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writes:My girlfriend was in a bad mood after work which is understandable. I was being nice and asked my friend to leave so we could be alone. She started taking out something the dog did that was not my fault. She thought she heard me say something under my breath which i didnt and said "excuse me!" like i was a child in a mean voice. I said "nothing!" because i felt she was harassing me for nothing. Thats all i said. Then she said "Why dont you go find someone else to treat bad!" I have always treated her good and this hurts me alot. She was treating ME bad at the time but i never would say that! She appologized but doesnt seem to show any remorse, just to get off the topic. This hurt my feelings bad and i cant believe she said that, what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (26 July 2009):
In an argument things are said, silly things that after people feel stupid for saying so they avoid them, especially if they were in the wrong. In this case id say she feels stupid, she knows she was tired and she over reacted but shes leaving it there, the more you drag it up the more damage it does, some things you just need to let go. I cant help but feel theres more to this and your only highlighting a small porotion of whats getting to you, if you feel the relationship has run its coarse dont stay and pick at the little things maybe just walk away? If small things like that are causing huge issues and a strain on the relationship maybe you need a break from it. Either sit and discuss your feelings with her or simply step back from it. Before taking drastic action think it through, let it go she probably didnt mean it, we all say things when lost in the moment. Rather than battling against each other the best thing you could do is come through the hard times together, itll make you stronger. Best of luck
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reader, misstits  +, writes (26 July 2009):
Communication is key to every relationship. She may have been in a bad mood, and took it out on you. What you need to do, is create a nice atmosphere, a nice dinner, or walk in the park, something nice, and talk about your feelings and hers. It sounds as if, you are home when she gets in from work. When your home, look around tidy up before she comes home, so that she doesn't have to do it when she comes in and she's tired. A relationship is about sharing and caring, share responsiblities. And if your inlove with her and she is with you, cherish that.
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