Am I being too sensitive when I expect my boyfriend of one year to invite me to family events?
Q. Am I being too sensitive when I expect my boyfriend of one year to invite me to family events? I have met some family members and he has met some of mine, so I don't understand why he does not invite me to cookouts, dinners, etc when he is with his ...
A. 27 July 2009: Next time he tries to blow you off ask why, you have every right to know where you stand.
However in your post your very self assured, maybe hes not so much. You describe yourself as independant and secure, maybe hes not and that affects him in s... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a signal that she wants me?
Q. Ok my first question so here we go... I got out of a bad relationship about six months ago and since then I started chatting to a girl I have known for many years well she rang me on Wednesday night from tesco and I said I fancyed some lemon ...
A. 27 July 2009: I think you got more than the signal, however next time i think you should just check before you go the whole way, as you feel the moment approaching say something along the lines of do you want us to move forward.. as in like do you want us to be ... (read in full...)
How will I know when it's right to move on?
Q. I've been with a girl for 5 years and for the past few months we haven't been happy together,we both wanted different things in life so we decided to end our relationship. It is two weeks since we broke up, soon after we broke up i was talking to a ...
A. 27 July 2009: I think you should have a lot of respect for the girl, shes put love on the line for you and she obviously wants this to work, dont let her down. Sit and talk honestly and openly with her, say to her how much it meant to you that she held back and ... (read in full...)
I'm dying to talk to my girlfriend but her mother has taken her phone away!
Q. its been like a week since i talked to my girlfriend and i'm already dieing to talk to her, her mother took away her phone from her and "i have no idea when she would get it back or if she would get it back" so what should i do ??...
A. 27 July 2009: Forget the sending the phone in idea, that will smack you right on the face if her mum ever found out that you went behind her back you wont get another chance, leave it to them to sort out. Give it time, im sure shes just as desperate, itll make it ... (read in full...)
His woman "friends" from the past keep coming out of the woodwork!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for one year now. Since then quite a few of his female "friends" from his past keep coming out of the woodwork, still. Some turned out that they had once been more than friends but because he calls them all friends, ...
A. 27 July 2009: Apolagies i did not finish my response, try that but be fair in how you do it, hes been fair to you in that hes stopped as soon as hes seen its upset you this shows how much he loves you and how genuine he is to the relationship. Once youve told him ... (read in full...)
His woman "friends" from the past keep coming out of the woodwork!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for one year now. Since then quite a few of his female "friends" from his past keep coming out of the woodwork, still. Some turned out that they had once been more than friends but because he calls them all friends, ...
A. 27 July 2009: Your right to be feeling the way you do yet the fact that shes getting married indicates its not what your thinking. Say to him imagine how youd feel if guys were calling me up my ex boyfriends just started ringing me up at silly hours etc, put the ... (read in full...)
I'm dying to talk to my girlfriend but her mother has taken her phone away!
Q. its been like a week since i talked to my girlfriend and i'm already dieing to talk to her, her mother took away her phone from her and "i have no idea when she would get it back or if she would get it back" so what should i do ??...
A. 27 July 2009: Dont make the situation any worse for her then, if shes having to sneak theres obviously a situation that needs sorting, give her and her mum time. i bet shes missing you but there really is nothing you can do right now. ... (read in full...)
I'm dying to talk to my girlfriend but her mother has taken her phone away!
Q. its been like a week since i talked to my girlfriend and i'm already dieing to talk to her, her mother took away her phone from her and "i have no idea when she would get it back or if she would get it back" so what should i do ??...
A. 27 July 2009: Well theres obviously a reason for it and until shes 'forgiven' theres not a lot you can do. If her mum is reading her mail before her then the situation is a lot worse than youve let on. Dont make it any worse, you have no choice but to wait im ... (read in full...)
I have been cheated on before and now I think my new boyfriend is cheating too!
Q. Boyfriend trouble..... Not sure what to do/think....................? I have known this guy that I am now seeing for almost a year. We just recently started dating almost 2 weeks now. I am 28 years old and have a 9 year old daughter. He is ...
A. 27 July 2009: Im not sure what question your asking as i believe the answers are there, please dont believe it when a guy tells you these things he doesnt really have an option yet hes still resulted into lying his way out of it.
What reason has this girl got ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken, confused and needs help!
Q. My girl of 2 and a half years broke up with me for another guy who's closer to home and more affectionate. She was 18 just turned 19 and he's 24. Still I love and miss her and i dont know why. Its been 2 months and she told a mutual friend that she...
A. 27 July 2009: I dont feel shes over you yet, shes gone into a relationship when shes not ready shes putting you in an unfair postion. Shes irritated that you havent returned her calls as she doesnt like the sound of you moving on, although its the best thing for ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him that I'm telling the truth?
Q. I have been talking to this guy on and off for 6 months now. Recently, he called me from another number, and when I asked who it was, he told me to guess. Not realizing it was him, I called him by someone elses name and now he won't drop it. He ...
A. 27 July 2009: Firstly you shouldnt have to prove yourself in any way, the trust should be there from the start. Hes got the issues here, not you. Trust issues can damage a relationship before its started, as seen here. Id say to him look i made a mistake but i ... (read in full...)
Our relationship has changed since moving back home. How can I get things back to the way they were?
Q. On August 14, me and my boyfriend make a year. We are like to peas in a pod and there is no other love like ours. We weren't only each others' lovers but we were best friends. In November of 2008, we moved into an apartment together so that we can ...
A. 27 July 2009: Maybe commiment has scared him, planning a future is also fun until you see the reality everythings rushing past all at once and you both loose control. Hes focusing on his job and forgetting his priorities, his head just isnt in the right place ... (read in full...)
First dates at someones house? Yes or No?
Q. What would you people say about dates at someone's house when you're only getting to know that person? I met a guy online and our first date went well. He called me two days later and asked me if I wanted to come over to his place that night as he...
A. 27 July 2009: I think your right in some of what your saying, not every guy is the same and there are a few who are innocent when they invite you round for a dvd, hard to believe i know. Dont judge your past on the future, learn from the mistakes dont assume they ... (read in full...)
Life has too many curve balls...so unsure of what to do!
Q. Oh where to start with my ordeal. About 8 months ago I split up with my Ex Fiance. For about 6 months before we broke up I had a suspicion that her and a co-worker had something going on. Between the constant phone calls daily and the texts between ...
A. 27 July 2009: I dont feel you were meant to be at all, sometimes people have to much of a past to ever have a future and im sorry but your situation falls under this. The fact that your not over it shows how genuine you were and how it affected you. Your still ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, so I'm trying to see him as just a friend...but I REALLY like him. What should I do?
Q. There is a guy I've recently met that I REALLY like. We are very similar, we get on so well together etc etc and the chemistry is amazing. The only problem is, he has a girlfriend. When I first met him, it was online and he was ambiguous about his ...
A. 27 July 2009: I think the best thing you could do is keep your distance, avoid contact until he makes a descion you dont want to get involved into this kind of thing, your the only one who will get hurt in the end of it.
What kind of guy meets with another girl... (read in full...)
I don't want to sound mean. She doesn't exersice and shes putting on weight
Q. ok. i dont want this to sound horrible but it probably will. Im very very into fitness and working out. i have a very good body and feel its really important to stay in shape not just for myself but for my partner. my girlfriend however, with...
A. 27 July 2009: I understand what it is your saying but however you broach the subject itll always be taken the wrong way. It may not be that shes lazy as such shes simply fallen into a routine in which she goes to work all day then has that time to herself, people ... (read in full...)
How can I be playing him when he said he doesn't want me?
Q. Right me and my ex was going to try again but due to things that have happened lately he has decided he no longer likes me and does not what to try again. It was hard to accept at first but i have accepted it now and began talking to an old friend, ...
A. 26 July 2009: Hes obviously realised that he lies you, the feelings are still there and the fact that you are moving on his hurting him causing the jealousy. Hes saying your playing him yet its more than obvious things are the opposite way round, i suggest you ... (read in full...)
Getting over engaged former lover
Q. I’ve been obsessed with a woman who I dated for several years. She had now returned to a former lover, that was a six year relationship. She is now engaged to be married to him. How do I help myself to get over her?...
A. 26 July 2009: Theres not a lot you can do, its one of those things that you cant control and your forced to let go of. It may not be what you want but its what she wants if you loved her then you have to respect that, however hard you find it theres always a way ... (read in full...)
He's too thoughtful and considerate to his family! But it's not mutual!
Q. i don't know where to start... I am married with kids. my husband is like a little puppet or puppy whenever things concern his family. he loves them too much he is too thoughtful and considerate when it comes to them. the thing is it is not ...
A. 26 July 2009: He will defend them to anyone and everyone, no mtter who you are he will keep there name clean throughout. Although the truth is obvious to you it wont be to him, its a common problem that is usally left with no solutin, he wont admit what he knows ... (read in full...)
How can I make her believe I care for her??
Q. ok so i met this girl on a trip. we spent the whole week talking and we got together. problem is she doesnt believe i care about her. i dont know how she doesnt because if she fell as i was asking how she was and all. she fainted and i nearly had a ...
A. 26 July 2009: She may have had bad experiances in the past that stop her from believing a guy could love her. You dont know the ins and outs and im sure that in time if she spoke to you openly and honestly you would see what it was thats damaged her, right now ... (read in full...)
4 questions in one! Am I in love??
Q. (I'll say it now: I'm 17) I've been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months now, and if anyone asks me how our relationship is going, I'll impulsively replay "Amazingly!" or some other word like it. But I know that something's just awkward with us. ...
A. 26 July 2009: 1) I would simply say right today i want you to decide, it doesnt have to be fancy just something cheap, cheerful and fun if you still get the shrug make some suggestions e.g. a picnic if this doesnt appeal to him then sey look im happy to go with ... (read in full...)
He's going to try again with his ex, but still wants to talk to me! Should I wait?
Q. I was seeing this man for 7 months who is divorced and younger than me..His ex has decided she wants to try to work things out..he has decided to go back to try. How can he say he loves me and want to try to work it out with her..Our age is 20 years ...
A. 26 July 2009: I think that him seeing you still would confuse the situation more than it needs to be, you ask the question yet i think you know the answer. If he really wanted it to work with his ex then A) she wouldnt be his ex and B) he wouldnt be asking this ... (read in full...)
I want him to see that he needs me!
Q. Hello there , im new to this site and i cam across him because im in need of cupids help. The story goes like this ( short version ) we were a couple for 2 and a half years and 2 weekes ago we had a fight and he said to me that he had enough he ca...
A. 26 July 2009: If his minds made up then theres not a lot you can do, if it were the real thing time will make him see whats missing and hell come back to you, im not saying give up your fight but leave it for now, give him time to experiance what he so ... (read in full...)
Whenever we arrange to do something, b/f cancels!
Q. i have a problem with my guy, whenever we arrange to do something he always cancels. hes used many excuses till i got the truth out of him that he doesn't think i will love him when i do. ive tried to be supportive but im worried that what happens ...
A. 26 July 2009: Its a common feeling, especially if you were mates before hand, try and be supportive i know its a huge strain on the relationship but hes insecure, that can work both ways so let him know our there if he needs to talk but at the same time remind ... (read in full...)
Guys: What makes you realize you want to try again with your ex?
Q. I know this has been posted and answered many times before but unfortunately I wasn't around yet to read it. My question is: Other than realizing that he is still in love with her, what makes a guy consider getting back with his ex? ...
A. 26 July 2009: Seeing what life is like without her, you dont realise what you have until its gone, its a shock to the system and you do all you can to gain back what you once had, change isnt always as good as it souns, guys need security, just as much as a woman ... (read in full...)
New girlfried doesn't contact me as much as I'd like. I don't want to seem needy!
Q. i met a new girl recetly. we have a lot of fun together, we laugh and have good conversations and shes really good lookin in my opinion. the thing is shes a bit insecure, she doesnt txt as much. im always havin to txt her askin if she wants to meet ...
A. 26 July 2009: Maybe she things shes given the role to you, your the guy and thats what you do, its a common mistake people in a relationship forget that it takes two and the balance needs to be strong and THERE at all times or it gets to where you are now. Rather ... (read in full...)
"Go find someone else to treat bad!" ...that's what she said and it hurt me!
Q. My girlfriend was in a bad mood after work which is understandable. I was being nice and asked my friend to leave so we could be alone. She started taking out something the dog did that was not my fault. She thought she heard me say something under ...
A. 26 July 2009: In an argument things are said, silly things that after people feel stupid for saying so they avoid them, especially if they were in the wrong. In this case id say she feels stupid, she knows she was tired and she over reacted but shes leaving it ... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean he's thinking about it?
Q. I broke up with my bf of over a year a few months ago. We tried to stay friends. I only did bc I was hoping things would respark. (kind of hard when this is long distance.) anyway, on his visit home I told him I cant stay friends with him anymore...
A. 26 July 2009: Some men react differently to difficult situations, you say the decent guy would reply knowing how your feeling yet i bet this guy has no idea that its eating you up, hes thinking now only about what he can do, he needs to rethink it through his ... (read in full...)
Did I do the wrong thing by leaving so fast? I don't know if he likes me, or if it's just me!
Q. Hello there, I have a big problem that i can't seem to sort out. Well there's is this guy who i've like on and off for a few years although only this year have we actually started to get to know each other a bit. But i find it really difficul...
A. 13 July 2009: Heloo, the way you describe the guy it sounded like he was just as nervous as you! Its always difficult breaking the ice and you battled that et didn't follow it all through, next time you get the chance pluck up the courage to talk to him a bit ... (read in full...)
Deal with our issues? Or stay broken up?
Q. I broke up with my bf of four years and am now strugling and FREAKING out over whether it was the right decision. Would really appreciate some perspective away from my emotion. This was the deal... gay, together for five years, great loving rel...
A. 6 July 2009: Great news, best of luck for your future :) ... (read in full...)
How can I let him down gently?
Q. I really need help I got myself into a really stupid situation by trying to rush into something even though I wasn't sure if it would work. Basically this guy i went out with likes me again and was asking my friends to find out if I liked him and i ...
A. 3 July 2009: You need to get it sorted seperately. Learn from this, its never good getting your mates to 'say' how your feeling, if it was ever going to work its a lot better if you two talked personally rather than playing the game.
Be honest about your feel... (read in full...)
Friends' gossip ruined our chances to be together...
Q. Well I am a 17 year old girl and in March of 2009 I Met this wonderful guy. Everything was great. He told me that he wanted me to be the mother of his children and he liked me more than any other girl. Then he started listening to his friends who ...
A. 3 July 2009: Its one way forward but you need to accept and change what went wrong in the past if you have any hope of a future.
Firstly never let what another says wruin what you have, i dont feel your heart was in it the first time round as you would of foug... (read in full...)
Is slating about her boyfriend to me a sign that she likes me?
Q. I like this girl, she's real cute and all and i'm getting the vibe that she likes me too. She's not single but she was telling me that her boyfriend is an 'insensitive p***k'. How should I take this?Is she saying this because she likes me and wou...
A. 28 June 2009: You only dont make sense as youve been mislead, i understand why your questioning it all but as soon s you see that shes with someone its time to back down, yes the circumstances may not be that great and she might want to get out but its something ... (read in full...)
He told me he wants to be with me, but not yet as he has a lot on. Do you think he's seeing other girls?
Q. I've been dating this guy for 9 months. We are around each other practically everyday. If not, then we're always on the phone together. I really care about this guy and he knows it because it shows, plus I tell him. He tells me he really cares for ...
A. 28 June 2009: This is a difficult one because hes taken the easy way out out without showing any emotion or being honest about how hes feeling. You have the right to know where you stand and he owes you an explanation. Its difficult to say that yes hes 100% ... (read in full...)
Budgeted birthday gift ideas?
Q. I need some ideas as to what to get my boyfriend for his birthday. He will be 36 years old. I asked him what he wanted and he said that he has everything he wants which I think is great but doesn't help me! What do you get the man who says he has ...
A. 28 June 2009: Guys always say this but they always expect something! Im sure your guy knows about the money issues and your saving up for a huge commitment which probably means more to him than anything. Why not be inventive? you say youve been to all these great ... (read in full...)
My jealousy is getting in the way of relationships! How do I deal with it?
Q. I have a jealousy problem and I shouldn't be jealous because I have no reason to be... Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with it? I mean its starting to get out of control and I realized that tonight lol Because I made an ass out of myself ...
A. 28 June 2009: Youve done the hard part by admitting it, know you know the issue get straight to the core, you know what makes you this way sodo all you can to stop yourself falling into that trap. Jealousy is a horrible thing, but its not a disease or an illness ... (read in full...)
How do I clear things up with the guy I've been leading on?
Q. This guy who really likes me and I have been flirting a lot recently. My boyfriend hasn't been there for me in a long time, and I'm considering breaking up. The only problem is, I've been flirting with this guy only because I wanted to replace the ...
A. 28 June 2009: Talk to your boyfriend first, your priorities need to be right if you want to be honest and move forward. You need to speak to them both but obviously your bofriend first. ... (read in full...)
My husband is addicted to DearCupid and is an aunt on this site. How do I bring this up to him?
Q. Hi everyone. Late at night my husband gets out of bed. His sleep has been getting worse. I'm a pretty deep sleeper, so I don't ever get up to check on him when he goes downstairs at night. All I know is that he gets up around one in the morning and ...
A. 27 June 2009: Maybe the irony will help answer some of your questions.
You need to be honest with him, tell him how it is, hes a shadow of the person he once was. The feelings and emotions are a lot deeper if he can only be honest when online, however the idea... (read in full...)
How do I stay in touch with this boy I like?
Q. Hello everyone, Right, there is a boy who I have met who I really like and would just like some advice as how to keep contact with him. I saw him for the first time at a debating group I am part of. I didnt speak to him but added him on fac...
A. 27 June 2009: Its strange that he asked for your mates last name, thats slightly irrelevant if he wanted to progress with you, that leads to a series of questions only he knows the answers too, it could just be he was doing his homework on getting to know your ... (read in full...)
Girls: would you stay with a guy that's so cheap and shallow?
Q. see i use to like this guy when he was studying with me i use to look at him in class because he's so cute well he asked me out and we've been going out for like 4 months and in this period i've never hated any one as much i do not like him when i ...
A. 27 June 2009: The best thing you can do is sum up the good and bad, theres your answer. And just for the record its thought normal for the guy to pay for the first meal and then go halves the rest, i usally stick with halves its fair that way. Set your limits if ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! My best friend says he does not want a relationship.
Q. I think I'm really in love with my best friend. I've know him for years but we're weren't close until recently. And I guess the more I know him, the more I'm in love. He's really sweet and caring. But one thing I'm afriad of is that he doesn't feel ...
A. 27 June 2009: Its always a risk with a mate, you need to be 100% sure and right now your not so i wouldnt take any drastic action at all, like you say it could wreck everything. Dont take a risk on something if your not too sure, it could just be his flirtatious ... (read in full...)
How do I clear things up with the guy I've been leading on?
Q. This guy who really likes me and I have been flirting a lot recently. My boyfriend hasn't been there for me in a long time, and I'm considering breaking up. The only problem is, I've been flirting with this guy only because I wanted to replace the ...
A. 27 June 2009: You tell him the truth,tell him you liked the attention and love he gave you, it only makes you human to want to feel love just dont gofinding it based on lies, only you end up hurt. Tell your boyfriend the truth too, explain that he showed no love,... (read in full...)
Deal with our issues? Or stay broken up?
Q. I broke up with my bf of four years and am now strugling and FREAKING out over whether it was the right decision. Would really appreciate some perspective away from my emotion. This was the deal... gay, together for five years, great loving rel...
A. 14 June 2009: Your heart will tell you the truth and will lead you to the way your really feeling. You love this guy so surely you can work through the issues together maybe? Get the balance right, you both need space but at the same time you need each other ... (read in full...)
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