I would like to get my ex back
Q. Hi, Id been in a relationship with a girl for about a year, a week ago out of the blue she told me that her feelings werent the same as they used to be and she was going to take the risk and end things, she said just wanted to build a really g...
A. 5 April 2009: Only you can answer that, so far youve done the right thing youve done all that she asked and shell have more respect for you because of that.
She has reasons though, youve given her space so rather than jumping staright back in talk to her, tell... (read in full...)
I think my family stole my money. How do I handle the situation?
Q. about 2 months ago i had 60 pounds go missing from my room, the only person who new where it was was my younger brother. he and my dad were the only ones who had been in the house apart from me and my mum as we were at work. Now i have had another ...
A. 5 April 2009: Its a strange situation, if you cant trust your own family then you know theres a problem, its not right if anywhere your money should be safe in the hands of your family. Bring it to everyones attetion, including your mum your dad and your brother, ... (read in full...)
Foreign girls verses the local girls.
Q. Where I live the guys mostly like foreign girls and not the local girls. Where does that leave the local girls? If guys only want the foreign girls....
A. 5 April 2009: Its not a fact, i mean each guy is different they just use the excuse of they like something different a change, the majority stick to what they know. i dont think its one sided i think its even it may just look like it. If your the local girl then ... (read in full...)
I'm too intense when he's around. What should I do?
Q. Hi! I love a boy, we go to the same school but we don't know each other and we've never talked before. I saw him staring at me many many times and even my friends did. One of my friends is in his class and when he sees me with her he comes to us ...
A. 5 April 2009: Be honest with him, he knows his affect on you probably changes the person you really are so explain that he makes you feel 'different'. Talk to him with an open mind, act mature and be up front with him, its ok to be shy and its normal to act ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend flirted with this guy in a way I thought was disrespectful. I'm not sure what to do.
Q. A couple of nights ago we went to a party. My girlfriend got a little drunk and was a little flirty with some other guys. That didn't bother me at all really, but what did is that there was this one guy, she had just met, she was extra talkative to. ...
A. 5 April 2009: I wouldnt let this go. From a womans point of view she went too far and deep down she should know this. Im not saying you should of stepped in and dragged her off him but why did you not intervine at some point? maybe tell her you were leaving? You ... (read in full...)
I feel so ugly and annoying that I can't even think about ever dating another man again.
Q. My ex and I broke up like an hour ago via messenger. We've broken up before and he always comes back. He is usually the one to break up with me. He doesn't trust me, because of my past. I've never cheated on him (or anyone), but he thinks I've been ...
A. 5 April 2009: Sometimes you need to take a look at the situation and ask yourself, did it pan out this way for a reason.
You have a number of emotions going through you right now and he is totally aware of them all yet his insensitive attitude has turned him into... (read in full...)
I found my soul mate. Should I tell him or just leave it at that for now?
Q. I found my soul mate, but he is leaving my program for good. I won't see him anymore. I was thinking of telling him, but I'm afraid it will change things. Oh by the way, I'm 26 years old and he is 20 years old. Tomorrow will be the last time I w...
A. 5 April 2009: How will it change things if hes leaving? Sure its risky but its not like your playing games, your obviously serious. Be honest with him and yourself that way you live with no regrets and you will never have to question the what ifs. Dont be to full ... (read in full...)
What do you do when all of a sudden your best friend for so long tells you he's gay???
Q. Oh man!!- im still in shock!! what do you do when all of a sudden your best friend for so long tells you he's gay??? Well that's what happened do me, i knew "D" since kindergarten, so it's been 8 years-we're really close friends and ...
A. 5 April 2009: Be greatful that he felt he could confide in you and never break his confidence. Your still young and change is common! Accept him for who he is, hes the same person yet his personal/relationship lifestyle (which wont involve you all that much!) is ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on getting rid of spots on my back?
Q. This question is about my body. I don't get too many spots on my face, however i find i get loaadss on my back, and it looks disgusting. My boyfriend hasn't seen it yet, and im hoping he will not be turned of by it?:/ Even if it doesn't bother him...
A. 5 April 2009: Its quiet a common problem now and there are many solutions, during bathing be sure to soak the back in hot water and (although tricky) try exfoliating with a brush to flake off dead skin and after towel drying mositurise (the best you can) this may ... (read in full...)
I dumped him. Does he feel hurt?
Q. If you dump a man who has just been using you, does the man feel any hurt or will he just be relieved if he never loved you in the first place? I have been seeing this man on and off for about 6 months but he never loved me and was still seeing h...
A. 5 April 2009: You don't need somebody like that in your life, they are damaging people who change you for the worst. It's always hard to accept and move on from but it's something you have to do, don't ever question the past or his motives, people like that ... (read in full...)
Really like him but not in love with him!
Q. ok the shortest way i can put this is that i think i really like my boyfriend but im not yet in love with him. i dont know what it is but it seems that when i am not with him i want him so bad and i feel that i really wanna be with him. but then ...
A. 5 April 2009: its ok to be confused! youve stated that you dont want to loose him so you understand that you want him in your life, thats a start. Be honest with him, this will help you in two ways, one you will be more yourself and open with him and 2 by telling ... (read in full...)
Should I wait around for him?
Q. Okay guys so i need your advice. Me and my boyfriend have just broken up for the second time after getting back together a few months ago. It was because we don't have enough time to see each other as much as we would like due to work commitments. ...
A. 5 April 2009: you still love him and so i dont think that waiting would be a problem for you too much its the end of what may come that could be the damaging pat. People get so close and then they head off into different directions sometimes forgetting whats ... (read in full...)
I'm the back up plan
Q. Basically I met this guy, lets call him "Bert", through my group of friends. It was at my friends 16th birthday and we got on really well straight away. Not in the "Love at first sight" way, more like friends - so we swapped MSN addresses and phone ...
A. 5 April 2009: somebody that has lied in the begining isnt usally worth it. However so many people take the risk and go down the 'forgiving' path, its so risky as deep down you dont know the person and if hes hurt you once whats stopping him doing it again? people ... (read in full...)
I keep trying to leave him but he convinces me to stay so I do....
Q. I have been in my current relationship for almost 6 years. Like every relationship, we have are up's and downs. Today i thought it was all going to end because i told my boyfriend that i no longer loved him and felt as though he was the right one ...
A. 4 April 2009: you cannot stay with a person you no longer love, whatever the circumstances. and as much as he begs you to stay in the future i bt hed thank you, love needs to work both ways he cant give all his to you or its not a healthy relationship, you need ... (read in full...)
If you see a goodlooking guy do you assume he has a girlfriend?
Q. do people automatic think a good looking guy has a girlfreind...
A. 4 April 2009: most likely, a good looking guy isnt likely to be on his own for long unless a - he has commitment problems or (personal issues) b- hes to self invlolved or c- people see him and assume hes taken :) ... (read in full...)
He seems to hate everything about me - am I not good enough to be with someone?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now .. have ups and downs .. the usual the thing is he seems to not like lots about me , we usally play this what u like and hate thing and im not saying he is perfect but there is like nothing ...
A. 4 April 2009: you dont have a healthy relationship, both of you are equal, you for even playing this 'game' and for him to winding you up. he knows it hurts you yet he continues doing so, seems to me he has issues of his own rather than let it destroy you and the ... (read in full...)
What can I do to find out if he's cheating?
Q. What should a woman do if she suspects her husband is cheating on her but there is no solid proof that he is?Also, if she can not afford a private detective and there is noone that can help keep an eye on him. A brief history into my scenario: -M...
A. 4 April 2009: Right ok, take another look at your post, your concentration, the way you are, your life is revolved around this, dont ever forget whats truley important in life. You seem to miss the point slightly, your heart is already set on the plan of action ... (read in full...)
I asked her to meet me in an email so that I could ask her out...
Q. Hey, im 17 and in sixth form and i've waned to ask this girl out for a while now and when i finally got up the courage to she wasnt at college and it was the day before a 2 week break so i wouldnt see her for 2 weeks. so i sent her a email aski...
A. 4 April 2009: if all you did was ask to meet up then thats fine, she could just see it as a mate thing - the start of a friendship, however you didnt say if you gave a reason (such as to ask her out?) if you did then play it cool dont come across as to full on ... (read in full...)
What impact do you think that your answers have had on someone? Is it possible that an answer on this site has changed someone's life?
Q. My fellow aunts, I would like to know if you all ever wonder about this. What impact do you think that your answers have had on someone? Is it possible that an answer on this site has changed someone's life? I'm asking out of curiosity. I of...
A. 4 April 2009: i think answers hold a great influence over the actions and attitudes of the seekers, i like that about it, without that there would be no point! maybe not change there life but lead them down a different path or change their set views... depending ... (read in full...)
Advice needed!!! Is he leading me on or does he really like me?
Q. There's this guy (I'll call him Frank) who's been one of my best guy friends since the start of the school year. He's always had a joking somewhat corny personality but the last couple of weeks he's been definitely doing a lot more joking ...
A. 4 April 2009: i dont think hes leading you on i think hes confused. maybe he does like you but hes the type that cant come straight out with it and uses strange behavouir (such as 'moving on' with your mate) as a way of throwing you off the scent or using it to ... (read in full...)
My heartache...
Q. Hello, I am 16 soon to be 17 and my gf left me for someone else, I have handled it well so far but over the last 2 weeks I keep feeling strange, I moved on and found someone else who I really like and we are now dating, unfortunately she is one of ...
A. 4 April 2009: i wouldnt go down that path again. as soon as you start to question yourself through the fault of another that is when you start to realise 'hold on a minute thats wasnt my doing! yet im the one still hurting'. Unless she has come to you with an ... (read in full...)
Advice please... Does size matter?
Q. Do good looking guys fancy plain looking girls? Do tall thin guys fancy small heavy girls because I am 5ft2"....
A. 2 April 2009: every guy is different, but theres that one that finds your special unique quality (that you may hate) and he will love you. Dont question yourself or what others think just be yourself, be honest and the real you will always shine through, if a man ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend but she doesn't feel the same way. Should I still be friends with her?
Q. Hi there. I'm guy who has fallen in love with his best friend (female). We've known each other since grade school, and are in our 20's now, so its been over 10 years that we've known each other. I've always been attracted to her, but never really ...
A. 2 April 2009: although its not what you want to hear shes got the right attitude, the right head on at the right time. it would be so easy and so lovely if it all worked out, friends for so long and then you have that dreamy relationship but there comes a time ... (read in full...)
He's a control freak!
Q. Well i've been dating my boyfriend for a long time now. And it's just getting worse and worse. In the beggining everything couldn't have been more perfect. But now it's like he's a control freak. Everytime I want to go out and hangout with my twin ...
A. 2 April 2009: firstly you should never have to imgine yourself in a situation without him! if your serious and want to gain a solid relationship then you will know inside that your future lies with him, i think you love him but somethings holding you back.
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What I want is a deep passionate, yet reserved relationship
Q. I'm a 16 year old female and I've had one boyfriend, long distance and it didn't work out (2 years ago). I never really wanted a boyfriend and then it hit me one day that I'm lonely and want a romantic relationship. My problem? At school everyone...
A. 29 March 2009: because you have such an idea of who and what you want i doubt very much that relationship exists. while its nice to imagine and dream for you have to be realistic and rather than plan whats to happen why not let it happen naturally? that way its ... (read in full...)
What did he mean exactly?
Q. What did this mean...? Right well background information - there's a guy that me and my mates always thought liked me because he stared at me a lot and he really showed it, then when asked about it by someone he denyed it but the way he said it ...
A. 29 March 2009: i dont think the guy really knows what he wants and when he was saying what he said i dont think his head was in the right place. hes unsure and doesnt know how to come across, i dont think he really knows what he wants so let him get on with it, ... (read in full...)
How do I approach the topic of going out with him?
Q. I am confused! Basically me and this guy have been good friends for ages, but theres always been... like something more could happen. Anyway about xmas I started to have more than just 'wow hes gorgous' feelings, and more like I actually liked him. ...
A. 29 March 2009: hes acting difficult to read as hes confused too! i think he genuinly likes you yet when he went in for the kill you turned him down! its not only knocked him but its confused his head, he has no idea how you feel and guys dont know how to handle ... (read in full...)
Advice needed! How can I get closer to him and make him jealous?
Q. I really like this guy at college and I can't stop thinking about him. I want to get close to him but I don't know how. I don't see him much and I want to make him jealous.. but how? I'm really confused, could you help please x...
A. 29 March 2009: i really wouldnt go down the jealous route it never works and usally hits you back in the face and hurts more people. do the original method of telling him! if you go out of your way to make your feelings clear hes going to believe you are genuine ... (read in full...)
I've invested a lot into this friendship. What do I do now??
Q. My best friend of a year terminated our friendship this week. I don't know what to do. I'm in a mess. This is the situation: We've been friends a year. He's a gay guy I'm a female "Grace". My gay friend I will call 'Will'. We hit it off immediate...
A. 28 March 2009: its ended bad and for a reason, you were so close for so long and when it gets nasty it gets really bad. i think hes accused you as hes taken the situation differently than it was intended, hes seeing you giving your opinions and talking about ... (read in full...)
She doesn't believe it when I say I love her
Q. well i'm a 15 yr old guy. And i think i'm in love with this 14 yr old girl, she live's about 45 minute's away 4rm me. And i met her by a quincenera where i met her bestfriend, we dated, but didnt work out so i started tlkn to her. We've been tlkn 4 ...
A. 28 March 2009: you can understand where shes coming from, espically having heard it from the 'close friend' involved. the distance is already making her insecure and adding more strain to the relationship so sometimes youll have to see her point, shes goin to need ... (read in full...)
Why does he treat me so differently?
Q. i dont understand anything anymore theres a lad i like,he knows i do cuz my m8 thought he liked me n asked him n he sed he didnt like me tht way altho he did show it! thing is i don't understand y hes so different with me. With anyone he'll have...
A. 28 March 2009: i think hes afraid that if he acts 'normal' with you, you could read it differently and im sorry but i dont feel he does like you in this way. i know its difficult but hes only doing this so that he doesnt give you the wrong message, it makes it ... (read in full...)
Said he liked me but in the morning just walked off!
Q. see, i met this boy last weekend. We were drunk and kissed before falling asleep in eachothers arms.he said he liked me but the next morning he just walked off and ignored me.the thing is though, i really like him but i dont know if he likes me or ...
A. 28 March 2009: i think it was the drink i dont thinks hes interested :( its sad but it does that to people. next time be a bit more careful , i know you probs dont need the 'mature' answer but you dont really know him all that well and it makes it harder when it ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy when single and can't accept it
Q. Hello, I recently posted a question on this website. I only received a couple of answers one of which basically said "Just start dating again. Simple." I don't understand why that is so simple, or easy! If it were simple then I'd have a girlfriend ...
A. 27 March 2009: i know it sounds the same as what they all say but the less you look for something the more likely it is to come around. your so set on finding what you want that your probably missing it as you go along. relationships are good but there not your ... (read in full...)
Drifting away and always in a bad mood..why?
Q. I started talking to this really great guy a few weeks back. He goes to the same school as me but I don't really see him around much so we mostly talked through IM and texting. We seemed to really hit it off- we have the same interests, same ...
A. 27 March 2009: i think what hes trying to do is sort himself out, right now he obviosly has issues and i know its hard but for now your not 1st thing on his mind.its different for boys they handle situations differently they feel they cant show emotion so they go ... (read in full...)
I want my math teacher to be my dad!
Q. hello everyone today i am asking for your help well i am my maths teacher but i love him as a dad i want him to be my dad i just dont know what to do well my dad left when i was only 5 and for some unknown reason i love my maths teach...
A. 27 March 2009: its normal, everyone needs that figure in their life, a father figure a friend whatever it be we all need guidance. im sure he is more than happy to be there for you and if you need him im sure hed be willing to help out but to a limit. For now its ... (read in full...)
I can't bear all this waiting around!
Q. I'm feeling very sad and low at the moment and can't shake out of it. This man I have been seeing (who has always been quite unreliable) hasn't contacted me for a week. He does go through phases where he contacts me a lot and then disappea...
A. 26 March 2009: he knows you are there but you cant live your life waiting on somebody else or to be there back up plan what sort of life is that for you? its not a real relationship if your not both in it and i think deep down you know his heart is elsewhere. its ... (read in full...)
Why did I only get suspended if she started it?
Q. Hi everyone!!! I have a problem you see my best friend in the whole world and I got in a fight last month and it got very physical. And she slapped me first cause she said that people said that I was talking bout her behind her back but I wasn't!! ...
A. 26 March 2009: it depends how it was seen, who was there to witness it and how badly each of you were hurt. it seems unfair but there will be a reason, stick to being honest through and through, if you did no wrong then find a way of proving it. next time dont ... (read in full...)
Why do I go back to him? Do I just get lonely and go back to the ex because I can?
Q. Hmm, okay here goes. So I'm 17 and have been on and off with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'm the one who has done the breaking up in the past. We broke up at the end of august last year after being together 6 months, because by the end I ju...
A. 23 March 2009: i think you know the answer, you cant be with a person living on the 'what ifs' and 'theres always the future'... it doesnt work, people dont change all that much, you just get more used to them and if you didnt like him much in the first place 2 ... (read in full...)
I really want to get over his cheating, but I don't know how...
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me back in October, two girls in two nights, and I still haven't gotten over it. I told him I forgive him, because I love him, but since then it hasn't been the same. I really want to get over this, but I don't know h...
A. 23 March 2009: its always hard when you really love the person, but you have to think for yourself and whats best for you overall and from what youve said hes not really worth your love. if he wanted it and wanted a future with you he would never of cheated in the ... (read in full...)
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