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writes:i'm 16 and in high school. i was wondering what is love? i know its a strong feeling you have towards someone, but how do you know when your in love? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tarianna  +, writes (31 May 2009):
 ok...I presume your talking about the intimate...romantic sort of love....I dont know how to describe it...I dont think there is a way to define it but when your in love you care real deeply for that person...you'd do anything for them to make them happy...you'll risk your life for them...:)..you'd even run infronmt of a bullet for them...you miss then when they just leave you you a minute ago...you can stare into there eyes for hours on ends not exactly saying anythign not even smiling and its like you've been talking the entire time...when you have a really bad day and you dont want anyone at all to talk about you and you swear if anyone calls you you'll snap at you anbd when he\she does your heart starts to smile...you can be cranky and stupid and tell himhow much you hate him and he leaves you alone yet you feel you are still so close...cause you know he'll be back....seriously I dont know how to describe it but when your in love...you'll know absolutely without a doubt.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (30 May 2009):
 You just... know.
I realise that that's probably not too helpful XD
But it's true. You just know, deep in your gut, that you love someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): This seems like the most cliché answer ever, sorry about that:
Love is indescribable and you know it when it hits you. It's the best feeling in the world. Trust me. I'm only a highschooler (and I know most people would say I've never been in love, but I know my emotions better than these Internet-people do) and I never want to feel anything else ever, hahaha.
If the relationship ends though... It's misery. You can't make yourself be mad. You can try, but the feelings won't go away, even accompanied by bitter cruelty. Unrequited love sucks. You can be happy, but then have one off thought and be in tears.
Plus, I'm of the opinion that one never fully gets over their first real love.
^I'd be happy to be wrong.
Wishing you better luck than I've had!
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (30 May 2009):
Ok well its not an actual definition but i you just know! i know its a common thing to say but there are many types of love and how you feel them, its a personal experiance between you and another that combines as one.I dont think people really know they just have a great understanding of it due to a personal experiance. You have a feeling inside of you that is like no other, it stands out from the rest in a league of its own, that one feeling can do so much to a person, it can change who they are and how they live etc. Once you experiance true love you form into a different person, maybe mature is a good word but different seems the key word. As soon as you ask the question what is love and how do you know when you are you know that your on the right lines to falling in love. Age etc doesnt come into it, that feeling is unique an once you have it dont let it go, it doesnt come around that often and its usally saved for a special one.Enjoy it and be happy once you experiance it, the greatest feeling, emotion known!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): Oh you know. You know because you have no doubts in your mind about them, you dont want to leave them because you miss them the minute they go. You put up with all their bullshit and still wanna stick around. You have major problems but one smile off them and you feel better again. You understand each other and your comfortable talking to them about anything. You want to be with them every waking hour, even if they wind you up at times! You cant imagine your life without them. Theres good times and bad times and you get through both. You only need them! Simple.
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reader, natasia +, writes (30 May 2009):
 Trust me, you know.
Ok, this is what I have observed:
There are several types of love. You can list these as:
1. Sexual/romantic love - based on strong attraction between two people
2. Deep attachment love - for your family, and eventually for your lover, and sometimes for very close friends
3. Unconditional love for your children - it is similar to your love for yourself, only you have another person to focus on (your child)
Really there are only two types - sexual closeness, and deep attachment love.
Anyhow, I know what you're talking about - how does someone who is just, eg, in your class, suddenly balloon up into The One You Love, instead of just being their ordinary selves? It is a strange thing. It is possible for you even not to notice someone, and then for something to happen between you, and then to find yourself months or so later adoring this person as if they were the only person on earth. Very strange.
How do you know what's happening? The first thing in a relationship that will be love rather than friendship (ie, will be with sex rather than without) is the very strong physical and emotional high of attraction. Before two people have slept together, there is an almost unbearable desire - you cannot help but feel this. It will be over whelming. Eg, you only have eyes for this person, every move they make seems significant, you feel completely different when you are close to them or think about them, you can think about nothing else ...etc etc. All the cliches.
Then you grow closer, and alongside the sex develops affection. And then at some point this affection becomes like deep love - unconditional. It doesn't matter what they do, you are still loyal and love and care about them - they are part of your family, part of the furniture.
But you are way off that now! For you, I think it is important to realise that strong attraction is often teenage love. And you won't miss it.
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