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writes: Hey, its really wierd. I love my boyfriend I do. But thinsg lately have been so...normal. so causal. I dont feel excited or passionate when I'm with him anymore.. it is like things are cooling down and I dont want that to happen. Feelings are changing and I want to stop that since we are travelingh together in less than a month... what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Loopy14  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 This happened to me years ago with an ex, i tried to fight it for months but the more i fought it the more i resented him, i eventually broke it up with him and years later i wonder why i didnt leave him sooner. Thats my experience of your situation, it doesnt mean thats how your situation will end up being, just be certain that your with you bf for all the right reasons and not just because your scared of being alone.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (26 May 2009):
The honeymoon period has gone, its so common and hits every relationship, like a barrier you have to break through in order to reach your future, people who get through it together want the same thing and have a positive future, the people who struggle are the ones that begin to question it all, your at the inbetween stage, your not ready to go steaming through yet your not willing to stop and stare at it. Something has to give.
Feelings do change after time, its a human thing! You obviously see a future, you did at some point as you have traveling plans, these plans could make or break what you have, i think you want this to work as if you didnt then you wouldnt be giving it the time of day or this much thought. Personally if i felt as you do about him i would sit him down and be honest about my feelings, stay true to him as well as yourself and you will find some way forward. He knows your love is there, your worry is showing that you dont want to let it go without a fight, consatnt reasurance is what he will need, and i feel is what you need off him, you will never get this unless he becomes aware this is what you are craving, so talk to him, you need each other to get through this.
You say you dnt wnat it to happen so find the fight youve both got and stop it from happening, make him aware of the situation.
I really hope you manage to tackle this problem successfully, with the help and support we all need from the ones we love.
Sorry i went a bit deep and for sooo long lol!
Best of luck for your future,
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