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I LOVE music and reading - I'll listen to anything from classical to loud, angry death metal and read anything from biography to crime to the history of sex to Greek epic poetry (Homer, Virgil, Plato etc). Also play electric guitar, bass, samples, ukulele, harmonica and edited vocals.
Just finished a year of Access to HE (2009 - 2010) at college and will be going to uni in September.
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I woke up to find him having sex with me. Am I still a virgin?
Q. i need to know if im still a virgin!! i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he stopped at mine on thursday and we both fell asleep but then when i woke up he was in me, ive never had sex before and i didnt feel him on me but he was actually ...
A. 5 July 2008: I'm sorry to say you are no longer a virgin and have been raped like the other aunts and uncles said.
Get some tests done just to be on the same side and take the morning after pill.
He did what I believe is called Somnophilia - sex with a sle... (read in full...)
I saw my 44 yearold mother having sex - surely she is too old?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she had a divorce after long married life of 28years.She was shattered and had lived a lonely life all alone for a year in her small parental town. When I got setelled with good job in a bigger town she came to live with me in ...
A. 5 July 2008: 44 isn't too old at all. IMO there's no such thing as too old - only too young.
You have no reason to be ashamed and/or depressed. To use a cliche: Sex is a perfectly normal thing for two people to have.
If you really are depressed you sh... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend and sex
Q. i am only 11 and i am single. wich im not happy about. also recently i have wanted sex loads. ihave been thinking that i will find a boyfriend, go to his house one day and he will ask me for sex with comdoms and i will say yes.... ..in my dreams...
A. 5 July 2008: Yeah, it's been said before but I'll say it again: You are waaaayyyyy too young to even consider having sex. Like others have said it isn't all perfect. You should wait til you find the right person and when you are above the legal age (16 in... (read in full...)
Fooling around with my older cousin...is it bad??
Q. Well, first started 2yrs ago i think. i was trying to sleep at my cousin's house, Kristen, but then he came along and went in bed with me and started to sqyeeze my breast. It's hard to explain because it was long ago. One month ago we went to ...
A. 5 July 2008: In a way I believe he kind of raped you because he did sexual things against your will (the fingering etc).
I'm not sure about the Us but here it's not illegal to do these things with your cousin but it is still considered taboo to some if not m... (read in full...)
Are girls who grew up without a father attracted more to "bad boys"?
Q. My question put simply: Do Girls who grew up without knowing their father (i.e the father left home when they were born) have a tendency to be attracted, and go with "Bad Boys" who dont really care for them, and ultimatly cheat on them and treat th...
A. 4 July 2008: I can safely say this isn't true with all girls. I've been dating someone for just under a month and she didn't know her dad.
I'm not a "nice guy" but I'm not a bad boy and she accepts me for that.
I read some of the links posted and they ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits? What are your opinions on this?
Q. I've fancied a guy for ages, but i know he's got a reputation, and he is a bit of a player. I know he likes me but i also know he doesn't do relationships and just wants friends with benefits. What is people's opionion on this?...
A. 3 July 2008: If he wants to be a swinger/player then that's just him really and it won't really change.
You may like him but as has been said, he's a player and thus your relationship probably wouldn't last I'm sorry to say.
It'll be best if you just stay... (read in full...)
I love my family, but they keep giving me lectures on everything I do! How can I stand up for myself in a good way and not hurt them?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. Long time no question. Firstly, let me say I am very close to my family and I know they'd do anything for me and likewise to them. (to cut a story short: I got stranded in Donnington and had to take the bus to bristol then tra...
A. 3 July 2008: Thanks for all the help. You've said what I ws thinking of doing so in a way you've confirmed it's possible.
I think what I'll do is just say that I know how to treat the girl I'm dating and to keep her safe, do nothing and will make sure she gets... (read in full...)
After 6 months together we've entered the "comfortable stage". What can I do to bring back the wow look on his face??
Q. ok guys... i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. things r startin to get a little weird for me cuz its in the "comfortable" stage. so i want to do something to make him say omg again or just see that wow look on his face. and im not talkin ...
A. 2 July 2008: I'd say if you are living with him, one night you could prepare a nice meal for him to come home to with the candles etc and try some new stuff in the bedroom (What do you think the internet was made for?)
Pasta is a good and simple meal with can... (read in full...)
My best friend snogged my ex since a couple of months! Is this a betrayal of a friend? I don't know what to think!
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend were together for about 2 years and split up just a few months ago. My best friend told me today that she snogged him today and i really don't know how i feel. I still love my ex to pieces but don't want to tell him this. To ...
A. 2 July 2008: It was a betrayal, yes but not of friendship. It was a betrayal of trust between your friend and her boyfriend. You'd be best to stay out of this as you'll only get stuck in a bad position and the blame could go to you because it was your ex she ... (read in full...)
I feel like everything but his girlfriend, should I leave him??
Q. We're both 21 years old and I have been living with my boyfriend for 10 months and for a while now I have been feeling more like a chauffeur, a mother, a roommate, and a maid to him. The last thing I feel like is his girlfriend, unless he wants to ...
A. 2 July 2008: You'll need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel and that you think the relationship is going nowhere (if you think that).
Tell him about the financial strain and that you're paying ll the bills and buying all the food and that if he do... (read in full...)
What do I choose, stay in the current badlife I have or take a chance on the may be goodlife??
Q. hi everyone im hoping you can help me here,im currently in a relationship with a man whom im in love with yet he treats me bad most of the time,im going away soon an whilst im away im going to see a guy whom as loved an wanted me for the best part ...
A. 2 July 2008: The good life all the way.
Think about it. Do you want to be miserable with a guy who treats you like crap or happy with a guy who would never do anything seriously bad?
I know I'd go with the 2nd were I female.
Just go with your gut... (read in full...)
How do I know if my boyfriend loves me? Is there a way you can tell for sure?
Q. i just wonderd if anyone could tell me how do you know if a boy loves you?? well my boyfriend kisses me and we spend ages looking into eatchothers eyes and he puts his arms round me you think he loves me?? ...
A. 2 July 2008: ChiRaven said it well. Love is indeed more than being held close by an arm or a kiss. It is also a mental/psychological thing.
Love is trust, loyalty, caring, affection, saying things and meaning it, standing up for your partner, commitme... (read in full...)
I'm confused about what my boyfriend really feels for me
Q. me and my boyrfrien have been going out for quite a while now i only ever see him on the weekends becuase of school and things, so i spend more time at home than with him, we both have msn and bebo but he never reply's back to me or nothing, i have ...
A. 2 July 2008: If he's going to be like this it could mean he has another girl on the side. He's showing signs of it I'm afraid.
Next time you see him just ask him if he's seeing another girl. If he says firmly but not hysterically/over-reactively "No" then he ... (read in full...)
Any advice about polycystic ovarian syndrome?
Q. i have been trying for a baby for over 4 years i have polycystic ovarian syndrome, my husband and are really wanting a family, can anyone help?...
A. 2 July 2008: A while ago I found a site that might be very helpful to you the URL is www.pcosfriendly.co.uk
It's a non-proftable site made by fellow PCOS sufferers. If you join I'm sure you will find help there with others.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I've been out with 2 guys and now I can't choose which one I like the most, please help me out!!
Q. Grr this isn't fair! I'd been getting close to guy A about a month ago, we were good for a couple of weeks then i didnt hear from him again, its been another 2 weeks. So i gave up on him, now iv been great friends with guy B for a long time, always ...
A. 1 July 2008: It is confusing, yes :P
I know this is going to be tricky but maybe you should talk to guy A and even just go out with him for a coffee or to the cinema. See how that goes.
Think about how you will be if you are always guy B's partner or how i... (read in full...)
What does love feel like?
Q. How do you know when you're in love?...
A. 1 July 2008: It's very hard to know if you're in love with someone for real. Like Mr. no issues said, read all about it. Even if poetry and love novels aren't your things still have a read of it, even if they're short. Listen to some love-rock or pop. Albums ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping 12-16 hours a day, and I have other unpleasant symptoms. Can anyone suggest what's wrong with me?
Q. i need help plz.recently have been sleeping more than usual.i sleep like 12-16hours a day and even at that,i get someone to wake me up not me waking up willingly. i get tired easily and all i wona do is lie down and rest.whenever i stand up to go ge...
A. 30 June 2008: I'll just have to say what the rest have said: Go to your doctor. It doesn't sound good at all.
It could be anything and until you get yourself checked over you don't know what it is.
Go to the docs ASAP.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Young People Having Sex
Q. Does anybody else find it as ridiculous as I the age people nowadays are losing their virginity? I am sixteen and have no intention of having sex while I'm still a teenager. It saddens me whenever I hear of girls (and guys) my age running off toge...
A. 30 June 2008: Nicely written. couldn't have said it better and I agree with every word.
I actually wonder about this thing a lot. What happened to finding that one special person you want to give that special thing away to?
It seems that because everyone... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore...how do I get this through to him without hurting him?
Q. Well...Where to start! I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, we are both 16. We haven't had sex, and he really respects me, he is really good looking and in all aspects he is perfect. We used to have such a laugh together...
A. 23 June 2008: I'm sorry but if you're gonna go off kissing other guys and saying it felt 'right' then you should end this relationship now. Boys don't like to go out with girls who snoop and kiss other guys.
Your boyfriend is going to be hurt even more when he ... (read in full...)
He used to like me then it all stopped. He's now dating someone else...can I do anything to get him back?
Q. Okay. i like this guy Tom. and we used to like each other alot. HE was going to ask me out but something happened we just stopped talking, and he started going out with another girl. and i think im in love with him. Everytime im with him i get all ...
A. 23 June 2008: This boy clearly isn't one of the nice ones if he's gonna go running off with another girl suddenly.
You may still like him but if you think about it (Not too hard - that hurts :P) you'll realise he wasn't 'The one'.
There's plenty more fish... (read in full...)
I'm I going to be pressured to have sex from all these boys?
Q. i am nearly 14 and i am underpresser about having sex! there are soo many sexy lads that i know, and most of them have asked me out, i have only went out with 1 of them, and there is 9 more lads that have asked me out. the one i went out with said ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well done for being one of those who are smart enough to know you are not ready (nor old enough).
I'd say go out with this boy but if he pressures you, just dump his sorry arse (ass).
Most of the boys who say they've had sex with a girl are ... (read in full...)
I was stood up in my first date... how should I handle this?
Q. Hi, Guys. I generally don't bother myself with boys but yesterday this boy aked me to the cinema and I said i'd go. So, missing my ballet lesson and a rounders tournement, showed up no more than 3 minutes late. He didn't turn up. I don't know wha...
A. 18 June 2008: Firstly: Don't be a pessimist about dates. We all have crap dates because people have blown us off, lied or just run off with no explanation. You have many years ahead of you which means many dates ahead of you so don't quit early.
Secon... (read in full...)
To trust or not to trust..... when someone lies to you is it always a red flag or can it be a 1 time genuine mistake?
Q. Alright.... this post is simular to another one I have.... but I need to know how to go about regaining trust. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man but lately we hit a bumb and I can't seem to get over it. Here is the backstory.... Not lo...
A. 18 June 2008: I think it was just a screw-up. Things like this happen. We text our exes, get into deep conversation and it gets confusing.
He's admitted to screwing up and has given you access to his phone which I think is fair enough and you should be thankful... (read in full...)
My future mother-in-law sent 60 invitations and made arrangements for a formal dinner for the wedding but we have no money!??
Q. I am eighteen, have no parents and share a flat with two other girls. I am getting married at the end of the year to an only son whose parents, naturally worship him. His mother thinks I am going to turn him against her, which is the last thing I ...
A. 18 June 2008: She is only trying to help, yes but i, personally think it is a bit wrong of her to send out that many invites and force you to have a wedding you cannot afford.
You should talk to your fiance about it then to his mum about it but don't be force... (read in full...)
Should I send this email to my boyfriends friend?
Q. Hey, I recently found out that my 27 year old boyfriend's (J) 45 year old female friend (R) occasionally records erotic videos of herself and posts them up on the internet. Not only that, but my boyfriend was involved in recording some of them (just ...
A. 18 June 2008: I think, if you haven't, just tell your fella you found them and tell him you would like him to completely delete them off the hard drive. When/if you both split.
I'm sure she'll still have the vids saved.
If he understands he will delete them ... (read in full...)
Akward question about masturbation....
Q. This is an awkward question to ask, but here goes: I sometimes like fingering myself in the ass...I also I imagine girls doing it to me and even wearing strap-ons and humping me!I'm straight and only like girls that way,is there something wrong ...
A. 16 June 2008: Nope, nothing wrong with you. It's called experimenting. Everyone experiments to find out what they do and don't like.
As for the girl 'humping' you, you're curious I think. Curiosity is getting the better of you. There's a slight chance of you b... (read in full...)
Should I have a fling??! My wife has had two!!
Q. My wife had two affairs, each one with the excuse i wasn't giving her enough attention. How can you compete with someone trying to woo her for the first time, my mysteries have all been revealed already. Ive tried to carry on in the relation...
A. 16 June 2008: Just because your wife had 2 flings don't mean you should do it to her. You know how it felt, do you want her to feel the same? If you do decide to fling away there's a big chance your file will pull out the divorce papers on you and you know the ... (read in full...)
My nippes don't get hard!
Q. hi ok this is super embarrassing to talk abt whn me n my bf r havin sex or whn were fooling around my nipples dnt get hard at all the only time nethng like ths happens is whn im cold i wanna kno if thrs sumthng wrong with me cuz im embarrassed by ...
A. 16 June 2008: In response to your 2nd question I think getting a padded or water bra would make your boobs look bigger unless you mean look bigger when topless in which case I believe there are various food which can help but thats not a certainty, you'll have to ... (read in full...)
Could someone please clear up the 'Hymen Situation'?
Q. I am really confused about the 'hymen' situation, i have been horse-riding all my life - so has my hymen broke!? or will you just never know.... is sex easier when your hymen is broke?? :S...
A. 16 June 2008: Your hymen may or may not have broken during your horseriding time.
I've read in any places that horseriding does indeed break the hymen and possibly makes sex easier but I can't say from first hand experience (for obvious reasons).
But I g... (read in full...)
Go back or move on?
Q. It's now been almost a year since my first love broke up with me. We had been together for 2.5 years. He was young, immature, and acted stupidly when another girl chased after him. He broke my heart, ended it and went with another girl. We fo...
A. 16 June 2008: I think, as you are going off to uni (college) soon it would be best to not get with this guy again because it's only going to end in pain when you have to leave.
There'll be plenty of guys and new friends at uni and not to sound too harsh bu... (read in full...)
My nippes don't get hard!
Q. hi ok this is super embarrassing to talk abt whn me n my bf r havin sex or whn were fooling around my nipples dnt get hard at all the only time nethng like ths happens is whn im cold i wanna kno if thrs sumthng wrong with me cuz im embarrassed by ...
A. 16 June 2008: if your boyfriend truly loves you he won't laugh just because your nipples don't get hard.
We all have our bodily faults, that's life I'm afraid.
Your boyfriend is the last person you should be embarrassed about seeing your boobs.
Next t... (read in full...)
First time worries: I heard it may be painful... what to expect?
Q. Okay, i'm going to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time but i'm a bit nervous. I get the idea on here that it hurts, but others i have spoken to say it doesn't? How long could this go on for? ...
A. 16 June 2008: I've read/heard it can hurt the first few times then it gets nice. I'm sure its not unbearable pain but as its your first time you hymen (aka cherry) will break and there will be a little bit of blood but nothing to worry about.
Just use plenty o... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a classmate but she ignores me...what should I do!??
Q. im a 16 year old boy.i had a crush with a classmate of mine.but she ignores me.i dont no whether she likes me or not.please suggest me some idea....
A. 16 June 2008: Firstly let her know that you like her. But don't ask friends to tell her because girls just don't like that because they assume you have no confidence which is a turn-off for most, if not all, girls.
If you find out she likes you also then ask... (read in full...)
How do I know if I love her or just want her for sex?
Q. how i know if i love her or just i need her for sex?...
A. 16 June 2008: Have you just been having sex and not telling each other how you feel (Talking)?
or
Have you just been talking and had no sex or very little?
If yes to the 1st and no to the 2nd: You want her for sex
If no to the 1st and yes to the 2nd: Y... (read in full...)
Should I go further? I don't want to be a teenage dad!
Q. My girlfriend have been together have been together for nearly six months now and are very happy.We have got as far as me with my top off and her with her bra undone but still have her top on. I want to go a bit further and suggest oral but...
A. 15 June 2008: I wouldn't suggest oral for another year or so until you're legal because her parents won't be too happy with you and her and may even prevent you from seeing each other.
For now just keep it with kissing. I'm sure it can wait.... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain this dream?
Q. Right well i had this dream about this boy i like it went like me and him were going out togther and i was famous and i was walking and i saw he had sighed somthing saying i was fake then i was in the toliet then i came out and he was holding a cake ...
A. 15 June 2008: Its impossible to tell what a dream means. Most of the time they mean nothing as they are a metaphor.
This one is possibly a metaphor for you thinking he doesn't like you back.
Don't worry about it though, it was only a dream.
... (read in full...)
It's the first time I have seen (via the Net) how my ex is developing as a mother and I'm devastated that we are not together. How will I cope when the baby is born?
Q. i have been to counciling now for 3 weeks and it seems to be helping but today i feel devastated. I have hardly any contact with my ex who is expecting in november at all now. The only contact is seeing her post new pics on her facebook. It was her ...
A. 15 June 2008: I think you should support her while she's pregnant as its your kid too. Try and talk to her about it and offer your support. Send some messages over facebook or email. Or if you know where she lives give her a phone call.
I'm no legal person b... (read in full...)
Am I straight but curious or could I be gay? Please Help
Q. Well.....I wanna straight to the point. I am in college now. I had been labeling myself as straight, but recently I have a strong feeling to my bbf. Yeah, we such a really good friends. I do love to be around her. She always makes me happy. We both ...
A. 15 June 2008: Are you attracted to any other girls you know or just her? If so then you could be bi. It doesn't matter what your orientation is though.
If you love your boyfriend and want to stay with him then it must mean you are either straight, bi or just ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and isn't bothered about having another, I don't agree with that, but should I remain friends with him?
Q. I have been friends with this guy during our first year course. Initially, he seemed nice and genuine but as I spent more time with him, I learnt that he has a girlfriend and isn't bothered about having another. This made me look at him in a whole ...
A. 15 June 2008: You can be friends but make sure nothing funny happens between the two of you. He doesn't seem the smartest of people when it comes to relationships.
I'm not saying you should but if you know his girlfriend it might be a good idea to tell her what... (read in full...)
It doesn't feel like i`m in a relationship just feels like she lives with me.
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 6 years. 2 years ago we had broken up for a whole year, cause "I" didn`t make her happy and she had found someone who did. after a few months she left this other person. then tried very hard to be with me again. i ...
A. 15 June 2008: You should talk to her and tell her you want to move away and would like to take her and your son with you and ask what she thinks.
If she says no then -even if it hurts - you should do what you want.
Good luck
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Are these signs I need glasses?
Q. When I read I begin to get a headache come on and I need to blink excessively and my eyes sometimes water. The sun and computer screens make my eyes hurt after a while even when distanced away from me. I've begun leaving curtains closed wh...
A. 15 June 2008: Thanks for the answers. I'll take the advice and get an eye check. I think I could do with one as i haven't been checked since i was about 15 or 16 =/... (read in full...)
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