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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months and he is crazy about me, he wants to see me every night, texts me in the day. I believe he loves me but...he lies to his ex girlfriend about us making out we are not serious and almost taking the mickey out of me. how do I approach this with him as not supposed to know. i feel I cant trust him and it doesnt make sense
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reader, kaylagal  +, writes (25 May 2009):
 By lying to his ex about your relationship, he is basically telling her he's not serious about you and the relationship is not either.
There is a reason why he's lying to her, my guess is that he's still has feelings for her.
I think you have a problem here, from your age, I assume your boyfriend is also in his 30s, if he is, his behaviour is even more unacceptable - there is no reason why a man in his 30s who has a girlfriend would deny the relationship to his ex.
Good luck.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): You are the rebound person and he's filling a void that his ex left him with. It's obvious he wants her back but he'll tell you he doesn't until she finally agrees to it and then you are history or he'll just see the both of you as long as he can get away with it. I'm sure it's flattering him wanting to be with you all the time but it's not love that is driving this behavior, it has nothing to do with you, it has to do with desperation. Guys hate being alone and his behavior should have your guard up! I would run for the hills if I were you.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (24 May 2009):
This situation holds no future unless you act now, what you have to do is simple, give him the ultimatium. Surely he is aware of how this is hurting you? and yet he contunes doing so? what sort of man does that? Hes su[pposed to love you and treat you with the respect and devotion you give him. a relationship needs balance stability and secruity your lacking all three.
I feel hes lying as hes not over her, never be anybodys second best, words are cheap and come easy hes actions tell the true story, take not of them and make a descion, you owe it to yourself.
If he loved you this would of stopped, actually if he truly loved you this wouldnt of even happened.
It doesnt make sense because its so out of the norm, nobody should be treated like this, its not a healthy relationship, its about time he faced up to immature behavouir, tell him how your feeling and that unless something alters your gone.
Dont stay with somebody whos in love with another, your the only one that gets hurt, show him you mean it, untill he gets over her then your done something that will show him your true to your word,unlike him.
Personally i would of left this relationship a long time ago, you need two to love.
Dont be treated this way any longer, your worth more.
Make the rght choice for you, best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): If he's lying to his ex it's either because he's still having sex with her or still wants to and doesn't want to ruin his chances with her.
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