I admitt I flirt but, I DO NOT love him!!
Q. Okay so my buddy nick and I are talking like any old Convo, then he brings up our past relationship. We hated each other. I was mean to him but he loved me, when I had a boyfriend. He tried to break us up before but I forgave him. Then he says he ...
A. 16 April 2009: If you dont love him then tell him. Next time rather than hating the one that loves you give him a bit more support! its always hard when the one you want is with another.
Dont lead him on, if you see no future and you know you are flirting then... (read in full...)
Speaking to an ex again after a few years apart..need some input
Q. Hi everyone i have started speaking to an ex recently again after a couple years. Weve been texting briefly and he even wanted to take me out and to come see his flat and as soon as i asked him why he decided to talk to me again after all this time, ...
A. 16 April 2009: Sometimes after so long its impossible for things to be how they once were, past is past and that is seperate to your future. After so long a lot of things have changed, he probably really misses you and after time spent apart maturing and ... (read in full...)
Does she love me? Or some other guy?
Q. I like and love this girl a lot that I dont want to miss her for a moment. But off late she has fought with me thrice ti 4 times. But everytime she has come back and been normal as before the fight. She comes out with me on dates also. On many dates ...
A. 15 April 2009: I think shes very unsure and until she knows it leaves you in an unstable situation too. Its alays hard when you love somebody but sometimes it doesnt fall the way you want and it can really hurt but theres always a reason for it, some things arent ... (read in full...)
Can being in a rebound relationship or having rebound sex make you miss your ex more and realize?
Q. My ex recently came back saying that being in a rebound relationship, which he had for a month (I am not sure if he was in a relationship or just had some rebound sex) made him realize how precious I am to him, how he cannot live without me and so ...
A. 15 April 2009: I think what should be on your mind is has he really changed? Words come easy and for its too easy to fool people for a bit and then slip back into your old ways. Ask yourself why you finished last tim? Past is past and he was an ex for a reason, ... (read in full...)
3rd time's a charm - Did anyone get a third chance?
Q. Are there any guys (or girls) out there who have broken up with the SAME partner twice and still successfuly gotten him/her back for a third try? (ideally within a relatively short time period - not the 15 year split times then trying again far...
A. 12 April 2009: Sometimes people have too much history and it will always come back through their future and eventually be the cause of the end. Past is past for a reason and it should stay there. 3 times does occastionally work but it really shouldnt, it will ... (read in full...)
My shyness criples me. How do I get over it?
Q. Am a boy of 18, I finished secondary school education last year, now am a 100 level in engineering. My problem is shyness, I need a girlfriend but it would not allow me. I opportunities of having but this shyness does not allow. Please tell me what ...
A. 12 April 2009: Nobody can do it for you, its something you need to overcome yourself in order to achieve. People can guide you and give you tips but being shy is something in your mind that only you can trigger on and off.
Girls are obviously attracted to you ... (read in full...)
I want to liven it up!
Q. i'm 13 and currently in a relationship for about for months, i love her and she loves me. is there anyway to move my relationship on or liven it up??? as it has got a bit boring, btw she is a bit shy but mostly not. look forward to your feedback...
A. 12 April 2009: Everyone gets past that first few dates experiance and they fall into a routine and unless you add variety and keep it motivated it well start to get boring. It takes two, good onyou for giving it the effort. Try doing more things together, treat ... (read in full...)
I love her ...But she doesn't love me!
Q. Iam in love with this gul ! every time i see her i just want to hug and kiss her. ive told her how i feel but she doesn't believe me. i just want to show her how much i love her.. but she doesn't want to cause she is seeing this other guy.. but i ...
A. 12 April 2009: There is a reason why she doesnt believe you and until you figure that one out theres no way forward. She probably doesnt apreciate the pressure your putting on her bearing in mind shes in a relationship. If it is that she doesnt want you cause shes ... (read in full...)
Why wont my ex help me get a bf?
Q. why wont my ex help me get a bf, he recently set one of his new gfs mates up with a guy from the pub, then when i was talking 2 this guy down the pub first the other week, he got him to go and talk 2 my mate, i think he knew i liked him, anyway w...
A. 12 April 2009: i think the answer is obvious, he still has feelings for you and it drives him mad with jealousy when he sees you moving on. Its unfair as its always one rule for a girl and another for the guy, hes ok to move on but your not...? something s wrong ... (read in full...)
Now I cant connect with people on a personal level. How do I overcome this?
Q. Hey... I just finished my first relationship. And it went for two years. I know, thats reaaally long for a first relationship apparently. Well, for the whole relationship, i never yelled at her, any arguments we had it was pretty much her yelling...
A. 12 April 2009: There is noway on how you should connect with a person, its a natural feeling that is a unique experience and only occurs with certain people. You've done the right thing, you've noticed a problem, got it sorted and now your on the way up. It wont ... (read in full...)
She isnt altering her ways, what should I do?????
Q. I am in bits and need your help.... I have been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years now and in January, we got engaged (she is 24). We have arguments like everybody else which is healthy but the problem is, she never admits when she's in th...
A. 12 April 2009: Your relationship should not be based on arguments or what's said or what isn't said. Through your post you don't mention many positives or things you have achieved from the relationship which after 2 years you should have, you most likely have done ... (read in full...)
What should change when you become girlfriend/boyfriend?
Q. When you have "the talk" and are now girlfriend and boyfriend - exclusively, what should change between the two of you from when it was just 'dating' I know there is the obvious - no dating other people etc and commitment to that person but i mea...
A. 12 April 2009: you get to know the person more and you become used to you both as one, its a whole new life to the dating scene its a really big step forward and you should enjoy it for what it is. There is no right or wrong way about how you change it should come... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me jealous and see how far he can go?
Q. Please help me im so confused right now,im still mates with my ex bf, who sometimes i lv him and sometimes i hate him, he has a gf which he says he loves and she could be the one, But basically he tells me about it and also how shes going 2 buy him ...
A. 12 April 2009: i think that hes a knob trying to get the best of both worlds. This sort of guy isn't going to change any time soon so i suggest you cut all contact, you don't want or need this type of person in your life. I don't think he does love her 100% or ... (read in full...)
I'm no angel myself but I want to work things out and she just wants out!
Q. Hi I have been with my baby's mom for 6 years. Recently we have been having alot of problems. I have found wierd numbers on the cell phone bills, she has been coming home. I know Im no angel my self. I get really angry. Recently I found out my mom ...
A. 10 April 2009: It seems that altough hard to accept she has reached her descion. I know its hard but right now your head needs to be in the right place, you have a lot of people looking at your for support and guidance. Your mother and your daughter she be your ... (read in full...)
He wants me to wait 2 years till I finish university..but I am not sure that he'll wait for me!
Q. help i dont know wat to do!!! hi i am only out of a 5yr relationship because my partner is moving to canada when he finishes uni. i would go to but i have 2 yrs to do first. we were set to plan a wedding then he decided to go back to where he used...
A. 10 April 2009: if he has asked you if your willing to go over etc then i think hes more than willing and the question is more like will you be willing to wait? Hes asked a lot of you and im sure in time it will work out, you have the support of each other but as ... (read in full...)
Me and my girlfriend of 4 years split up about a week ago and I need advice
Q. Hi guys.. Me and my girlfriend of 4 years split up about a week ago and I could do with some advice and hopefully words of wisdom! Theres alot to it so thanks in advance for taking time to read it. I first met my girlfriend 4 years ago whe...
A. 10 April 2009: You have such a past with this girl that cutting off completely could change a lot, its very risky to know which way to turn after so much has been said and done. She may be sending you mixed signals but if there were something serious rebuilding ... (read in full...)
I'll do anything to get him back
Q. i am 14 and there is this kid a year older then me and we use to txt alot and flirt non stop. then he asked me to hug him the next day at school so i said yeah...but before we hugged he txtd and said im gonna ask u a question after we hug (ask me ...
A. 10 April 2009: Its all getting too much and it should end now. Hes a guy and his head is not in the right place right now, hes immature and trying to fit it so rather than playing to his game dont even waste your breath in an argument walk away and leave him to ... (read in full...)
We're trying to have a relationship but he keeps moving back and forth making it very difficult!
Q. I have been dating this guy but we have a very complicated relationship. Right now it is long distance but only like two hours. It's just that he keeps moving here and dating me, but it never works out and he always needs to move back home. He has ...
A. 9 April 2009: Hes a very unsure man and until he knows what he wants dont play his game, you will always end up hurt and if he was genuine in how he felt he would do everything to prevent that hurt yet so far hes been the main cause.
Meeting the family is a huge... (read in full...)
Can you fall in love after only 4 days?
Q. hey ok heres the situation...the 2 days ago me and my best frend went round to her cousins house.as soon as i saw her 19yr old cousin i was speechless!! ever sice that day me and her cousin have been in contact all the time and we have met up ...
A. 9 April 2009: Alot of people believe in the whole love at first sight thing, you need to know a person before you can determine that, love is such a strong thing and sometimes the word is just used because its there and its simple, that really takes away its ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend died 8 months ago and I can't move on...
Q. Hey dear cupid, I was dating this wonderful guy for 2 years, everything was perfect we never fought, never argued, it was a perfect relationship. He was my prince charming.. he asked me out on prom and since then we have been inseperable... but he ...
A. 9 April 2009: It will be so hard for you, this will stay with you forever, greif effects everyone in so many ways that some never really recover. When you lost him you lost a bit of you and that may never back to you, at least you can rest with the thought that ... (read in full...)
I'd do anything to feel safe in his arms
Q. dont know what to do been friends with a guy for 3yrs met online and have never met in person - theres a 9yr age gap for the last yrs its been totally on a just friends basis u kno nothing romantic or sexual but we've obviously cared alot about...
A. 9 April 2009: Dont go to far* Am so sorry in the 3rd paragrgaph down i made a typing error in fact looking over the answer i made a few, sorry for any confusion. ... (read in full...)
Does he still care? Or trying to let me down easy?
Q. What do I do my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and he all of sudden wants space. I asked him what was wrong and he said he isn't in the write state of mind. So the next day we got back together and then his phone calls and texts are ...
A. 9 April 2009: Hes obviously got his head in the wrong place and its affecting his priorities and some guys cant handle that, so they act differently and the relationship is effected, im guessing after 9 months this is what it is. If he was trying to let you down... (read in full...)
What could I do to show him that I'm the one for him?
Q. I used to be with this guy and we were really into each other he loved me and I loved him. Now he says that he doesn't love me anymore but he likes me and really cares for me and that I'm important to him. We're just friends right now because we h...
A. 9 April 2009: Your love is strong there's no doubt about that but i cant help feeling that his may not be so much which makes it hurt all the more. You've said it yourself, your heading in different directions and sometimes even love isn't enough to make tha... (read in full...)
I'd do anything to feel safe in his arms
Q. dont know what to do been friends with a guy for 3yrs met online and have never met in person - theres a 9yr age gap for the last yrs its been totally on a just friends basis u kno nothing romantic or sexual but we've obviously cared alot about...
A. 9 April 2009: You want his love and youve fell into the situation where you almsot pine for him. After 3 years i think its ok but keep your guard up, dont let anybody you dont know (personally) in too soon, people arent always what you origannly thought. You fe... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend's mad at me?
Q. I was at work and started talking to a customer on the phone. He was very nice and we had a great conversation and laugh with something totally not related to work. I told my boyfriend about it after the fact as he was asking me how my day at work...
A. 9 April 2009: Its normal for his jealous streak to kick in and sometimes (in some situations) its ok for a girl to push it, but go too far and you may regret it. He will eventually reach his limit and jealousy can cause so much damage, even the smallest thing ... (read in full...)
Confused & friends teasing me about this guy
Q. I really like this guy but he's a year younger than me. I dont have a problem with it and i know i shouldnt listen to other people but my friends have been taking the mick. i would really like to have a relationship with him but i'm nervous about it...
A. 8 April 2009: You obviously feel a lot for him and you are aware that you shouldnt listen to others opinion yet you still find it a problem? Dont hide behind it, only you know if its right then its right and its up to you what to do next. A relationship can begin ... (read in full...)
Is he bored? He chats on MSN more than with me
Q. me and my boyfriend haven't been going out for long but i think hes getting bored of me because he always talks to his friends but hardly to me but on msn hes really nice to me and says he misses me all the time but when i actually see him hes acts...
A. 8 April 2009: I dont think hes bord of you i think he finds it hard being around you so he uses the easy option- the internet to chat to you and be honest with you. Guys find it hard to be themselves when they are actually with the peron they like so they act ... (read in full...)
Now I don't exist for him!
Q. i wanted to know why could it be that he acts ,like he dont care anymore about me we have been dating for 2 m nths in the beginning it was all about me and know it seems i dnt even exsist for him...
A. 8 April 2009: What you once had is dying down and so a lot will change, his actions your actions the way you both feel how you react to things, its like the spark has settled and you have both come to a shocked standstill in hope it will fire up its self. Nothing ... (read in full...)
Still love my first love - but I have a new boyfriend!
Q. Hello, Here is my situation: I am 19. Back in June, I was very very close to taking back my first love We had been together for 3 years, he broke my heart very badly, and it took a year to forgive him. But in this past summer, I felt h...
A. 8 April 2009: You can have every person you know and love around you yet still fee alone, when i read your post thats how id sum how your feeling up, your lonely. Its normal to hold something for the ex whatever the circumstances, hes not going to just dissapea... (read in full...)
She's not there for me...emotionally...
Q. Well... I have been dating a girl for nearly a year. We got together while she was on summer break from college. I tried every way to do the right thing with this girl because i fell for her very soon. We are both going to school. She is at a ...
A. 7 April 2009: Well youve tried talking you need to actually show her. She needs to see for herself you cannot shape her into the person she should already be. A relationship needs to work both ways or it holds little future.
I dont think you can get through to t... (read in full...)
I barely know him but I told him I loved him...
Q. ok I like this boy named Bryan I barly met him and I barly know him yet, I find myself telling him I love him. He told me that he really likes me to so I asked him out. He said NO. So we went on being franns and now he wants to get closer but he ...
A. 7 April 2009: People say the words i love you too much and sometimes it just dosent mean all that much. Next time dont jump in quite so soon and hes likely to be the one giving out compliments and moving forward. If hes said no then leave it a bit, remain as ... (read in full...)
He said I am annoying when I 'mother' him!
Q. hi. so i have this really big problem. well not really big. but i really like this guy and i cant tell if he likes me. he makes it so confusing. like everytime we talk hes mean to me. but hes nice to everybody else. and i've talked to my friends ...
A. 7 April 2009: I dont think he knows the real you and hes not willing to give you the chance. People like this dont usally deserve the chance so if he says your 'mothering' him take a step back and play it cool, he will then be the one come running. Some guys use ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a ton of online interactions. Should I leave him?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just over a year. all through the year i have been findin out stuff he has been doing behind my back. at the beginning i found texts he sent to his ex saying he still loves her and she told me they met and stuff...then ...
A. 7 April 2009: No, its a simple answer to a difficult question that deep down you know the answer too. Its hard to admit it but you need to let this one go, hes unwilling to change and you cannot force him. Let him be this guy he wants to be that has girls 24/7 ... (read in full...)
Is he interested, or fancies me? or doesn't like me in that way?
Q. Hello, Lately I been going crazy about this boy named JK his same age as me but turning 17 this year and I’m 16. Today I saw him when I was walking to school he kept looking behind to see me and at the end he crossed the road and then looked ...
A. 7 April 2009: Well you know what your getting yourself into and its your choice to do so, from what youve said his signs do seem to add up to the same why you are feeling. However neither of you are going to make the first move, he is maybe less likely to due ... (read in full...)
Hurt and confused
Q. Hi everyone, thanks for taking the time to read! I've been friends with this girl for about a year and lately I've been wanting to get into a proper relationship with her, and thinking maybe she wanted it too. We've been seeing a lot of each othe...
A. 7 April 2009: Its not for sure shes seeing her ex so dont jump to quickly. You could either wait for her to get into contact again or you could go for the first move and ring her and arrange to meet? From what you've said her actions could well lead to ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll change her mind the more time we spend together?
Q. After my ex girlfriend broke up with me about 5 or 6 months ago we still continued to talk every once in a while; catching up from time to time, talking on the phone, texting etc. We dated for about a year and are both at different colleges and see ...
A. 7 April 2009: I don't feel she has any intention in changing her mind, im really sorry but i don't think she sees you as that yet shes willing to lead you on so that you think there is a future. Whats even wore is the way you talk i can tell you really do like ... (read in full...)
Do you think we'll get back together in the future?
Q. Someone help me plz. I don't know what to do. I've been with this guy for 11 months almost a year and he broke up with me last week and kicked me out but then he got back with me saying he doesn't want to be without me. Then like a week later beca...
A. 6 April 2009: If he says no now maybe he really means it? Give him the space hes craving and in time hell have the feelings you are having now and hell want you back but youve given him what he asked for, this is showing him that your willing to give him space ... (read in full...)
What can I do about it if anything?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and things have generally been quite up and down. Its been quite a passionate relationship i would say - the good times really good and the bad times really bad. But things always worked out. ...
A. 6 April 2009: Hiyah, well look youve done all you can, now the relationship has reached its peak let it go. You can do no more than you have and you should be leaving with your head held high. He is a very confused and lost guy right now yet maybe his intentions ... (read in full...)
What do guys prefer...?
Q. Do guys only go for gorgeous looking girls and not plain looking girls?...
A. 5 April 2009: Guys vary, everyone is unique and they search for different types and the reason for this? Unknown, its a guy thing, like girls with guys they have a type and they are not all the same. Theres that saying that there is someone for everyone... i dont ... (read in full...)
What can I do about it if anything?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and things have generally been quite up and down. Its been quite a passionate relationship i would say - the good times really good and the bad times really bad. But things always worked out. ...
A. 5 April 2009: He is very confused and is reluctant to blame family issues. His head is so messed up and its all out of his control, when you loose that you get so fustrated and your confidence is shattered, he probably feels like hes worthless and very alone ... (read in full...)
I would like to get my ex back
Q. Hi, Id been in a relationship with a girl for about a year, a week ago out of the blue she told me that her feelings werent the same as they used to be and she was going to take the risk and end things, she said just wanted to build a really g...
A. 5 April 2009: Only you can answer that, so far youve done the right thing youve done all that she asked and shell have more respect for you because of that.
She has reasons though, youve given her space so rather than jumping staright back in talk to her, tell... (read in full...)
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