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writes:To Whom it may concern:About two months ago I met someone online on a sugar daddy website. It was the first time either of us has ever met up with anyone from the website. Lets call him Jack. Jack is 39 and very wealthy. His work causes him to travel a lot. He broke off his engagement of about a year off back in November. I am 19 and currently a student. Jack and I have only met up twice so far. Both times we went out to a very nice dinner and after we had sex. Jack is a gentlemen in all areas; during the intercourse he always pleases me first and if a position hurts he will change it to what he can tell I am comfortable with. Though we met on a sugar daddy website. Jack and I have never made arrangements for pay or anything to make it seem like that type of arrangement. I guess it feels more like casual dating. I once asked Jack what we were doing and he replied "getting to know each other right now and seeing if we are compatible." He texts me everyday since the first time we have talked. But sometimes he will answer right away, but a majority of the time he takes anywhere from an hour to 3 hours to reply to me. I know he is busy being away for work, but does this mean anything? I have come to develop feelings for Jack, but I am not quite sure what he is looking for and I find it awkward to ask because of how we met and also the age difference... I was wondering if you could help me and give me some advice as to what he may want or be thinking. How should I act towards the situation? Also with the communication when we aren't together with him taking hours to answer me. Should I not answer him right away? Do you think anything serious could ever come out of this? What is your opinion about the situation; any advice you could give me would be great.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (27 March 2012):
Girl, if you want money for sex, become a prostitute and charge for your services. Don't expect him to treat you on things when you're giving it up for free.
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (27 March 2012):
Jack knows what he's doing, you just don't know what Jack is doing. Don't be fooled by Mr. Jack, Mr. Jack may not be as wealthy as he say he is. I think you're just a young piece of meat to Jack, you know nothing about this guy, only what he tells you, a lot of broke guys can get a young girl really fast on sugar daddy website because they know that these young girl on this site are looking for money.
No way on the face of this earth will I have sex with a man the first time I meet him. You say he always text you back from one to three hours, thats because he's on sugar daddy website looking for more sugar babies. looks like you got a lot to learn, I hope you wake up and find a nice guy around your age, don't think you're the only sugar baby Jack is seeing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): Hun you're no sugar baby, make no mistake you're just his booty call, as a sugar daddy he should offer you more than just a steak, ask him how many sugar babies he had before, how were their arrangement, certainly it MUST involve more than a fancy dinner. In one of those text messages make it clear that next time you'll meet you want more than a good time, Tell him to show his affection to you in a tangible way.
Sugar baby is some cute name for escort, I've never seen an escort who doesn't make it clear to the guy she's going out, how much the privilege costs
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (26 March 2012):
 You have met a total of two times and you had sex on both occasions. As a sugar baby you have fulfilled your purpose: you gave him sex each time you met. You on the other hand seem to only have gotten 2 "nice" dinners. Is that the common transaction these days? I was under the impression that sugar daddies also give you money to shop for clothes, paying some of your bills, taking you on trips, ect. for the exchange of being around a young woman and sex. You mistake his talking and the fact that he is not selfish in the bedroom as having feelings or an interest in you. Of course he has to talk to you. He's old enough to know that you have to be in communication with the woman who is giving you sex. He knows if he never spoke to you and just demanded sex that he would most likely lose you to another sugar daddy. Would you or any girl that you know sleep with a guy that never speaks to them, never shows any interest in anything you have to say, and just demands sex out of the blue? No, right? Well, he is 39 with plenty of experience with women and knows how they work. He knows he has more chances of you putting out if he talks and listens to you. He makes sure you have an orgasm in order for you to keep sleeping with him. It doesn't change the fact that he only wants sex from you.Keep in mind that this is very early on in the game. Like you said, you have only met twice. Most people are on their best behavior in the beginning. He could very well decrease his communication and becoming more selfish in the bedroom. He could dump you for another sugar baby and start the cycle again. The second you come to terms that you are essentially prostituting yourself out to older men for nice dinners, ect. the sooner you can accept that they are never going to be interested in anything more. They see you as sex providers and as arm candy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 March 2012):
 Be yourself… maybe he doesn’t like texting most mature people don’t have relationships via text….
Bascially honey you are just a cheap call girl to him right now.. he puts out dinner and you spread your legs for him…
A true sugar daddy… he’d put you up in an apartment and you would be at his beck and call.
There is a 20 year age gap and at 39 and 19 that’s a lot… at 29 and 49 it’s not quite so bad…..
At this point, with you putting out from date one… I doubt strongly that anything is ever going to be serious…
If you want a serious relationship find a serious website to use for dating…
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): Agreed.
To those who lack self worth, self esteem, such an avenue and 'arrangement' is not how to go about building a loving, trusting relationship.
And at the expense of your inner, beautiful self?
From what I gather, you use that site to get material goods and money and bills paid in exchange for being a good looking woman for the man AND to provide sex.
No Love, No Friendship, No Honour.
You asked him what are we doing? His response, getting to know one another to see if we are compatible. TRANSLATION: We are humping one another and compatibility doesn't matter sh*t.
Get your Butt off of that site. Do some honest dating if you are wanting and desire Love, Acceptance, Friendship and to be cherished.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 March 2012):
 What are you expecting from Jack?
To be your "client AKA Sugar Daddy or lover?
And honestly, I think he is using you for sex. He is 39 and gets of on having some 19 year old he can call for booty calls.
Stop SELLING yourself short and have some self respect!
Having a "sugar-daddy" is akin to prostituting yourself for material good, is that really who you are?
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