My guy says he will be dating another girl ...
Q. One day my guy told me he doesn't want to hide anything from me so i should ask me anything. i then asked him what he has been hidding from me and he said a girl asked him to date her so now he's dating her even though he doesn't love her. He said ...
A. 1 July 2012: "Should i believe him?"
Should you believe what exactly? That your boyfriend is dating other women, that he is having sex with other girls beside you? Yes, you better believe it! He even told you he is dating someone else already. Why wouldn't... (read in full...)
How can I get over this paranoia I can't help having? About him and other girls?
Q. So I was seeing someone a few months ago and it went really well. I've never known anyone to make me feel so good about myself and happy. Anyway long story short, he got really hurt in his last relationship and so decided he isn't ready for a new ...
A. 1 July 2012: "Basically I just want advice on how I can get over paranoia of him and other girls. "
Crush any remaining hopes and dreams of you two together. You're not together and he has no responsibilities to you or your feelings. You're not his gf and he i... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me? I’ve had two boyfriends and both have left me.
Q. I am a 27 years old woman who had had two boyfriends: my first boyfriend cheated on me, we were children (15 at the time) but it still hurt so bad I didn’t get a boyfriend for 3 years after that. The second one is a little more complicated. Two ...
A. 1 July 2012: "What is wrong with me? I’ve had two boyfriends and both have left me."
2 is HARDLY a number you should be concerned with. 2 is practically nothing. If 10 good men had left you, then yes, you may have a reason to question your own self - but two?... (read in full...)
My younger brother is getting married while I have yet to have ANY woman be romantically or sexually interested in me
Q. I'm 29, my brother is 26 and he recently proposed to his girlfriend. I am very happy for them both, but also jealous. I have yet to have ANY woman be romantically or sexually interested in me and I don't have the guts to put myself out there...
A. 30 June 2012: "I have yet to have ANY woman be romantically or sexually interested in me and I don't have the guts to put myself out there to pursue women or express myself sexually. "
If you don't have women lined up to pursue you, you have to realize that YOU... (read in full...)
He says he wants a casual relationship but I want him to commit
Q. I recently got into a casual relationship with an ex, we were only together briefly but we really had feelings for each other. The relationship ended on a good note. So now we've decided to see each other again and he put it out straight at the ...
A. 28 June 2012: "How do I make him commit? "
That's like your FWB guy asking "How do I get her sleep with me, take all my BS, and have her not develop any feelings for me or wanting a serious relationship?" Is there something he can magically do to fulfill ... (read in full...)
Guilty of leaving my wife and son for my mistress! What should I do?
Q. This is a tough one. I been separated from my wife of 10 years for 9 months now. We have a loving 2 year old boy. The reason for the separation is because I fell in love with my mistress. I been living with her now and we now have a relationship ...
A. 28 June 2012: "My wife isn't a bad woman. She's sweet and kind and loving, but my love for her is not the same anymore. "
If you don't feel the same about her anymore, and if you love your current mistress more than your wife, why entertain the idea of giving y... (read in full...)
He has ignored me for 4 weeks, what shall I do?
Q. Hello, I have been with a man for six years now and he has left me several times, not ever actually 'ending it' but just freezin me out, ignoring messages etc. I thought that we were done with all that and the last time was a year ago now, however ...
A. 28 June 2012: "I have been with a man for six years now and he has left me several times"
Read that to yourself. I think this pretty much summarizes everything you need to know. 6 years is a long time to spend with someone. Clearly during the 6 years, you have... (read in full...)
I stick to my values and principles, am I wrong?
Q. I would be very grateful to get ladies view on this issue. I am a woman in my forties and very attractive, I started internet dating, I put on my profile that I take time to get to know someone and till I have feelings for them I do not have se...
A. 28 June 2012: I just have to ask this: if you don't want to kiss on the first date, how is it that men are shoving their tongues in your mouth? No man can kiss much less shove their tongue down your throat if you turn your head away, or tells them to stop, unless ... (read in full...)
How small is too small in the penis department?
Q. Hi there Me and my gf are getting to the point where sex is the next move and I am not to worried about it I will do my best but I was just wondering Because she likes big penises she told me and I'm not to bad in that department but how how smal...
A. 27 June 2012: If you suck in bed, it doesn't matter how big or small you are. If she likes big dick, then guess what? She may think you're not ideal. If she told you that your junk is acceptable, then take it as is. It's not ideal, but it's not something she's ... (read in full...)
How do I trust her and accept her past?
Q. I apologize for the length, but I don't know how to condense this or make it concise, as to me, it's complicated, so I'll try to get as much relevant information out as well as the main question/questions: how do I ask her if she's been with other's ...
A. 27 June 2012: Here are a few things that jumped put at me: "I've recently quit drinking, and while the feelings remain, I don't feel exactly the same around her." "the knowledge of her past makes me see her differently, no longer as someone I want... (read in full...)
Is she interested in a threesome or not?
Q. I have discussed with my wife having a threesome. We were watching porn one evening and I asked her if she would prefer mfm or fmf, she said mfm of course if she was to do it and she was not that interested. Ok....I did get an answer. The ...
A. 26 June 2012: You're just a horny guy. he said of course if she was to do it and she was not that interested. Ok....I did get an answer. Exactly, she said she is not interested when you had a SOBER discussion But for your sake, let's take a look at the other... (read in full...)
I feel ready to have children but don't have anyone in my life yet. I'm not sure I am happy with the timeline I see for myself having children!
Q. I am a 23 year teacher, single, own place to live, own car, good friends and supportive family. I am desperate to have a baby, and no it isn't to fill a void or anything like that. It's the one thing that I dream of most and my biggest goal in life ...
A. 19 June 2012: It's interesting to read your post, as I am 27 years old, engaged and not interested in having children. :) All I can tell you is this: welcome to the real world where plans never quite work out as planed. You may have children at 27 or 36. You ... (read in full...)
Any ideas for getting ahead without selling my soul?
Q. Hi everyone I need help! I love my job but it seems like I get passed over for promotions and projects. There is one other woman that works with me and everyone seems to love her. She is very lazy and does the bare minimum but still gets lots of ...
A. 19 June 2012: Look at this objectively. What traits did those who were promoted have? Were their competent? Did they have seniority over you in the company? Do they have superior people skills? Are they in the loop when it comes to office politics? Are they more ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 19 June 2012: "I dont know about you but if I was wearing a thousand pound satin dress melting to my body for hours and hours I wouldnt be enjoying myself. " You have to realize that THAT is you. YOU are the one who feels you need to have a certain dress for... (read in full...)
My b/f has been posting naked pics of himself and interacting with other gay men but I cant even tell him I know this because I snooped into his phone and discovered this!
Q. Hello everyone, I am stuck in a desperate situation with my current boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years on and off but we have been stable for the last 8months and there months ago he moved in with me. we have always have issues with me ...
A. 16 June 2012: "I don't know what to say to him since the only way I found this out was by connecting his phone and he is going to get furious! "
Umm, who cares how he feels? What do you think is more upsetting and more serious:
a. Snooping on your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I asked him out over facebook messaging 3 days ago and he hasn't replied! Why?
Q. So I'm sad and confused right now. A little less than two years ago, i started to have a crush on a guy in my class, "Sam". Sam had a girlfriend, a really pretty one, but he would look at me sometimes during class, and if i would look at him, he ...
A. 11 June 2012: He isn't interested in dating you. He may enjoy flirting, or hanging out, but he doesn't want to date you or have you as a girlfriend. If he did, he would be with you. He already has a girlfriend, and even if he were single, he would have replied or ... (read in full...)
Friend's dad has the HOTS for me! SOS!
Q. Hey everyone so I think my friend's dad has the hots for me. I know he's really friendly and that's what i thought at first. I spend a Saturday evening with my friend and then we went to her house to watch the game. When I went her dad didn't k...
A. 11 June 2012: You're around a total creep, possibly a pedophile and rapist. There is your answer. This is not normal, or healthy behavior for an adult male. My advise to you is to NEVER spend any alone time with this man. He will only get bolder and more forward ... (read in full...)
Do you believe a cheater can change their ways?
Q. Do you believe a cheater can change their ways?? Ive been with my boyf for 2yrs, he was with his ex partner for 15yrs and hav 2 children together. I hav no reason to think he's cheating on me, but he confessed when he was drunk that he cheated on ...
A. 6 June 2012: "He said most of the times it was all about seeing if he cud get away wiv it." If that is the reason why he cheats, then YES, you should be very concerned. How are you or any other woman different then? The situation is the same: he is a committe... (read in full...)
Am I right to be jealous of my wife's new 'guy friend'? It goes so far that she even does his laundry!
Q. So, my wife and I have been married 12 yrs, and have always been admired for our relationship. About 6 months ago she started sharing her office with a single man, who quickly turned into her "guy friend". Since then, she's spent a lot of time ...
A. 30 May 2012: Business trips, going to lunch and rounding up several co-workers after work hours is completely fine. Hanging out at their apartment alone, doing their laundry is when it goes into creep mode. Frankly, it wouldn't surprise me if she is having an ... (read in full...)
I really like two women. One is available. The other isn't ready for a relationship right now. What do I do?
Q. I need some help! I am a single male. I was divorced ten years ago. I got out of a long term relationship two years ago. I have had time on my own and I am ready to date again. This is my problem. I have two lady friends. Both are attractive a...
A. 30 May 2012: I am not sure why you're asking which one to choose, as you have made it abundantly clear that you made your choice. It is very obvious that you are not interested in #1. You're simply interested in using her time and body until #2 becomes ... (read in full...)
Is my jealousy valid over this girl?
Q. I think my boyfriend may like his female friend (FF) He's known her about 6-12 months before me, but never really saw her face to face, until he went to school. He met her in school about 1 month, before meeting me. Here's what he's done: ...
A. 23 May 2012: There is nothing normal or appropriate about their relationship. It's unfortunate that you're questioning your own sanity and the glaringly obvious disrespect. 9/10 when you ask if something is off, it IS off. In your situation, you are 1000% ... (read in full...)
Can a man become friends with a woman while already being in a relationship?
Q. This is probably a very common question but i'd like to get some answers from both girls and guys perspective. I've been with my bf for 8 months. He's very outgoing, chatty and charming and he loves to meet new people. He happens to be attractive as ...
A. 15 May 2012: "He's also recently met a lot of new people in his life and made some new friends, all females,"
You say that he is outgoing, chatty, charming, attractive and likes to meet new people. Is it new people or is it just WOMEN? You do mention that the... (read in full...)
What general qualities do women look for in a potential boyfriend?
Q. Hello all, I want to know that general qualities that women look for in men. I have never seen myself as "boyfriend" material as a lot of other guys. I consider myself massively confident partially due to the anxiety of saying the wrong thin...
A. 15 May 2012: "tend not to try to be funny other than accidentally"
Are you or are you not naturally funny? Do you have a good sense of humor? Many women like a man with a good sense of humor or a funny man. In fact, I would never date anyone that didn't h... (read in full...)
Need help! Really need to get the liar back for what he did.
Q. So basically it's been a long night, my boyfriend well now ex has decided to tell me that he cheated on me, obviously it has really hurt, but I need a way to get him back. I know I shouldn't sink down to his level but I'm going to do it anyway, he ...
A. 15 May 2012: You can't hurt him because you're the only one that cares. He obviously didn't care or love you and that is why he cheated on you. How can you hurt him as much as he hurt you? You're not together, he is not in love, and he will never be emotionally ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with a shemale.
Q. I don't know if I should worry or not. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10months. He is 20 almost 21 years old. And well... My boyfriend wants to have sex with a shemale. The other day I found out that he's on craigslist looking to have sex...
A. 15 May 2012: I am not sure what responses you're looking for OP. It's pretty obvious that he is planing to cheat on you IF he hasn't already. You have all the warning signs in front on you. Heck, you even have evidence. If you KNOW and you have SEEN that he is ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here?
Q. Hi there I need to know whether I am in the wrong here?? I was seeing a guy last november and it probably lasted a few months, until he was offered a job abroad (new zealand) on a contract for a year and a half. We had been friends before for a ...
A. 15 May 2012: "All I know is no guy has ever made me feel so terrible in all my life."
There is your answer; you said it yourself. Even though you wasted your money and time taking this trip to New Zealand, at least you now know where you stand. He is not inte... (read in full...)
I'm twenty and I want to try a short-term relationship with a 56yr old man. Any advice?
Q. Got a crush on a 56yr old man. I know theres no long term potential and I know its not smart to get involved. But I feel weak. i like him a lot and I know he likes me too. would it be ok to have a short-tetm relationship with him? I dont like the ...
A. 15 May 2012: " How can we make it work? If we were closer in age, i'd have him as my husband I think." First off, if you want a short term relationship, why would you ask how you can make it work? If it's short and non-consequential, there is no point in over... (read in full...)
I get excited by dumping women and crushing them emotionally... what can I do to fix it?
Q. I'm married and I have a baby. I'm also very happy in my marriage and my wife is good looking etc. Yes, I've gone to prostitutes for a few years now, but only to get a physical release to substitute porn. Though, in recent years I've for some ...
A. 15 May 2012: "Do I have a serious mental issue? OR do some guys actually do this? "
I am not sure if this would be classified under serious mental issues, but yes, you're are rather twisted and overall a shitty person if you engage in such behavior. Do I thi... (read in full...)
Why do men marry women that aren't anything like what they look at in porn?
Q. Well i have been confused about this for years. My husband dose this and other guys do this and i believe other girls do this. I have put on some weight through the years after i have had my kids and even before then i wasn't skinny but i was mu...
A. 13 May 2012: "what he looks at in porn are not meaty girls they are what he says he doesn't like. He never looks at girls that are big like me." So he nevere ever looks at ticker, bigger women when watching porn? He always only watches thinner, or aver... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin who doesn't know if she's straight or bi?
Q. i'm a virgin who doesn't know if she's straight or bi. i think i'd love to suck some pussy given the chance but i never get turned on when i watch it being done in porn movies, actually i never get turned on at all watching any kind of porn. which ...
A. 13 May 2012: "i never get turned on at all watching any kind of porn. which is probably why i don't even know HOW to masturbate." First off, let me tell you that you aren't the only person that doesn't get turned on by porn. Porn doesn't turn me on and there ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my husband over sex!
Q. hi, i am 21, married. my husband has got a small penis n does not like giving oral or even hand job.. i really feel bad for not having an enjoyable sex life.. the only thing he does is trying to penetrate n ejaculate.. i feel embarrassed ...
A. 8 May 2012: "....my husband has got a small penis n does not like giving oral or even hand job...the only thing he does is trying to penetrate n ejaculate.." He sounds pretty selfish to me. I for one do not support the whole 'you should masturbate yours... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on opposite sex room mates?
Q. My long distance boyfriend wants to move in with a female roommate his age (he's never met her, he found her on craigslist). I'm trying to be cool with it, but for some reason I'm kind of having trouble with it. On the one hand I do trust him, but ...
A. 8 May 2012: Stranger from Craigslist? That sounds more creepy than anything really. ... (read in full...)
Do women like rough skinned hands?
Q. Hi guys,I would like to be consulted about this thing. Recently, I'm into workout with the technique, bar pull-ups. My palms and fingers seems very roughen, coarser with some rash and blister, totally very rough. But I really like my palm like that ...
A. 8 May 2012: I don't want rough skin texture touching my body.... (read in full...)
Are my suspicions right about this guy?
Q. About 4/5 weeks my mum met, and subsequently got into a relationship with, this guy. I just get a really weird vibe from him, as if something isn't right and he isn't who he makes out to be. He's spoken openly about his past; apparently he wa...
A. 8 May 2012: You can pay to do a background check on him. It's not very expensive either. Or you can even look up county court cases which are public. Maybe if your mother sees some concrete proof of some criminal background information, it will spur her to ... (read in full...)
12 years of marriage, him cheating and now that I want out he wants to change!
Q. I have been married to this guy for 12 years and we have 2 kids. He's been a reasonable dad but a selfish husband with strangers noticing and wondering how I put up with him with me having most of the load to manage my full time career and work at ...
A. 8 May 2012: "He has had a few affairs since we were married, doesn't admit to them" Refusal to be accountable for his bad actions? Check. He sees that you're staying with him regardless of cheating, or his lack of accepting responsibility for bad behavior... (read in full...)
Should I ask out my coworker?
Q. Hi I'm in a predicament. She's my office girl that does all my payroll stuff, and ever since she started working with us, she has always made a habit to bug me. And knowing that she is bugging me when she had a boyfriend at the time, I'd just give ...
A. 8 May 2012: "Cons 2 reasons TO ask her out. Pros, 4 reasons NOT to ask her out."
Well, there is your answer. The work place is not a place to strike up a romance or a relationship. There are too many chances that it will get messy. Imagine your work life if ... (read in full...)
I have let a 19 year old chat me up, and now I'm wondering, what's the harm?
Q. Been a silly girl I know. But have let a 19 yr old chat me up, he's obviously only after one thing, trouble is, I am 40. We're both single. But... Anyway, I have been single 4 yrs now, and working non stop, I keep thinking so what! Bit of fun? All...
A. 5 May 2012: How would you feel about a 40 year old man sleeping with a 19 year old girl? In my book, your pursuing a sexual fling with someone nearly as old as your son, is a definite no. Sometimes we need to be responsible and think about the bigger picture in ... (read in full...)
How do people cope with the knowledge that their spouse probably had better sex with at least one of their exes?
Q. I realize people are tired of the never-ending retroactive jealousy questions, but please try to bear with me. Believe me, if it were possible to solve this by simply telling myself it's irrational, dumb, pointless, a double standard, the past ...
A. 5 May 2012: "It was clear from the beginning that a big part of the reason my wife was interested in me was due to my income. " Ask yourself this question: if you didn't have the job title and the income, would your wife had married you? Was your financial s... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive?
Q. My husband loves people to love him, he works with many women , but his Manager is a single parent,he's always praising her, giving her gifts and always giving her cd copies, Told him it's not right, but he continues. He works away, goes to co...
A. 5 May 2012: That really depends. Was he always like this? In his previous jobs, did he praise and give gifts to his other bosses or co-workers? Was he always very social with his co-workers?
It does sound a bit strange, no question about it, but if this is s... (read in full...)
His spending and saving habits are giving me pause!
Q. My b/f is a nice guy, lovely company, helpful around the house when he stays over. We've been together 2 years. He's 5 years older than me. I have realised we have very different opinions on work, money, savings and planning ahead. I like to be ...
A. 5 May 2012: Here in the US, finances are the #1 reason why people get divorced. Your situation reads like a future divorce to me. If you cannot see yourself married and financially attached to this man, then it is time to move on. This problem won't go away. ... (read in full...)
Married to a distant, abusive man and I'm desperate to be touched and loved and I'm wondering about how it would be with this man!
Q. Confused! I am 33 years old, been with my husband for 12 years- married for 5 years-no children. Our marriage is not good-we have not had sex for almost a year and before that is was twice a years-continually got less and less throughout the y...
A. 4 May 2012: Maybe instead of wondering what it would be like to be with this man, you should ponder why you're still with your husband. If your husband is as cold, abusive, emotionally detached and sexually distant as you say, then why are you with him? If ... (read in full...)
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