I don't know what to do as he has a girlfriend!
Q. I've been friends with this guy for about two months, I've liked him a lot since I met him but I refused to say anything as he has a girlfriend. We've been flirting a lot and the other day he told me that he also likes me, I also told him that I ...
A. 20 May 2009: You sound like a genuine person whos in this puely for the love, untill he sorts things with his gf i.e dumps her then i would stay clear, at least that way you know he was honest with you. Dont get involved playing this game, you end up hurt the ... (read in full...)
Paranoid that my boyfriend will cheat on me!
Q. Can anyone please help me with this fear i have that my boyfriend will cheat on me when he goes out with his mates. He doesnt handle drink well and doesnt know when to stop and ends up acting a right knob and not remembering what he gets up to. He ...
A. 20 May 2009: Your not paranoid your human, everyone goes through this!
Men see no wrong in how they act when theyve had a drink wonder how it would be if the tables were turned???
Anyway, have you talked to him? im sure hed reasure you and after hearing ... (read in full...)
Self esteem issues
Q. hello . i am a 14 year old girl. i currently live with many issues. i have very low self esteem although im told im not ugly. im told im too skinny i weigh 100 lb. i have scoliosis and wear a brace but only to sleep. i think i have hyperhidrosis ...
A. 17 May 2009: Everyone has imperfections. Its just the way we deal with them that counts. Its like make up, people use make up to highlight what they do like and cover what they dislike, if you take a look at some people its a very strange way to live but it ... (read in full...)
Wait and try to get back with my Ex or move on?
Q. Hi, everyone, Last night I atteneded prom with a good friend of mine. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 months only a week ago. I love my ex so very much. I like my prom date as a potential boyfriend. All that being said, I'm not yet over my ex. ...
A. 17 May 2009: Your right your not over your ex but when will the time be right? Maybe this could be exactally what you need, youve been fair in how youve been and youve sat and talked with the potential guy so youve started the first few steps i feel that you ... (read in full...)
My b/f's ex reveals she likes me
Q. my best friend's ex gf reavels she 'likes' me after breaking up with him. although i like her too, she says we can't date because of the fact that she wants to leave in peace. what should I do to convince her to give ourselves a chance? i'd ...
A. 17 May 2009: I think in these situations shes doing the right thing so maybe you should go with that? on the other hand you could talk to your best mate? its always very risky and it doesnt usally work out the way you wanted theres always that arkwardness that ... (read in full...)
My voice hasn't broke yet
Q. hi. i am 14 and my voice hasn't broken. My friends said not all peoples voices break is this true and when will my voice break. Thanks...
A. 17 May 2009: There isnt a right age for your voice to break people just go on estimates which falls under the teenage years.
I think you will know whenyour voice breaks but when that will be i really dont know. Some are early and some are later on theres noth... (read in full...)
How do I fix my relationship?
Q. I have never asked advice online before so here I go. I have been dating a girl for a year and a half now. I hav lied to her on countless occasions on stupid stuff. I am 31 and she is 40. She has 2 teenagers that live with us. We have always worked ...
A. 17 May 2009: The best thing you could do is start a fresh with her, be really open and honest tell her exactally what she means to you and how your feeling however once you do this you always have to follow it up as i doubt shes going to believe you mean it. ... (read in full...)
Cheating girlfriend knows karate..want to break up!
Q. Alright,my g-friend is cheating on me.i do not see her often so i dont know how to break up with her. (i think she knows karate so i cant break it to her to hard)How do i get out of this?...
A. 14 May 2009: If shes the one cheating then why would she hurt you? in any way?! your the guy here so act like one! Be honest with her, nobody is going to stick around knowing there being cheated on, whether she knows karate or not have some balls and tell her ... (read in full...)
Am I the one to blame?
Q. Hi Just wanted a bit of advice, well to see if I am to blame or not!! My b/f and I were together about 6/7 months. He had a bad temper, but thinnking back I don't know if it was my fault. When we first got together he told me he loved me near eno...
A. 11 May 2009: The guy has many issues that are beyond your control and his in some cases. People who start with this behavouir usally end up hurting the ones they olve, his protective yet agressive nature is common but what it can progress to is not worth ... (read in full...)
I went and spoilt it all by saying something stupid....
Q. i've been dating this guy officially for only a little more than a week, but we've liked each other for a long time. he is very open and affectionate with me and is always telling me how much he likes me. this weekend i accidentally let is slip out ...
A. 11 May 2009: You said how you feel, a relationship needs honesty in order to progress and have a future, youve told him how you feel and hes admitted its going to take him time, dont let it spoil what you have. The only reason it seems hes bcked off is not ... (read in full...)
How to be around ex and his new girl
Q. Hope everyone is having a good day and would appreciate some feedback here. I broke up with my ex six months ago and now I am happy to say I have moved on. For the longest time I avoided the places where I thought he might be but now I am fine with ...
A. 9 May 2009: Maybe approaching him and her would ease the situation so they know your ok with and youve both left the past in the past. You cant spend your time avoiding each other especially if you live close and attend the same events frequently, which im ... (read in full...)
Why does this guy act this way?
Q. This guy that I've known since last September has been weird. Last monday through wednesday he was ignoring me and not talking to me. Then Thursday he was smiling at me and talking to me on the bus. Friday during shop he was staring at me from ...
A. 9 May 2009: Firstly who gave him the right to be in control?! This behavoir is seriously out of order and i dont know how youve stood for it for so long without a word to him! In your own words 'hes very selective on when he wants to talk to me' thats not a ... (read in full...)
Broken up but want him back
Q. I have a question that might seem stupid and the answers are quite obvious but I want others opinions. Well i started to go out with this amazing guy I've known for a while and I fell for him completely. We seemed like the perfect couple a...
A. 9 May 2009: I think that maybe he needs his space as his head and heart arent in a relationship right now, of any kind so dont take it personally like its a dislike and sudden change of heart to you because i dnt think it is, people find it difficult to control ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he'll leave me - he doesn't seem sure...
Q. my guy and i have been dating for at least 8 months now. from the beginning it was wonderful. he is an amazing, creative, kind individual. we've both made mistakes. i've been overly emotional and overbearing because he made the mistake of lying to ...
A. 8 May 2009: Hiyah, maybe marriage isnt the answer just yet? You have something very speacial i just dont see this as the ideal time or situation for this highly commited path, both of you need to have a full heart in such a huge step and right now i dont feel ... (read in full...)
How do you cope if they don't return your love?
Q. i am deeply in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way. All i want is him. He will make my life complete. He is the only person i have ever loved. i dont know what to do: im feeling sad depressed lonely and desperate. I don't k...
A. 8 May 2009: Everyone goes through this situation at some point in life and everyon deals with it in their own individual way, theres no right or wrong way of healing. You will continue to feel sad and lonely until you force yourself to get up from this and move ... (read in full...)
The rules have changed, I'm the pursuer, and not sure how to go about it
Q. There's a guy who Ive known for about 5 years lets just say his name is Jon. Jon is a great guy. When I first met him we were talking and hanging out together almost all the time, very innocent fun, but at the same time I was in a failing ...
A. 6 May 2009: Unless you make the first move i doubt hes going too, taking a knock back will always hurt even after a few years. From what youve said he likes you, if you want it enough take that step and ask him. Obviously the situation is a lot different but ... (read in full...)
I think I love him, but he blows hot/cold
Q. I can't stop thinking about this guy, seriously 24/7. I think Im in love with him, I don't get the feeling he feels very strongly for me. He blows hot and cold, one minute wanting to see me all the time, then i don't hear anything from him. We have ...
A. 6 May 2009: I do know exactally what you mean but im sorry to say it doesnt always work that way and what hurts the most is youve fallen so deep and from what youve said i dont think hes there yet (or even had the intention of going there)
I usally make excu... (read in full...)
He loves me...he loves me not
Q. Why would my ex come back after break, then say he wants to be single, as seeing me confuses him? He came back to me saying we wants to be with me, then two weeks later says seeing me confuses him and that he wants to be single at the minute.. i k...
A. 2 May 2009: He seems VERY confused and until hes sure in himself it leaves you with a number of questions that only he can answer. He has rasons and maybe the fact that you have such a history is affecting your future? Some people can g through too much ... (read in full...)
Can't figure out if he likes me or not?
Q. I have this crush on this boy in my grade We share 6 out of 7 classes together. Well, in Spanish the other day, my friend and I finished our project, followed by our other friends, quickly. I went over to him and his friend, ignoring his fri...
A. 2 May 2009: It could be a bit of harmless flirting that worked both ways or it could be a friendship? Dont jump too soon, he could see you as a friend that he is growing to know and like so make sure you are positive and clear on his felings before you decide ... (read in full...)
How can I show him that I'm serious this time?
Q. So, I've started seeing a new guy this week after I broke up with my ex of 3 years. I met up with him on Monday night and we just chilled at his house. I got home and he text me saying he nearly went in for a cheeky kiss as i was leaving. So we met ...
A. 2 May 2009: Well you have a past yet hes still got involved showing hes interested. I dont think showing him its serious is what he needs, you just need to communicate a lot more and get to know each other, its so easy to jump in too fast and watch it all go ... (read in full...)
New Colleague keeps inviting herself along to everything we do!!
Q. I need some advice with how to deal with a new work collegaue. She has only joined the team for 3 weeks and already she is making everyones business hers...she is very cocky,and nosey and the worst thing is that she keeps inviting herself along to...
A. 30 April 2009: Maybe she thinks this is her way of fitting it? Nobody has breeched the subject with her yet so she feels thatbeing this way has made her accepted. If this was brought to her attention you may be pleasently surprised to her personal feelings. People ... (read in full...)
Why is he scared to come near me?
Q. I have a class with this one guy. I've just recently noticed something. If I'm around he won't come near me. If I'm talking to his friends he will either go sit by himself or he will sit off to the side and wait for me to leave. There was a seat ...
A. 29 April 2009: Maybe he likes you and doesnt know how to handle it? There is obviously some reason behind it, from what youve descibed its no coincidence so why not be the bigger person take the big step and talk to him. Simply ask him. Some people find it ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the right things but I can't break up with him!
Q. hey! The situation im in dosent make much sense to me so im sorry if its slightly confusing for you guys... ive been with my boyfriend for nearly ten months and it had been !Amazing! we feel so strongly for each other and tell each other absolutl...
A. 26 April 2009: This is common and i see it as the honeymoon period of your relationship, the beging is brilliant, nothing goes wrong and your still adjusting to each other, but after that time you get so used to each other its almost like a routine. You obviously ... (read in full...)
I was wrong, she won't forgive!
Q. My ex best friend was being really mean and saying that she was sleeping with my boyfriend. So I asked someone for her password and hacked into her Facebook account and messed about with it. I KNOW IT WAS WRONG!! But it was fun at the time I guess. ...
A. 26 April 2009: Why on earth would you want her forgiveness? Youve both been stupid but she went to the extreme, some comments are too far and this is one of them. Sleeping with your bf? this is your 'mate', count yourself lucky you saw her for what she really is ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? How can I regain his trust again?
Q. MOD NOTE: This is NOT written like its coming from an 18 year old... right well, my boyfriend dumped me and we were quite close? so he told me loads of stuff, and i went and told everyone our conversation:(. and he went and dumped me. but s...
A. 26 April 2009: Well he obviously likes you, his body language and bhavouir is telling you that, but you hurt him and trust is always hard to gain especially when its be lost.
Learn from it, next time he tells you something dont go and tell everyone else, its priv... (read in full...)
I don't understand why guys won't be seen out with me, it's always ok if no-one else is around.
Q. I need some advice, as I don't know where I am going wrong. I am 24 (Female) and I can't ever seem to get a boyfriend, I work with a mix of males and females, mostly males, and a lot of them comment on my looks, but no one ever asks me out. ...
A. 25 April 2009: Of corse a bad relationship past will affect your confidence, only you can rebuild that and sometimes that needs to be done independantly so embrace your single life for now and focus on sorting you and your head out.
It may just be a coin... (read in full...)
Should I confront him and ask him what he wants from me?
Q. I am a little confused about a current situation, I have read some pages on here and some people have the same issues, but can anyone comment on mine. There is a guy I work with he blows hot and cold with me all the time, we have kissed a couple ...
A. 25 April 2009: Dont feel stupid, in this situation hes the stupid one. All guys want fun, you trusted him and even went along with it all because you reall likes him, that shows what a genuine person you really are but at the same time you should never let your ... (read in full...)
We got on so well together... now he's telling me he's getting back with his ex...
Q. I am having a similar problem and was wondering if you guys had any advice for me. I have known this guy for 2 years and have kept in contact off and on during that time. Around then end of January we started dating. It was great, we talked every ...
A. 25 April 2009: you might not want to but the best thing for both you and the guy (your ex) is to give it some space, the whole situation needs to calm down if you want to move forward.
This guy has moved on, some people never really let go of there ex's and they... (read in full...)
They are say I'm anorexic, but I'm starting think it's true.
Q. I'm 13, and I haven't been on a diet long. A really short time in fact. My friends say I'm skinny enough already and think I'm crazy for dieting. It was just eating healthy and cutting back snacks, also with excersise at the beginning. But then ...
A. 23 April 2009: The best thing youve done is confided in people and realised you have a problem, you know the symtoms now comes the hard part of stopping them effecting you. You know the damage this can cause and unless you fall back into routine you will only get ... (read in full...)
I'm losing my appetite...
Q. I feel myself losing appetite. Is this normal?? When winter comes I know I eat a lot but since it's getting warmer, I find myself eating little bits of food. ...
A. 23 April 2009: It is normal, its only when the weight falls off and you stop eating completely that it becomes a real issue. Changes in weather, our personl lives and day to day life will effect what and when we eat, everyone is the same in that respect.
In the ... (read in full...)
Worlds apart but too close for comfort
Q. I am 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. However, I have known this other man for 6 years over the internet. We've met up before and it was amazing, although nothing happened, I feel like I've betrayed my boyfriend. I...
A. 22 April 2009: It seems you know the truth deep down, it doesnt make you a bad person to fall out of love, it does if you dont let the person know how your now feeling. The way you describe him is almost like you have made your descion, if you see no future with ... (read in full...)
How do I know when he is ready to kiss?
Q. ive been seeing a guy for about 2 months now, he is 23 im 18 and he has recently came out of a long term relationship, we are both fully interested but how do i get about knowing if he is ready to kiss me?...
A. 20 April 2009: i bet after 2 months your both ready!
He could have reasons for not making a move already such as hes still getting over his past ex (although i doubt this given that he got back into a relationship) or it could be that he likes you and he does... (read in full...)
I want my ex back! Any ideas for getting her back?
Q. OK so I want my ex back! Yes I have thought about it long and hard. We broke up in December and since then we have talked a bit, not to often though, sometimes we have fought over the past, sometimes just talk about how she is doing, she is seei...
A. 19 April 2009: Well your right about one thing, the feeling! You know when you know (if you get that). Past is past everyone has a history you know your situation better than us all so if you think its the right time and the right person then you have my support! ... (read in full...)
My ex has started texting me again after we broke up 2 months ago, I'm confused!
Q. Dated a girl for 4 months. Was really good until the last month when things went south. She wanted to not be tied down at this point in her life (she's a freshman in college I'm a junior in college). I wanted something a little more serious. So we ...
A. 18 April 2009: Maybe it was the original ' you dont know what you got till its gone' or maybe she just realised that you could share the same dream and she wants you in her future, she could be playing games and for you not to get hurt you need to seek the truth ... (read in full...)
Rollercoaster ride!!!
Q. My ex boyfriend and I are on this crazzzzy roller coaster with our relationship! I'm getting tired of it and hurt and every time I think about just turning away everything we went through makes me heartbroken and go into a depression. I need help ...
A. 18 April 2009: The ex always comes back into your life and sometimes he never really leave, in order to move on you need to make him leave and you need to really want it for yourself. Keep thinkin, the only way forward is to let go of the past, if you hold onto ... (read in full...)
Are there any steps you suggest to getting over a guy you are madly in love with?
Q. I am asking for help how to get over a guy I love because I'm tired of being hurt and always the last to know everything. This 'relationship' with him began 2 years ago and since then he's lead me on, only talking to me if he wants sex. He never ...
A. 18 April 2009: Its really hard and ill be honest you never fully let go, once you loose yourself and fall so deep its a part of you gone that you never get back. Remind yourself how lucky you are to know the real him, see how he really is and the way he treats ... (read in full...)
I love my ex but would like to date this other guy too!
Q. I'm an 18 year old female and I have never been so confused in my life. A few months ago, I dated a guy online, a friend of a friend that goes to school here. The problem was that it was a long distance relationship. He broke up with me about a ...
A. 16 April 2009: Personally id give this new guy a chance, at least then you will never live on the what ifs, if it doesnt work then at least you gave it a shot, its better to take the risk than never know. As for your ex well its taken him time to relaise what he ... (read in full...)
It's been 27 years now and they still don't seem to be able to work their marriage out!
Q. I am in my first year university, I am 20 and yes I still live with my parents. Now I am finding it really hard to cope as my parents keep fighting and arguing all the time. My dad hits my mom too. I don't really talk to my dad, we are not clos...
A. 16 April 2009: You will have helped you mum already without even realising, just knowing that your there for her and she has your support has proably got her through many dark days, you could be the reason she gets up in the morning and carries on through the day. ... (read in full...)
My problem includes three people, my frend, the guy we BOTH like and me.
Q. My problem includes three people, my frend, the guy we BOTH like and me. I told my friend I don't mind if she asks him out. He said yes, but it was only to not really hurt her. So that's not really the problem, it's just that that lead to him not ...
A. 16 April 2009: Count yourself lucky. The guy cant make a descion and so is almsot playing games, hes in a relationship yet hes telling you he loves you, if he really liked you he would of said no to your mate surely? He may actually like you but do you want to ... (read in full...)
I will always love her!
Q. We were classmates in highschool, at first I didn't like her much but after a year or two I got a crush on her. Unfortunately she was already in love with other classmate and soon after, she got married and had a kid with him. Seven years have ...
A. 16 April 2009: It seems you have fell really deep. Its been proven that time will not cure this! But the harsh relaity is she has somebody whom she has a child by, its so hard i know and like i say time wont help you this time but the truth will. Do you really see ... (read in full...)
I admitt I flirt but, I DO NOT love him!!
Q. Okay so my buddy nick and I are talking like any old Convo, then he brings up our past relationship. We hated each other. I was mean to him but he loved me, when I had a boyfriend. He tried to break us up before but I forgave him. Then he says he ...
A. 16 April 2009: If you dont love him then tell him. Next time rather than hating the one that loves you give him a bit more support! its always hard when the one you want is with another.
Dont lead him on, if you see no future and you know you are flirting then... (read in full...)
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