could try sitting down with your boyfriend in the privacy of your own apartment and ask him why she does this and also tell him thet you're becoming "Detached" from him and that if he wants to marry you(?) then things like this have to stop ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't get an erection.... is he not turned on?
Q. My boyfriend can't get an erection. Does that also mean that he can't get turned on? I mean, is it possible to be turned on and be without an erection? When we're kissing and stuff it sometimes gets really 'hot and heavy' and I get turned on but b...
A. 11 August 2007: It sounds like your boyfriend has become impotent (not important). I'm sre know what it means but if not it 's where a man is unable to get an erection even when turned on. There are certain types of "Medication" which can help with this. I bel... (read in full...)
Is it too early to be asking a question like this....
Q. Hi everyone. You've probably noticed that I've posted up a few questions regarding verious things in the LD relationship I'm currently in. I do love her (Lets call her Claire) very much and I feel like she could be the one. I've been looking for her ...
A. 11 August 2007: I was being on the joking side when I "Quoted" my mum and also I wouldn't go out with anyone younger than 16. She's my age thanks. What made you think that?
And I'm not "Desperate" either.
Thanks... (read in full...)
Any suggestions for removal of acne.
Q. How do i get rid of my acne. I have blackheads, pimples, a lot of red markings and scars on my face. How do i get rid of it naturally? Are there any creams i could buy that won't break my budget, and won't make me breakout b/c i have very sensitive ...
A. 10 August 2007: I've been in your shoes before and I know it ain't nice. I tried loads of diffrent liquids and creams but to no avail.
I'm now using a prescribed liquid called Zineryt (pro: Zin-uh-rite) and this stuff has cleared my skin right up. I've gone fro... (read in full...)
I have a problem with my family accepting the fact that I am growing up and have a boyfriend.
Q. I have a problem with my family accepting the fact that I am growing up and have a boyfriend. I am 20 years old and a rising sophomore in college who attends a good college in my neighborhood. My parents are having what seems like quite a difficul...
A. 10 August 2007: It sounds like your parents are very over protective - my mum was thesame with me until a year or so ago and she now even doesn't mind that I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl in Cardiff, 5 hours away.
You said it was hard for you to s... (read in full...)
How can I attend art college without being near anyone?
Q. I'm a shut-in. I am 19 years old. I sleep during the day. I would like to get a life, but I can't even handle a part time job. I have never had a friend. How can I attend art college without being near anyone?...
A. 10 August 2007: I had the same problems when I was 18. I'm afraid that being around people at college is going to be inevitable.
So you have 3 choices here:
A. Go to college and be surrounded by people. You'll make friends fast once you get talking to them.... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are a compulsive liar?
Q. For the past 3 years I have been lying every single day, about things from what I've eaten that day to telling a lad I'd had an abortion. My lies have got way out of hand, but I can't tell people I've lied. At the same time, I can't stop. I feel the ...
A. 10 August 2007: It does sound like you are a compulsive liar. As the poster below said: Why do you do it? Are you insecure about what people will think of you if you tell the truth? You should stop lying to everyone. What about when you have a job interv... (read in full...)
His ex gf is telling me bad things about my bf. Whom do I believe?
Q. I am in love with my partner but his ex came up to me the other day and said that he beat her, got her in in debt, pregnant, etc. He says it's all lies and that she wants him back. They have been split up for 2 years. What do I do? I also have a ...
A. 10 August 2007: I'm guessing you don't know his ex like you do him. What she could be telling you is all lies just because she want's him back. It's strange though isn't it? He supposedly put her in debt and beat her yet she wants him back. Sounds kinda fishy to me ... (read in full...)
I do stuff to my friend but it makes me feel weird
Q. ok, i m a virgin, but i don't have a boyfriend yet. but i have a really good friend that lets me do stuff 2 him, he has done stuff 2 me also, but everytime we do something, i fell really weird?? why is this happening?...
A. 10 August 2007: As many people have said below: It's probably because he's your friend and not your "Partner" who you should really be doing these things with.
Maybe it's because you know you're underage and that it's illegal to be doing so. How old is he? Your... (read in full...)
Is there still a chance for me even if I get to 40 years old?
Q. Hi everybody, i am now 36 years old, i've got my past, i also have my 3 children from the past. im taking care of them alone finacially, everything. i got separated from my last relationship last 3 years ago. i never been married. this time i have ...
A. 10 August 2007: Of course!!
You're never too old to get married. You can get married at 21 (my aim) 39, 40 or 60. Age is just a number and nothing else.
Keep searching and you'll find him.
Good Luck!!... (read in full...)
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