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I'm quite a fan of being an agony uncle and have been since school (6 years ago - I'm getting old these days) so I hope you/others will trust my answers etc.
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I LOVE music and reading - I'll listen to anything from classical to loud, angry death metal and read anything from biography to crime to the history of sex to Greek epic poetry (Homer, Virgil, Plato etc). Also play electric guitar, bass, samples, ukulele, harmonica and edited vocals.
Just finished a year of Access to HE (2009 - 2010) at college and will be going to uni in September.
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Is there still a chance for me even if I get to 40 years old?
Q. Hi everybody, i am now 36 years old, i've got my past, i also have my 3 children from the past. im taking care of them alone finacially, everything. i got separated from my last relationship last 3 years ago. i never been married. this time i have ...
A. 10 August 2007: Of course!!
You're never too old to get married. You can get married at 21 (my aim) 39, 40 or 60. Age is just a number and nothing else.
Keep searching and you'll find him.
Good Luck!!... (read in full...)
I am 12 and I want to have sex without being caught
Q. iam 12 and want sex i just moved dont know any body. Who can i have sex with and not get caught?...
A. 10 August 2007: You are much too young to have sex. Wait another 4 years and find the one you want to lose your virginity to. Virginity is meant to be a precious thing and it's not something you should regret losing which is why some people (the amount is getting ... (read in full...)
The second time the guy's wife came to my house and showed me a text message on his cell phone from my wife, saying she loved him.
Q. My wife cheats on me constantly, we've been together for 15 years. I just caught her for the 3rd time in the past 8 months with the same guy from her work. At first she said nothing was going on, I caught them flirting. The second time the guy's ...
A. 9 August 2007: As all the below have said - You should leave her. And as Spanna said: She obviously doesn't love you much. She wouldn't do this to someone who she loves.
Just pack you bags and leave. Or if you are the legal owner of the house pack her bags and... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Please beware of private messages from strangers asking for money or promising riches!
Q. Hi everyone We've had a couple of scammers posting private mails through the site. Please everyone use your common sense and keep yourself safe. This goes for all sites, not just this one! * Never give anyone your phone number or home em...
A. 9 August 2007: These also come in emails. So be careful with them also. And get this: I even got one on Flirtomatic, that's how bad it's getting.
FYI it's called a 491 scam. They come in 2 sorts - The money scam and the love scam.
If you want some fun reading... (read in full...)
What now? This girl, she rocks... but what do I do next?
Q. What now? This girl, she rocks! I can tell she is really really really popular and I really really like her but what am I supposed to do now? I mean I spent 4 months trying to find her and now I have, I dunno what to do, I know she's single but I ...
A. 9 August 2007: You should start hanging our with her at school and then proceed to hang out with her outside of school. Get to know her and after a while maybe flirt a little. If she flirts back you will know that she does like you even if it's only a little ... (read in full...)
I don't want my gf to drink b/c my dad used to be an alcoholic. But I don't want to tell her what she can and can't do!
Q. Well my girlfriend and I have been dating now for three months and everything is going really good. This weekend one our friends is having a little get together at her house and they are all going to drink and then spend the night over there. My dad ...
A. 8 August 2007: I know how you feel about having an alchoholic parent - my mum was heavily drinking for 2 years but is now almost 3 years sober.
I feel the kinda the same - I don't mind people drinking but one thing I do dislike is a group of people from AA ... (read in full...)
I did cheat on him but I want him back!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a year now a month ago we broke when he was told that i was cheating on him and i have tried talking to him but he keeps me off, the truth is that i cheated on him and i now feel i don't love this other guy its ...
A. 7 August 2007: It's understandable that he doesn't want to be with you again - you cheated, which, in my books isn't the best thing to do.
You could try talking it through with him (Very cliche I know) but it's quite likely he doesn't want to speak with you at a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pulling the double-standard! Is it just an excuse to break up?
Q. Hi, I just moved in with my boyfriend of 9 months and while I was at work one day he went through my "memory box" that i kept while i was in HS. It had somethings in it about my ex boyfriends like who i kissed, who i didnt, and so on...sil...
A. 7 August 2007: Maybe you should talk to him about it in a calm way. Tell him it was only in High School and now it means nothing, you just kept it as memories of good and bad times.
Tell him what you think of him - love, like, in love etc etc and hopefull... (read in full...)
What should I do about my boyfriend's friend?
Q. I fancy my boyfriend ´s good friend. I dont like my boyfriend that much coz he doesnt pay attantion to me as he used to. I want to get closer to his friend but the problem is obvious. Shall i forget about it?...
A. 7 August 2007: Sorry if this sounds a bit harsh.
Maybe you should give up on your boyfriend and leave him. He obviously doesn't like/love you like he used to. It might be a bad idea to get with his friend though because that could seem like revenge and he [boyf... (read in full...)
She thinks she's fat (well, chubby) and ugly (she's not)... how can I help her feel better about herself?
Q. Hi all. You may remember a few weeks ago I posted up about being fed up of being single. Well now I'm not - I'm in a long distance relationship with someone who is *Exactly* (Apart from the obvious) the same as me - same interests, same music taste ...
A. 7 August 2007: Thanks for both your answers. They've been a help. I've told myself that if I'll ever do long distance it won't just be text it'll be meet-ups and phone calls (she has a great voice also). We're planning to meet on our 1 month anniversary and ... (read in full...)
Why do people think being a virgin at 20 is a problem? IS it a problem??
Q. This isn't a problem, its a question! But why do so many people think that being 20 and a virgin such a big problem?? And why do all the teenagers think they have to have sex at like 14, 15??...
A. 7 August 2007: I agree with all the below answers - kids boast to just fit in. Then there are the smart ones who decide to wait for the right person (myself included) rather than sleep with the whole block in a weekend. Well done for waiting, like what was sa... (read in full...)
Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: People are trying to scam you with the 419 (For more infor visit www.419eater.com) Just ignore the mail and they'll get bored... (read in full...)
I love World of Warcraft but want a girlfriend and don't want to turn into a geek!
Q. Hi, Im a 15 year old boy who is desperate for a girlfriend. But the thing is i play on world of warcraft ALOT (online game). And i dont want to turn into a geek which i think the girls think i am. I love the game but i really want a girlfirend...
A. 6 August 2007: You could try cutting down on your game play and go out with your mates - have a laugh (Note down that you don't need alchohol to have fun).
It's true that some girls are attracted to geeks but make sure they know that your life isn't all abou... (read in full...)
All i want is a proper relationship, surely thats not asking too much.
Q. Hi all, Another Q from me, yep. So I'm 19 and have never been in a "proper" relationship before. I'm ready to get into a serious relationship and settle down so to speak but it just isn't happening. I'm pretty laid back and will get on well...
A. 4 August 2007: Just a small update. I'm now in a long distance relationship and feel like I'm really in love.
It's so ironic how we met though. And I'm sure would like a laugh outta this so here goes:
I went to Download (Formerly Monsters of Rock) in... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?
Q. Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...
A. 4 August 2007: It's VERY wrong and is also cheating which, again, is wrong wrong wrong!!
If you're thinking about thses things, do as the others have said - break up and go shag all the women you want.
When she's away, technically you're in a long distance re... (read in full...)
We tried to have sex, but it just did not work!
Q. well i am a bit stuffed atm lol, me and my girlfriend (both near 16) have bin going out 2months now and it just feels so right. we recently tried sex after a couple of drinks but it just did not work. i can easily fit my finger in but only one at a ...
A. 29 July 2007: Yeah. Wait a coupla months til you're 16. You're not even the legal age yet so slow it down.... (read in full...)
I added him to my hotmail, but I lied to him and said I was from a foreign country and had put him on by accident
Q. Hi guys I posted this question about 2 weeks ago. The situation has developed further so I'm asking for assistance again. here is the original question: ------------------------------------- Ok th...
A. 26 July 2007: Now that you know his email you could quite using the phoney one and add him onto msn. Try telling him that you really like talking to him on the forums and wanted to do so in private. You guessed his email was his username and tada! You were right. ... (read in full...)
After a week of no contact she texted me! Now I feel I have a little control, but how do I handle it?
Q. Hi, only me again. Just wanted to repost my recent update as a question, because there has been some development with my situation: (Also, quickly for those of you who don't know me: I was in a long distance relationship of 240 miles for 2 ...
A. 26 July 2007: I was in a similar position as you a while ago. You should continue to text but don't leap straight into it cos she'll think you're desperate. You couuld try catching up on the good times and finally ask the big question of "Restarting" the ... (read in full...)
All i want is a proper relationship, surely thats not asking too much.
Q. Hi all, Another Q from me, yep. So I'm 19 and have never been in a "proper" relationship before. I'm ready to get into a serious relationship and settle down so to speak but it just isn't happening. I'm pretty laid back and will get on well...
A. 26 July 2007: Thanks for the nice, answer, my fellow Pete. I'm currently on a site called flirtomatic and I've met a few people close by but nothing's happened. I didn't really wanna say it bt it's true that there isn't anything good in my life. OK, I have... (read in full...)
I'm meeting my online female friend for the day; any tips on good behaviour?
Q. Hi all, I've been talking to a girl online for 3-4 months and we're now planning on meeting up and hanging out for the day. I'd have to say that this is mainly a Q for the girls. I was wondering is there anything special I should do other than be...
A. 23 July 2007: Thanks greentea. Some of those I had in mind (especially be funny. I've been told I have a good sense of humour)
I forgot to mention that because she's the girl it's up to her what we do - like: I'm not the keenest person to go on a dance machine ... (read in full...)
How Do I Approach/Talk To Women when I'm Socially Inept?
Q. I'm 21, a student and my problem is I'm socially inept when it comes to approaching/talking to women. Men I can talk to whenever etc have no probs. Am funny, loose and a right 'mans man', just make everyone laugh etc. Women however, I just dont know ...
A. 23 July 2007: I'm pretty much the same. Whether I'm asking for directions or at a gig it's usually a guy I end up talking to. I think it's cos we're guys ourselves and know how to talk to one another so to speak. But it's hard approaching a girl due to shyn... (read in full...)
His friends told lies and now he's broken up with me!
Q. What do you do when your long term boyfriend breaks it off, (for stupid reasons of course) and doesn't want to talk to you, based on something his "friends" said. When in reality they aren't his friends, and want to have a threesome with you. Very ...
A. 21 July 2007: That's a tough one to answer but I'll try and help.
You should sit down one-2-one and ask him if he's doing the same as his friends. None of us here know him, only you know him best. You know when he's telling the truth and vice versa.
So if h... (read in full...)
He tells me he doesn't know what missing someone is, he is an only child and spent years in a boarding school so he tells me he's content to be alone...
Q. Hi! I've been chatting on the phone and through emails with a guy from NZ.. I'm in the US.. we met on myspace, and we really hit it off... He's everything I've ever wanted in a guy, intelligent, sexy, sweet, funny, independant... the list goe...
A. 21 July 2007: Long distance relationships are hard, trust me, I've been in 2 or 3. I'm sorry to diappoint you but they very rarely work out. Things happen and it ends with something along the lines of: "I don't think this will work. We're too far apart" or "Our ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I'm scared to have sex with my 17 year old boyfriend; he wants me to get pregnant!
Q. i am a 14 year old girl and i am going out with a seventeen year old boy and i am stuck in a situation because he wants to have sex with me but im scared because i do not no what to do when having sex!!and he said that he wants to get me pregnant ...
A. 20 July 2007: You're too young to even have sex, let alone get pregnant. Don't do it!! And like the below have said: He's bad news if he keeps pressurising you into it. Get rid of him fast. Let him get some other bimbo pregnant, you're obviously too smart for him ... (read in full...)
How effective is using just a condom to prevent pregnancy?
Q. How effective is using a condom to prevent pregnancy, without any other form of contraception, such as the pill? ...
A. 20 July 2007: I've read in most places it's 99% effective. So if you use a condom you're gonna be well protected. Don't use 2 though cos friction could "burn" it away and leave a gaping hole in it.... (read in full...)
When out w/ my bf, how do I deal with seeing a stunning woman act sexy in a movie? I get jealous and uncomfortable.
Q. Im22,i dont get the opportunity to wear sexy clothes like all these girls do on posters and magazines, and itslike,myboyfriend never sees me in the sexy way he see's them. I just dont know how im supposed to feel good next to them?? how? and ...
A. 16 July 2007: It's now been proven that models and celeb photos are touched up with arbrush etc to make them look sexy when in actual fact they're not. Most of the models in photos are no way near what they look like in real life.
So each time you see a model ... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on my spanish teacher
Q. I have a huge crush on my spanish teacher. I'm 12 and he's in his 20s. It's been about a year since i started liking him. Everytime i see him he always says hi and asks how i am. I blush whenever he talks to me. My friends say that he's a perv but i ...
A. 10 July 2007: It is perfectly normal to have a crush on a teacher - I had a crush on a my class tutor (But so did most of the guys in my year)
Just don't act on it and keep your fantasies in the bedroom and your diary if you keep one.... (read in full...)
I think my teacher fancies me but I'm not sure.
Q. I'm so confused! I think my teacher fancies me but I'm not sure. When I first started in his class, he was really nice and I figured that it must be because I knew about the subject before I started college (I was 21 at the time, I'm 23 now). The ...
A. 10 July 2007: It kinda sounds like he does or maybe it's just a case of favouritism - you're his favourite class member. But I'd say you keep looking out and if he makes ANY sort of move even a holding of hands then it could be dodgy. Any groping and there's your ... (read in full...)
He had a spot that is black and a little red.
Q. Hey there i need help. Well yesterday i spent some time with my boyfriend and we had a really good time. And when he went home he took a shower. And we agreed that he wouldn't call me anymore until today. But it was different, he did call me and ...
A. 9 July 2007: It could be just a regular spot in a random place. I'm no expert but I doubt it's genital warts. Do you have an ulcers or anything on your hands because that could be it.
It could even be a boil in which case the docs would be needed but I don'... (read in full...)
Is there any operation or medicine to get virginity back in pakistan?
Q. is there any operation or medicine to get virginity back in pakistan ...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm afraid there's not. Once you've lost it it's gone.... (read in full...)
Told my friends I'm a virgin and it seems all they want to talk about now is sex!
Q. Hey there, I feeling a bit let down by friends right now. A few days ago i told my friends i was a virgin (I'm 19). It's something i dont have a problem with and im quite proud of myself for not sleeping around and having one night stands. I feel ...
A. 9 July 2007: I know how you feel, I'm the same age and get exactly the same sort of reactions. I know it's kinda hard in your case but if anyone asks if you're a virgin just turn and walk away and they'll get bored.
It is childish what they are doing and are ... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 9 July 2007: You have kinda got yourself into a bit of a trap here. You have 3 choices though: Go there and confront him but that could spell trouble. Your second one is to "Hide" somewhere near and watch him as he waits at the meeting spot and get a chuckle ... (read in full...)
I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay?
Q. I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay? I wanted to wait until i was in a serious relationship before i had sex but now i dont know if i should just go out and sleep with someone because of the whole age-pressure thing?...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm 19 and still a virgin and proud of it. I'm just waiting for the right person and you should too imho.
I'm sure when you find the right person you will know that you will want them to "pop your cherry" and be the one you gave your virginit... (read in full...)
Is it against the law to date an 18 year old guy when your 14?
Q. Is it against the law to date an 18 year old guy when your 14?...
A. 9 July 2007: Like what the others said. It is legal to date an 18 yr old guy when you're 14 but it IS illegal to perform any sort of sexual activity.... (read in full...)
Worried about sexual advances from my boyfriend. Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and my boyfriend has started to hint he wants to finger me. We've been together 2 months now and I want him to, but am a little nervous about it because I've never had it done before. I've tried masterbating myself but I've never actually ...
A. 18 June 2007: I agree with DV1. Don't fake it cos if you tell your bf later he won't be happy and on rare occasion, possibly dump you.
Explore your body and find out how you like it and what will make you orgasm.
Also: If he doesn't know, tell him how to ... (read in full...)
He asked me to dress up nice for a surprise he is planning! Men - what could he be planning? How should I dress??
Q. Hey all, Not sure if this is the right place to ask about this, but my boyfriend wants me to dress up for our romantic night in. I have sorted, food, contapception and everything, but I dont know why he wants me to dress up. When i asked him, h...
A. 4 June 2007: He could be planning a candlelit dinner or going out, that's something you'll have to find out.
As for dressing up - a nice looking but not "Slutty" style looking red dress would look nice. That's my opinion anyways. But you know him best so you s... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and want a relationship, but I fret about the size of my penis..any advice?
Q. Hi iam 17 and still a virgin i would love to have a relationship with a girl but iam very insecure about the size of my penis as it is only 6 and a half inches when erect should i be woried or am i fretin about nothing ...
A. 4 June 2007: no need to worry. 6 inches is about average. I think we all get insecure about our size on our first time.
As many people will say: It's not size that matters, it's how you use it.... (read in full...)
I have this huge spot on my penis! How do I get rid of it?
Q. i have this huge spot on my penis! it hurts. i've never had sex. and i'm quite clean. why is it there and how do i get rid of it?...
A. 4 June 2007: I would recommend you do go to your doc asap. It could be nothing but worth a quick check out.
It will probably be hard for you to do this but it'll be worth it in the end.
Good lck!!... (read in full...)
I've been chatting online to her for four days... Should I tell I've started to fall for her!!?
Q. I was recently having a lng distance relationship which I posted about a while ago. That's ended now and I'm over this girl. I've just met someone on a flirting website and we've exchanged emails and numbers (and it's only been 4 days) but we cha...
A. 4 June 2007: I'm totally over her now. She has a bf and I was just having one of those moments.
Maybe it's cos I'm 18 and confused?... (read in full...)
I'm a male and feel attracted to my male friend but I'm NOT gay! What's wrong with me?
Q. I think I REALLY need help! I don't think if this is the right site to ask this but... I got atrracted by my best male friend! We like to spend time together but we're not gay! I feel so strange! What is wrong with me?!...
A. 4 June 2007: You're just doing what friends should do - hang out n' have a laugh. You probably feel this way cos you're close.....nothing wrong with you.... (read in full...)
My gf doesn't pay much attention to me anymore! What should I do?
Q. I feel so sad lately. Me and my girlfriend both still live with our parents, so we only see each other like every other weekend. She says she loves me and I love her too. But she doesn't french me anymore, and everytime she comes over she just ...
A. 27 May 2007: You should sit down with her and have a talk, try and get things going again. As someone said below - take her ot for a romantic meal with candlelight (optional of course) and hopefully the spark will start again.... (read in full...)
I've been chatting online to her for four days... Should I tell I've started to fall for her!!?
Q. I was recently having a lng distance relationship which I posted about a while ago. That's ended now and I'm over this girl. I've just met someone on a flirting website and we've exchanged emails and numbers (and it's only been 4 days) but we cha...
A. 16 May 2007: Thanx mrs fabulous cd206.
I did think I shold wait cos telling her after this short could make her run a mile.
And I was planning (in my mind) to try and meet her in a month due to the fact that it's festival season and I'm off to Donnington...... (read in full...)
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