Deal with our issues? Or stay broken up?
Q. I broke up with my bf of four years and am now strugling and FREAKING out over whether it was the right decision. Would really appreciate some perspective away from my emotion. This was the deal... gay, together for five years, great loving rel...
A. 6 July 2009: Great news, best of luck for your future :) ... (read in full...)
How do I clear things up with the guy I've been leading on?
Q. This guy who really likes me and I have been flirting a lot recently. My boyfriend hasn't been there for me in a long time, and I'm considering breaking up. The only problem is, I've been flirting with this guy only because I wanted to replace the ...
A. 28 June 2009: Talk to your boyfriend first, your priorities need to be right if you want to be honest and move forward. You need to speak to them both but obviously your bofriend first. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! My best friend says he does not want a relationship.
Q. I think I'm really in love with my best friend. I've know him for years but we're weren't close until recently. And I guess the more I know him, the more I'm in love. He's really sweet and caring. But one thing I'm afriad of is that he doesn't feel ...
A. 27 June 2009: Its always a risk with a mate, you need to be 100% sure and right now your not so i wouldnt take any drastic action at all, like you say it could wreck everything. Dont take a risk on something if your not too sure, it could just be his flirtatious ... (read in full...)
Is he being polite or is he interested?
Q. There is a guy I like and I think he likes me too. He is always asking me to go to places where he and his friends hang out. The only thing is that he ALWAYS says to come if I have nothing better to do. I have heard guys say that to girls before. Is ...
A. 27 June 2009: Of course he likes you, he doesnt want to come across to full on too soon though so hes using the phrase if you have nothing better to do as a way of giving you the option. Id show up if you want to but play it cool. Next time you get the chance try ... (read in full...)
How do I clear things up with the guy I've been leading on?
Q. This guy who really likes me and I have been flirting a lot recently. My boyfriend hasn't been there for me in a long time, and I'm considering breaking up. The only problem is, I've been flirting with this guy only because I wanted to replace the ...
A. 27 June 2009: You tell him the truth,tell him you liked the attention and love he gave you, it only makes you human to want to feel love just dont gofinding it based on lies, only you end up hurt. Tell your boyfriend the truth too, explain that he showed no love,... (read in full...)
I hate it when he has to go to his wife! It's like he never has time for me...
Q. Im 18 and hes 40 and where having an affair, i hate it when he has to go to his wife, help? First of all he told me got divorced at christmas and he was 2 kids who are 3 and 7 who live with the mum, then he finally admited he was still married an...
A. 27 June 2009: You ask all the wrong questions, you avoid the truth as what you have is based on lies. Im fair in my advice but you understand why you will get negative responses?
Not to metion the age, the fact hes married or the fact that he has kids, your mind... (read in full...)
Is he taking me for a ride?
Q. ok so i have been best friends with this guy (lets call him D) for 2 1/2 years and we are really close. a few months ago my friend text him from my phone telling him that i really liked him (which i do) and he replied 'wow im speechless'.a few days ...
A. 27 June 2009: To be honest it sounds like hes a bit confused too, his immaturity has taken over and its changed him for the worst. Some people are blinded by competitivness.
If hes having his fun then let him, but just for the record never go on what his ex says... (read in full...)
How do I get my feelings back for him? We fight all the time!
Q. Hi, I have been friends with my boyfriend for about a year and we've been basically dating for about six months now and official for about two. We recently moved in together and ever since it's been non stop fighting. He still cannot open up to me ...
A. 27 June 2009: Maybe you moved too quickly? He wont show emotion as your not that far ahead yet, crying is his way out of saying how hes actually feeling, you instantly assume its sadness but its deeper than that, at this point you lack the emotional attachment ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to meet men?
Q. Does anyone have any tips on how to meet a man (not online dating please)? I broke up with my long-term partner over a year ago and since then I have had one failure after the other. There has been Mr emotionaly unavailable; Mr I really like you ...
A. 27 June 2009: When your in that situation it does feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel but honestly your mr right is out there, you just havent found him yet.
Its different for everyone, some fall straight away, some take years, some never find... (read in full...)
Should I leave my ex and move on with new lady? What about our son?
Q. I have been together with my girlfriend for about 4 years im 23 and she 22, on and off, throughout the relationship it has not been perfect. A year into the relationship she was pregnant, 6 months after we broke up after constant arguments, she has ...
A. 23 June 2009: You will never feel the same way with another woman as you do about your ex, for one simple reason, she is the mother of your child, the commitment you both made gave you something to share that never fades, even if the feelings do. You cant blame ... (read in full...)
Do I love this girl off tv?
Q. i like someone very much off the telly she is so beautiful and everytime i see her i get butterflies in my stomach i don't know if i love her or not because i don't know what love feels like. i added her as a friend on facebook and she added me back ...
A. 22 June 2009: Off the telly so im guessing shes famous? This is common, people in the public eye are highlighted so much that its hard not to love them! I dont think what your experiencing is love just yet, your bordering more on a crush than love, its a huge t... (read in full...)
What is the difference between a committment phobic or someone afraid to be hurt?
Q. Can someone please tell me the difference between a true commitment phobic man and one that is just a bit emotional and afraid of being hurt in a relationship since he once was. Help don't want to waste anymore time....
A. 22 June 2009: A guy who is a tru commitment phobe is the one you see coming a mile off, marriage is off the cards and as soon as you decide to e.g. holiday together hes out the door, basically hes the guy who wants the fun but thats about it. The one whos afr... (read in full...)
Is it like, love or lust?
Q. Is it like, love, or lust? 1. I see this guy and am instantly attracted to him. I fantacize about him kissing me, etc. 2. I get to kinow this guy and realize that we have a lot in common.. even really random things, like favorite ice cream ...
A. 18 June 2009: My first impression and answer to your question was this is an unhealthy relationship that lacked a much needed balance and emotion etc, however as i read on i realised that the problem was it wasnt a relationship, there is too much emotion on your ... (read in full...)
Running out of time....
Q. Ok, I will try to make this as short as possible. I have been with my current boyfriend for about 8 years now. There was a period of time that we werent together and I was seeing another guy. This guy( who i will call romeo) was the perfect boyfrien...
A. 18 June 2009: I respect what it is you are saying yet when marriage is invlolved that is where you need to stop and think is my head in the right place? Then comes the question is my heart? Youve moved on, hes moved on, sometimes the past is past for a reason and ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have to put on a fake smile. I just don't fit in!
Q. I feel like i'm drowning. I wake up in the morning and don't want to get out of bed, i don't want to face everything. The minute i leave the privacy of my room i put a smile on my face and act happy all day, and it's a lie. I don't know what to do. ...
A. 17 June 2009: Everyone can relate to how your feeling, we all go through it at some point. You only speak about the negatives, what about the positives? People are constantly put into groups when really were all the same! If your gettin on well in your love life ... (read in full...)
I love her and want commitment, but she doesn't seem to feel the same
Q. So where to begin...I guess five years back when I met this girl I swore would become my wife...She is from Italy and is very beautiful! She likes to flaunt her ass around and attract other guys attention but denies knowing this! Through the five ...
A. 16 June 2009: I think you need to take a step back and sum it all up, the relationship has been on and off for so long, it goes back on for all the wrong reasons and you constantly going back to each other knowing that it doesnt work is unhealthy or you both, its ... (read in full...)
Deal with our issues? Or stay broken up?
Q. I broke up with my bf of four years and am now strugling and FREAKING out over whether it was the right decision. Would really appreciate some perspective away from my emotion. This was the deal... gay, together for five years, great loving rel...
A. 14 June 2009: Your heart will tell you the truth and will lead you to the way your really feeling. You love this guy so surely you can work through the issues together maybe? Get the balance right, you both need space but at the same time you need each other ... (read in full...)
It's been 2 years, yet everytime I see her picture I get upset. Please help!
Q. It's been almost 2 years to the day that my first love broke things off with me. For the past couple of months I feel like I've been able to get on with things without too many problems. I had a bit of a wobble several weeks ago when I actually ...
A. 13 June 2009: Your first love will always have this ffect on you, thats why the whole 'first love' thing is so huge, they become part of who you become, they shape you from the start, how can you chop such a vital person from your life? Whatever went wrong how ... (read in full...)
How can I open up to him?
Q. dear someone who can help, i feel a little awkward about this, but i think some outside advise can really help. i have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now, 2 just dating and 3 exclusively. i really think i am falling hard for him,...
A. 7 June 2009: Its always hard but talking to him will help and the more you get to know him the easier it will come to you.
All you have to do is be yourself, if you have a day where your feeling god i need to tell him how im really feeling then dont let anyt... (read in full...)
My friend and I both like the same boy. Do I tell him? How do I not hurt her?
Q. How to tell my admire that i love him? But i'm scare because my friend likes him too. I don't want to hurt her...
A. 5 June 2009: Its always a hard one, talk tp her first tell her how your feeling, especialy if you think he feels the same and that their is hope for a future. Explain that youve spoken to her before you did anything as you value your friendship, what your doing ... (read in full...)
He's sexy and good looking - but is he the best I can get?
Q. I hate the situation im in. There's only one man out there that i want but i cant give him no one more chances! I was with my ex for 3 yrs on and off. He hasnt been the best hes got commitment issues in the 3yrs we were together. We only ever saw...
A. 4 June 2009: Because you fell for the wrong one, like so many of us do.
Now you need to dowhats best for you and let him go, although you say he loves you i feel some of his comments and behavouir refelct the person he really is and its the kind of man you dont... (read in full...)
Is this something she needs to get out of her system?
Q. Hi my name is Luke i am 21 almost 22 i have been with a girl for four years next month she is 20. we don't live together because she is not ready to move out. So i stay at her house 3-4 nights a week and she stays at mine once a week. (We live 20-30 ...
A. 4 June 2009: When your young together or not you want to have fun and that sometimes means doing it seperatley, all couples go through this until it gets too much and they go one way or the other. It sounds like your a few years ahead, a lot more mature and have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to find me attractive.
Q. Hello all, Im 18 years old and me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. The problem im having is my boyfriends making me feel really insecure. When i turned around 13, i dont know what happend, i seemed to go from plain to pretty ...
A. 4 June 2009: I dont feel hes gone off you, the signs your describing sound like hes simply insecure. He may feel that your too good for him and hes worried and insecure, its different for man, they can discuss their emotions they just close up so rather than ... (read in full...)
I want to come to America to pursue my dream!
Q. when i grow up i want to be a racing car driver and the cars i want to drive are in america. I want to go over to america so i can get used to racing in america but my parents don't want me to be a racing driver but my sister says that she would ...
A. 3 June 2009: Sit them down, handle this with maturity and respect for them, you their son its their job to protect you so this will be hard, show them how passionate you are about this and how much it means to you. They will understand that at some point they ... (read in full...)
My ex is happy now, and I'm a loser
Q. whats wrong with me. i hate myself for writing this but its driving me insane. about 6 years ago i finished with my ex boyfriend-i just felt like he didnt care about me at all we had a house together-he took it out in his name but we were ...
A. 3 June 2009: Not one person will think ill of you, you speak with great honesty and i for one respect you for that.
Its very hard, especially given the past you and your ex shared, buying a house together showed great commitment and showed how deep and invo... (read in full...)
Its hard for me to take things slow!
Q. I have only been dating this guy for a few weeks but i had such a chemical attraction to him from the very beginning. He says he is interested in seeing where our relationship will go, but he wants to take things slow. I am intellectually 100% OK ...
A. 2 June 2009: Your right to have set backs on being so relaxed when its something your passionate about.It has to work both ways, a relationship is based on honesty and hes been honest with you so why not do the same, tell him how your feeling, dont scare him off ... (read in full...)
How can I stop her depression from dragging me down?
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months is going through some depression. I've tried all i can to be nice and supportive but she keeps shutting me down, and snapping at me whenever I offer support or anything. She also has been very distant, it takes her hours ...
A. 1 June 2009: You need to help her as well as yourself, as soon as you start to feel low you know its gone to far and you need to take a step back.
Give it space, she will miss you and then get in contact in hope of a reunion situation to give her that sens... (read in full...)
How can I fit in with my boyfriends lifestyle?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I am 21 and he is 26. We are serious about each other. He is in a full time heavy metal band. Ive recently moved into the city with him, and I dont see any of my friends anymore. So I hang out with his ...
A. 1 June 2009: I dont feel your insecurities are the main issue, the fact that youve given up all youve ever known for a guy and have done your up most to adjust to his lifestyle is something in itself.
Re read your post, i respect that your serious about each... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and don't know why I crave the attachments
Q. My most recent ex boyfriend and I, started dating in November, we broke up the first week of Feb, but we had an on and off relationship into the middle of April. Since we OFFICIALLY called it quits, I have totally felt like I have moved on, but no...
A. 31 May 2009: I dont think its your ex you want really, you just want somebody, you need to understand that you dont need somebody to get far in life, yes its good to have them with you but dont you think its better to wait for the right one rather than going ... (read in full...)
If I fail my next exam mom says I have to finish with my boyfriend!
Q. I dont know what to do. At school I have alwaiis been good at maths and now am failing it as i failed my first exam. I have another one coming up in a weeks time and my mum said that if I do not pass it I have to break up with my boyfriend cause ...
A. 31 May 2009: Sit down and talk to your mum maturely. If you actually feel your boyfriend is not the issue then say to her, "I know why you're assuming this but I'm actually struggling with maths as it's got a lot harder and I can't get to grips with it." If you ... (read in full...)
In love, yet we can't seem to make it work, due to clashes!
Q. My boyfriend of two years have had our ups and downs. Everytime things go well in our individual lives [ie: get out of debt, decide to quit bad habits] we work so well together, and I can see a definite future for us. The problem is, when we are ...
A. 31 May 2009: You should never have to persuade yourself and i felt hints of that whilst readng your post, its never a good sign.
Every couple has their arguments but if yours are bringing the relationship to a standstill then things are not looking good for the ... (read in full...)
Need hairstyle suggestions!
Q. hey, sorry this isn't a relationship question but I really want to change my hairstyle and don't know how to go about it, i've always turned to this site with my problems and i've had great advice from it. first of all my hair is about just past ...
A. 31 May 2009: I love hair questions and you explained it in a way i actually understand!
Your hair sounds lovely but yes short is in, i love her hair its gergous always in tip top condition though but as you say short hair is easy to maintain. Look at your face... (read in full...)
I need insight as to why my life is like this!
Q. Why is my life this way? Hi! I must admit I have never really been lucky in love although I am quite good looking with a decent enough figure. To start with I didn't want to lose my virginity until I was 30 and then the guy turned out to be a wrong ...
A. 31 May 2009: Some believe life is planned out for you, I disagree with that, life is what you make it. You're in control, don't blame yourself for what could be or what hasn't been and the reasons why, the more you question the more you miss out on. You're not ... (read in full...)
I made about every mistake possible! Can I save this relationship?
Q. I met the woman of my dreams and turned something special into a mess. I admit not only is she the first woman I've ever been in love with, but the first I've ever even gone out with. We just seemed so perfect together. Yet looking back I r...
A. 31 May 2009: Everyone makes mistakes, its human nature, within us all shapes who we are and what we become each time we learn from a mistake and never allow it to repeat itself. Yes ok you’ve been everything you didn’t want to be but aren’t we all at some poi... (read in full...)
What is love? What does it mean?
Q. i'm 16 and in high school. i was wondering what is love? i know its a strong feeling you have towards someone, but how do you know when your in love?...
A. 30 May 2009: Ok well its not an actual definition but i you just know! i know its a common thing to say but there are many types of love and how you feel them, its a personal experiance between you and another that combines as one. I dont think people really k... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this mess?
Q. Ok so i have a massive issue. Let's start by saying I love a guy that likes someone else. I was dating this guy but he broke up with me for her. But we made out a few nights ago. I didn't mean for it to happen, he put his arm around me and we were ...
A. 27 May 2009: It doesnt look good! And in this situation although our hurting imagaine how his gfs going to feel? Nobody wins its a loose loose so get out before you slip back into what once was. Its unhealthy and wrong, he treats you like dirt and still has the ... (read in full...)
Feelings are fading... how can I stop this?
Q. Hey, its really wierd. I love my boyfriend I do. But thinsg lately have been so...normal. so causal. I dont feel excited or passionate when I'm with him anymore.. it is like things are cooling down and I dont want that to happen. Feelings are ...
A. 26 May 2009: The honeymoon period has gone, its so common and hits every relationship, like a barrier you have to break through in order to reach your future, people who get through it together want the same thing and have a positive future, the people who ... (read in full...)
He won't tell me if something's bothering him, how can I know for sure that something is bothering him?
Q. This guy I like is almost 16 in september and i'm 17. Do you think that he would act differnetly towards a girl he liked because hes younger? He likes me but he doesn't talk to me anymore and I don't know why he would be playing mood games with me. ...
A. 26 May 2009: Things he do will be immature to you, maybe he cant adjust to what you want it to be? Some guys just arent ready for it.
Maybe its not the age it may just be that hes leading his own life and he feels hes doing no wrong? Guys can sometimes be obli... (read in full...)
Bringing that spark back
Q. How can I bring back the spark in my relationship with my boyfriend? We've been dating for a little bit over 9 months and the feelings are kinda getting dull. We're always open for fun/new ideas and would do just about anything together....
A. 26 May 2009: After a while it does get dull you get so used to each others ways and a pattern occurs, to gain back what youonce had and loved all you need to do is make a few changes, not adjust everything just do something a little out of character (within ... (read in full...)
My friends seem so fed up with me...I don't know what I'm doing wrong!
Q. I can't seem to stay on the good side of people who are suppose to be my friends. Am I doing something wrong? I'm at university, and I'm coming to the end of my first year. As the year has gone on, I feel like people are starting to get fed up wi...
A. 24 May 2009: Never try to be something your not for others, if they cant like you for who you are then youll be ling to yourself for a very long time.
i dont feel you are reading too much into things at all, people get insecure and worried from time to time... (read in full...)
Why is he lying to his ex about us?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months and he is crazy about me, he wants to see me every night, texts me in the day. I believe he loves me but...he lies to his ex girlfriend about us making out we are not serious and almost taking the mickey ...
A. 24 May 2009: This situation holds no future unless you act now, what you have to do is simple, give him the ultimatium. Surely he is aware of how this is hurting you? and yet he contunes doing so? what sort of man does that? Hes su[pposed to love you and treat ... (read in full...)
I made the talent show but I'm nervous, any tips?
Q. ok here is the deal, i finally made my talent show this year and i am singing but i noticed that when i sing when nervous my voice changes so i was wondering if anyone knew any techniques that i could use to help me not be so nervous?...
A. 24 May 2009: In this kind of situation the best thing you can do is to be yourself, nerves hit us all some are just a lot better at covering it than others, dont let it wreck your chances there are methods that can help you through this normality. I once had... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do as he has a girlfriend!
Q. I've been friends with this guy for about two months, I've liked him a lot since I met him but I refused to say anything as he has a girlfriend. We've been flirting a lot and the other day he told me that he also likes me, I also told him that I ...
A. 20 May 2009: You sound like a genuine person whos in this puely for the love, untill he sorts things with his gf i.e dumps her then i would stay clear, at least that way you know he was honest with you. Dont get involved playing this game, you end up hurt the ... (read in full...)
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