I want my revenge!
Q. I am going crazy because of his sexual past. I think its because it happened while we were broken up. I feel as though, if he hadn't messed up the way he did, none of it would have happened. We wouldn't have broken up and it wouldnt have happened. ...
A. 27 March 2012: No, it doesn't change my mind. I don't care about technicalities; I care about moral responsibility and respect. Clearly you do too, or you wouldn't be this upset. I have yet to meet a man or a woman, who does not feel betrayed and cheated on, when ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to start showing other people we are together so they know not to mess with our relationship?
Q. Hello guys I need a mature advice of dealing with this situation. I am in a LDR. There seem to be a trust issue that I have gotten over after I did all my homework and realize that my man is not physically cheating. Hey I have friends too in my area ...
A. 27 March 2012: I don't think you're over-analyzing. I don't think any woman would be happy in your situation. You're dating a man, who needs attention from other women because he gets off on it. I can understand that to some extent. We all want to be reminded that ... (read in full...)
Why on earth would a woman say something like that to her husband? Should I start playing the same game, to make her realize that I can stray if I am not getting what I want at home?
Q. My wife and I are in our mid 40's and have been married a long time. Lately she has been changing quite a bit: working out a lot, getting botox, wearing revealing clothes out with ner girlfriends, communicating with guys she used to know from high ...
A. 27 March 2012: I would think that at your age you would know better than to play games as a retaliation tactic. Only she knows why she has amp-ted up her sex appeal. You will have to ask her why she has changed. Maybe she feels more sexual, or confident, maybe she ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to start showing other people we are together so they know not to mess with our relationship?
Q. Hello guys I need a mature advice of dealing with this situation. I am in a LDR. There seem to be a trust issue that I have gotten over after I did all my homework and realize that my man is not physically cheating. Hey I have friends too in my area ...
A. 26 March 2012: I too don't "flaunt" or mention my relationship status to people that I don't know very well, or strangers. It is my private life and I don't think it's anyone's business to know. At the same time, my FB status says that I am engaged. Why? Because ... (read in full...)
Met on a sugar daddy website but it hasn't turned out to be that kind of arrangement, do you think anything serious can come of this?
Q. To Whom it may concern: About two months ago I met someone online on a sugar daddy website. It was the first time either of us has ever met up with anyone from the website. Lets call him Jack. Jack is 39 and very wealthy. His work causes him to tr...
A. 26 March 2012: You have met a total of two times and you had sex on both occasions. As a sugar baby you have fulfilled your purpose: you gave him sex each time you met. You on the other hand seem to only have gotten 2 "nice" dinners. Is that the common transaction ... (read in full...)
Dating a divorced man
Q. Hi everyone! I have been with this guy for 2 months now and he is in the process of getting a divorce. He was very honest to me in the very first time. He told me after he broke up with his ex wife, he only went out with 4 girls and nothing seri...
A. 26 March 2012: He is playing you and every other woman, who is allowing it. He doesn't want to be with anyone at the moment. He even told you he doesn't want to be in a relationship. You're not any different than the other 4 girls, or the girl that he recently ... (read in full...)
I want my revenge!
Q. I am going crazy because of his sexual past. I think its because it happened while we were broken up. I feel as though, if he hadn't messed up the way he did, none of it would have happened. We wouldn't have broken up and it wouldnt have happened. ...
A. 25 March 2012: It has been a week, so you will naturally be still very upset. You have every right to be angry, but if you go through with your plan, it won't cause any pain to your husband. Think about this for a second...Why would he feel hurt or devastated if ... (read in full...)
My wife agreed to introduce this third woman into our sex life to spice things up, but now I have feelings for her. My insecure wife is fine with other women but not this one, why doesn't she want me to be happy?
Q. My wife and I have been married 14 years. Pregnant at 17 but in love at the time. Because of the diffucultys of being young parents we went through a lot of struggles. I feel this had a registering effect on some of our marriage because of the ...
A. 22 March 2012: "By involving this other girl in our life, doesn't it make her selfish to suddenly end things because of her own feelings toward it without really giving it a chance to work in the first place."
Suddenly? Ehhh.....I don't think a a year is sudd... (read in full...)
Why does it feel like I'm the one having to make all the moves?
Q. Tell it to me straight people I especially need some advice from The men I'm seeing a man it's been about a month maybe once a week, but we go way back there's history. We've had three sleepover dates and lots of making out but I won't let him sl...
A. 22 March 2012: You have been seeing him for ONE month, once a week. That means you've seen him a total of 4 times! No, you shouldn't be sleeping with him as Kyle suggested, nor should you be having sleep-over parties. Sorry, he just doesn't seem that interested. ... (read in full...)
My wife agreed to introduce this third woman into our sex life to spice things up, but now I have feelings for her. My insecure wife is fine with other women but not this one, why doesn't she want me to be happy?
Q. My wife and I have been married 14 years. Pregnant at 17 but in love at the time. Because of the diffucultys of being young parents we went through a lot of struggles. I feel this had a registering effect on some of our marriage because of the ...
A. 22 March 2012: Welcome to the realm of reality OP! You see in the real world, no partner will idly sit by and rejoice in the fact that their partner is banging someone, who they have feelings for. You're in love with two women and these two women love you. It ... (read in full...)
Getting increasingly concerned about my girlfriend's friendship with a guy who fancies her....
Q. Been with my partner for 5 years things have been great and have not really had any issues with jealousy until now, my gf is constantly talking/hanging out with this male school friend of hers from high school who does fancy her and is single (she ...
A. 21 March 2012: I am going to give you the same Spiel that I would give if a female had written this post - BE WARY. Very wary at that. It's always a red flag to me when your partner KNOWS how much this arrangement is bothering you and she is continuing it ... (read in full...)
B/f loves me but he's close to his best female friend and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My fiance is in love with his best friend. They have known eachother since they were very young and have always been close. They used to 'play dirty', like most kids do I guess, when they were about 7. They grew up together and he tried to start a ...
A. 19 March 2012: " he told me that he would be willing to never see her again if I asked. I feel that this would be extreme"
Actually that would not have been extreme at all. THAT would have been the best choice for both of you. You can't move on and fall out of l... (read in full...)
Relationship at a cross roads, should I move to another country to be with him, or just let it go?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly five years. I am 29, he is 26. We were friends before we started dating for two years. After three years of living together, my boyfriend got an offer to finish his PhD in another country. At firs...
A. 19 March 2012: "I asked him if he thought our relationship would lead to marriage, because I didn't want to move to another country for someone who wasn't pretty sure."
You have lived together for 3 years and you want to know that full commitment in order to... (read in full...)
B/f loves me but he's close to his best female friend and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My fiance is in love with his best friend. They have known eachother since they were very young and have always been close. They used to 'play dirty', like most kids do I guess, when they were about 7. They grew up together and he tried to start a ...
A. 18 March 2012: You're feeling second best because to him you ARE second-best. He is still holding a candle for his best friend. If she agreed to have a relationship with him, he would leave you in a heartbeat, or cheat on you.
1. He is in love with her
2. He... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my b/f of 7 years is ever going to totally commit to me
Q. Hi everyone, I would realy appreciate your thoughts on my situation as I am very confused. I have been with my boyfreind for seven years, I have two children and he has two grown up and a seven yr old. He proposed to me early on giving me a ...
A. 17 March 2012: "maybe im destined to be just a girlfreind forever"
No, you're not destined for anything. If you end up being his girlfriend until the day you die, it's going to be because you CHOSE that route. You can't play the victim card forever OP. He canno... (read in full...)
Mother-in-law!!!!!!!!!!! HELP! The woman is insane!!!!
Q. My boyfriends mother is causing problems in our relationship. We've been together 2 years, we are incredibly happy and never argue as we're so laid back, compatible and very much in love. However.... he has an incredibly controlling mother. ...
A. 17 March 2012: You mention that she drinks and that she gets very defensive/crazy when her alcohol consumption is brought up. Is she a functional alcoholic? If she is an alcoholic, all her negativity, her hatred and the way she behaves could very well be a direct ... (read in full...)
Married women: what could your hubby do to rekindle the fire of your attraction and affection?
Q. A question for the married women: what could your husband do to spark a fire of romance, excitement, strong feelings of love or attachment? I feel like my wife is drifting away. What things can I do to rekindle her interest, return that warm glow ...
A. 14 March 2012: The best way to get back into romance and together time is to book a romantic getaway or vacation, preferably vacation. Just you, her and a beautiful location with some great scenery.If you cannot do that because of finances, I suggest doing ... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? should I say anything to her or let it go?
Q. I NEED SO MUCH HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!A couple weeks ago my GF and I broke up. We broke up for the weekend. She thought/thinks I am not the type to go hook up with other girls. Just because of my past and just who I am.. Well dating her I changed....
A. 13 March 2012: If I were in her situation, I would want to know. I don't think anyone, male or female, wants their partner to hook up with anyone the moment they break up, ESPECIALLY with their friends. It's disrespectful, it minimizes your emotions, it discredits ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to ignore his ex's pregnancy and marry me
Q. My boyfriend and I had a brief break up in January an during our break up he had a brief sexual encounter with a young woman (she is about 25) he is 49. He also has Bipolar 2. She is now pregnant. He says he does not want anyhting to do with her ...
A. 13 March 2012: Well of course he will see her - they're NEIGHBORS! He will see her, you will see her. You will see their kid regularly. and it's going to be a constant reminder of what he did. If he wants nothing to do with his baby, how honorable of a man could ... (read in full...)
The girl I was dating slept with a co-worker and then ended things with me. Did I dodge a bullet?
Q. About a month ago, I went on a chat site when I was at a loose end, I wasn't looking for anyone but ended up chatting to a girl. She gave me her number, we texted and eventually decided to meet. She looked lovely, genuine, and said she looked f...
A. 12 March 2012: You two had a brief dating period where you were not exclusively monogamous. During this time, she met someone who she was more interested in pursuing, and you got dumped. Her job has nothing to do with her choosing another man over you, or ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a relationship, but has never been happier when he is with me! What is going on? Has he broken up with me for good?
Q. I am 30 and my ex is 33 we were together for 16 months and we were extremely happy, rarely argued and laughed a lot. I saw him about 4 times a week and I always stayed at his as I currently love at home with my parents – I have just bought a flat ...
A. 12 March 2012: The bottom line is that he has doubts about you, your relationship and your future. If you search on here, you will find plenty of submittals, where the men appear to be happy in a relationship and suddenly they dump their partners, leaving them ... (read in full...)
Is this guy back together with his ex or are they still just good friends?
Q. I met a really nice guy a couple of weeks ago and I really like him. We met for a coffee a few times before he moved a 3 hour drive away for work and we haven't really been in contact since. He broke up with girlfriend just before Christma...
A. 12 March 2012: No one here will be able to tell you whether or not they are back together. If you want to know, you'll have to do the adult thing and ask! Frankly, if you haven't been in contact with him since he moved away, I strongly doubt he'll want to pursue ... (read in full...)
Art for art's sake!
Q. Is it odd that my husband of 11 yrs...all of a sudden wants to get a "portrait of a naked woman" to go in our home..?? I think its insulting and like a "single "man thing. ...
A. 10 March 2012: I don't think there is anything wrong with nudes. It's a portrait, so I am assuming it's artistic. It doesn't look like a spread of Playboy or some nudie magazine, nor is it a still life taken from a porn flick. I am engaged and I have a nude up. ... (read in full...)
He's happy to be in an open relationship with me, as I find sex with him to be not very good.
Q. So I am in a relationship with a man who is almost perfect in every way. We have been togeter for about two and a half years now. He treats me well, and takes very good care of me. I thought he was my soul mate, and we have talked about getting ...
A. 9 March 2012: If you can't even tell your best friend or your family that your sex life sucks, how would you ever tell anyone that you're in an one-sided open relationship? You really want to pretend everything is great and perfect while banging other guys on the ... (read in full...)
He's happy to be in an open relationship with me, as I find sex with him to be not very good.
Q. So I am in a relationship with a man who is almost perfect in every way. We have been togeter for about two and a half years now. He treats me well, and takes very good care of me. I thought he was my soul mate, and we have talked about getting ...
A. 9 March 2012: You're very sexual as you say. If you had a low sex drive and sex wasn't important to you, maybe you could deal and accept his short-comings....BUT since you're a very sexual person, I don't see how you could continue your relationship with this ... (read in full...)
He's happy to be in an open relationship with me, as I find sex with him to be not very good.
Q. So I am in a relationship with a man who is almost perfect in every way. We have been togeter for about two and a half years now. He treats me well, and takes very good care of me. I thought he was my soul mate, and we have talked about getting ...
A. 9 March 2012: "All our friends and family look at us and think we are the perfect couple, living the perfect life. Because of this, this is something that I cant tell anybody. I dont even feel comfortable asking my best friend for advice." Well, you're n... (read in full...)
I'm losing my confidence as my bf keeps saying I dress like a slag!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I am 18 years old and he is more than 10 years older than me. A massive problem has arised which is my apparent "dress sense". I am constantly called a slag and a attention seeker for wearing what I see ...
A. 7 March 2012: You're young, you're hot and chances are he's threatened by it. Why? Because he's much older than you. He knows he's the old guy with the young, hot girlfriend. He doesn't want you to show skin because he's an insecure douche. He knows your looks ... (read in full...)
Am I never going to be good enough for this guy?
Q. I need help - especially from guys! My boyfriend is 40, and I am in my early 30s. He also suffers a lot with anxiety (both social and sexual). We have been living together for 3 years. We get along great, and we rarely argue. We have a lot ...
A. 7 March 2012: "he tried to break up our relationship, saying that he had doubts whether I was the right person. He made a lot of personal criticisms about me (for example, that I didn't 'enhance his social status' and that our relationship 'wasn't good because it ... (read in full...)
Found husband on facebook asking to have sex with a girl and now when we have sex he goes limp
Q. i dont knw what to think please help.... one nite when my husband was sleeping i checked his facebook and he was telling all these girls they were beautiful whick botherd me but not as much as this other girl. he had been having alot of messages ...
A. 7 March 2012: Hold on a second. You found your husband whoring himself out to a bunch of women on FB and when confronted he lied about it. And what do you do? You have sex with him? The real question is: why are you having sex with a man, who has not only lied to ... (read in full...)
I want him back but he has somebody new
Q. I really miss my ex we were together for almost a year and have been broken up for a little over a month he is seeing someone what do i do just wait for an opportunity he isn't speaking to me at all right now. The break up was his idea. And i want ...
A. 7 March 2012: You may want him back, but he doesn't want to get back together. In fact, he doesn't want you at all. He dumped you, so that he can pursue other women. You're old enough to know when someone doesn't want you, they don't want you. To reiterate:
1... (read in full...)
My boyfriend helps himself to the food in my home and I don't like it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months. I see him at weekends and he stays at my house. When we go out he pays for meals. I am also generous. However, he gets up in the night or early morning and helps himself to food in my house. This really ...
A. 6 March 2012: I do have to ask: are you like this with everyone? Are you stingy when it comes to sharing food with friends and family as well, or is it just him? Do you have free access to his food when you're at his place? Do you feel that he is cheap and ... (read in full...)
This kind sweet man is a cheater!
Q. Hi All! I am in a relationship with my colleague since a year. I'm 23 years old while he is 41 years old. He is separated (they used to have a lot of arguments) and has two kids who he meets regularly. He is a really nice guy. Friendly, helpf...
A. 4 March 2012: My uncle is a huge manwhore and serial cheater with many great qualities. He is very charming, generous, attentive, romantic and vivacious. Men, women, children and even animals adore him. He is in fact my favorite uncle and I love him dearly, but ... (read in full...)
Should I propose or is it too soon, is she too young?
Q. I'm French and I am in a relationship with an Irish girl . I am 37 and she is 21 . She was 17 when i met her first , yes i know she was young and i did try to not let my feelings get me but they did :-( I am with her 2 and a half years and i real...
A. 3 March 2012: "Do you think it is too soon for me to ask her?" No I don't think it's too soon. You've known been dating for 2 years and most importantly, you have been living together for an entire year. Based on the fact that you have lived for 1 year, I don't ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want to put on facebook that he is in a relationship
Q. okay my boyfriend and i have both have a facebook he use to not have problem with putting that he is in a relationship with me now he don't want to he just wants to keep it as single. i have begged him to change it cause ill feel more comfortable ...
A. 3 March 2012: Isn't it funny that he is trying to avoid "drama" with the entire FB relationship status, yet he is causing drama with you? Let's look at this objectively for moment. His whole argument is that FB is pointless and that it will cause drama. 1. How... (read in full...)
My sister tried to break up my marriage and I can't get past it
Q. I am stuck. I am not able to move on after being hurt/betrayed by my sister who tried to break up my marrage and be with my husband. I want to be less angry and afraid. The pain at times is too much. I have become depressed and angry. I need to ...
A. 3 March 2012: I am usually not the type to recommend counseling, but you may actually really benefit from this. Have you spoken to your sister about any of this? Have you heard her side of the story? I do realize that you're in one of the worst case scenarios: ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a pedophile for watching cartoon toddler porn?
Q. Is my boyfriend a pedophile for looking at cartoon porn depicting very young children? We've been going out for 6 months and since we've moved in together I've been secretly snooping on his laptop and have found many things that have disturbed me. ...
A. 3 March 2012: One of my friends was living next to a pedophile. Her parents thought he was a kind, good-natured, gentle old man. No one in the neighborhood suspected that he was a pedo. Just because you're a pedophile doesn't mean you're a horrible person. You ... (read in full...)
Has anyone here risked everything to follow their heart? What was the outcome?
Q. Here is my question: aunts, have any of you (male or female) ever taken a major risk in order to follow your heart? If so, what was the outcome? Do you regret the decision? And here is why I ask. My boyfriend's job has given him notice that he m...
A. 3 March 2012: My mother has forsaken her career objectives and her country to be with my dad and she resents him and herself to this day. We all get to listen to her bitterly rant about it once in a while. :) All the women that I know who have moved to a ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to date him because of his race
Q. hi i have met a wonderful man online and we talk on the phone a lot, we will be meeting soon. i cant seem to get him put of my mind he is amazing! only problem is his asian and im white! if we actually did start a relationship, my faimily would ne...
A. 3 March 2012: You need to relax. You haven't even met this man in real life yet. So far your online affair has been reduced to the internet and phone. You can't start imagining a future with him and how your family will react, if you haven't even met, and if you ... (read in full...)
I found my husband was looking for sex with a transexual! What should I do?
Q. Last week i went on the history tab on my computer and found a transexual dating site. As i hadn't visited it i checked my husbands emails to find that he had joined this site. I entered his password and found he was looking for a descreet ...
A. 1 March 2012: I consider your post on the disturbing side. It's one thing to find your husband whoring himself out for casual sex on the internet, but it's another to find out he has a secret sexual thing for transsexuals on top of it.
Has he ever told you he l... (read in full...)
Ladies, would you go out with a guy who asked you out straight away?
Q. As the above question says, would you go out on a date with a guy who you had only met on that occasion asked you out at the end of the evening? If you perceive that as needy, if a guy fancies a girl when should he ask her out?...
A. 1 March 2012: No, what you're suggesting is something a NORMAL, healthy and confident man would do. Wimpy men, who need more reassurance because they fear rejection, wait around. Women like to be pursued and they like confident men. If your conversation went well ... (read in full...)
He has the ring. When will he find the right moment? Should I wait?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years this June. We have a great relationship and have lived together for the past 2 years. I trust him and he has never given me a reason not to. We are very close and are best friends and lovers. 2 1/2 years ago ...
A. 1 March 2012: It's all up to you. How much longer do YOU want to wait? We all have a breaking point. Obviously you wouldn't want him to propose in a few days with all this negativity lingering as it would really dampen the actual engagement. At this point, I ... (read in full...)
I feel like an outsider after our discussion about wills and money!
Q. HI guys. I have posted questions on here before and had some really good advice so hope you can help. To cut a long story short, I have been with my partner almost four years and we are reasonably happy. It started out long distant but i mo...
A. 29 February 2012: As your update indicates, he has no intention of getting married to you, so you will always be the "girlfriend" hence your chances of being included in his will are slim to nonexistent. Did you know that he never intended to marry you before you ... (read in full...)
He has the ring. When will he find the right moment? Should I wait?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years this June. We have a great relationship and have lived together for the past 2 years. I trust him and he has never given me a reason not to. We are very close and are best friends and lovers. 2 1/2 years ago ...
A. 26 February 2012: My first question is: have you spoken about engagement and marriage? Do you know when he would like to propose, aside from the "waiting for the perfect moment"? Did he actually buy the ring for you, or is it a family heirloom, or an engagement ring ... (read in full...)
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