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writes: I'm having issues with my wife's new found friends- 2 are a couple m/f and married and the other is a lesbian and they are next door neighbors. The lesbian broke up the couple marriage but they got back together and now the lesbian is breaking up a friend of mine marriage. My wife does not see and or feel as I do about the whole situation and I would like to have her just stay away - but she won't and its driving me crazy
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 Oh for god's sake mate, are you for real?
I think you have been watching too much Fox News specials warning us about the evils of the gay menace. In the real world there isnt a cabal of homosexuals running around ruining marriages and converting straight people into their evil ways. People are either straight or gay, its as simple as that. Your wife does not see it as you do because she has some common sense and doesnt buy into this myth about homosexuals. It's good someone in the relationship has some sense, maybe you should take up a hobby to take your mind off such nonsense.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 Damn lesbians and their Evil powers which they force others to do their evil bidding.
#1. have you even talked to these "Lesbians"
#2. have you spoke to your friend about the lesbians breaking up his marriage?
#3. Have you spoke to your friends wife?
#4. have you ever had sex with your friend or lived with him or been married to him?
I'm guessing the answer to the last question is... No... least for the sake of your own marriage.
You need to realise that your "Friend" is just that.
Your friend. not your lover and not your partner.
Example. my dad was a total bastard at home, abusive and a drunk, would also put me down verbal abuse and so on.
My Dad down the pub to his friends... Was their buddy. their drinking freind. And boy oh boy he's just a swell guy. not a bad word to say against him. Man. he's just the best damn kinda guy. he's great he's mah'pal.... ( ending in more of a drunken slur.)
Just because this friends marriage is breaking up doesn't mean those evil hell bound lesbians are forcing him and his wife to split. theres obveriously a reason WHY. it his wife is unhappy and spoken to them and seen the light then... Good for her. because again.. you don't live with him.
But more so... you're being very defensive... also.. as if you're scared of something. like maybe the evil lesbians will destory your marriage and dance on your grave while drinking the blood of a virgin....
Tell me... are you and your wife.. Happy? content?
the more demanding and pig headed you become the worse you're going to make it. stopping your wife from seeing friends is only going to do more damage than good.
If you're Mr Perfect in the perfect marriage then why are you worried.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 how is 'the lesbian' breaking up marriages? does you wife have feelings for her or is she attracted to her? you need to talk to your wife and let her know exactly why you feel she is a threat - you have valid reason after all. your wife should understand and realise that this woman may not be a healthy person to be around. talk to her, and hear her side - you both need to listen to eachother. you may be able to come to a compromise about his and limit her contact. however, this woman sounds dangerous and almost predatory. i would really try and get your wife to stay away from her. i hope this helps, email me if you want
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