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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i met a new girl recetly. we have a lot of fun together, we laugh and have good conversations and shes really good lookin in my opinion. the thing is shes a bit insecure, she doesnt txt as much. im always havin to txt her askin if she wants to meet up. its never the other way round. im tryin to resist myself in not txtin her every night so tht i dont seem needy. good idea?secondly, when we first started goin out, she would hold me a few times but now that i return the favour more often, i noticed she hasnt done so anymore.whats goin on in her head? should i just ask her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): sorry to say it but i was in this position but i was the girl, and it was because i wasnt that into him and ended it soon after.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (26 July 2009):
Maybe she things shes given the role to you, your the guy and thats what you do, its a common mistake people in a relationship forget that it takes two and the balance needs to be strong and THERE at all times or it gets to where you are now. Rather than second guessing her feelings ask her maybe shed apreciate the talk, you say shes insecure i thing you both hold a bit of that, dont question yourself it might just be a personal reason thats holding her back. Either way you need the talk where your honest with each other. She might think this is normal and your happy to be doing all the chasing/arranging, it needs to work both ways so gently tell her this, be really honest and open.
As for the holding sometimes she might just need you to? girls get so used to having a guy there and the relationships been going strong for a while they dont feel a need for a change, bring in the balance thing again.
Your right to feel this way but you need to aim the questions at her in hope of an honest response, nobody but her knows how shes feeling, talk to her.
Best of luck, hope it works
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