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writes:I was wondering this because recently my girlfriend said she wanted to wait until marriage (which is fine by me I guess) I just didn't know if that included all types of sex or sexual contact. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): In high school I was dating a boy and told him I wanted to wait for marriage. We were in love for 4 years and never had intercourse. Pretty much everything else was game(in time). It made me appreciate everything about him and not just the physical relationship and I felt very happy knowing he loved me for me and not the sex part.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 Sex is the highest form of love. It is the culmination of your love and when you have sex, the two of you become one in body, soul and spirit.
By abstaining from sex before marriage, it means no sexual intercourse.But kissing or light petting is OK.
Ask her about her definitions or her boundaries.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 You have to talk to her about that and find out what she wants and is comfortable with and what you are as well x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Just ask her for clarification on whether she means everything or just full on sex.
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reader, chocolateTeddy +, writes (3 March 2008):
 truthfully i believe sex is important but not in the way you may think.. some people express themselves the most during intercoarse which is great and artistic in a way and then there are those people who express themselves more in words or in hints placed/said carefully which is equally as beautiful. But you should like you want to show her sooner than marriage. If you love her or working up to love curb your sexual feelings and sooner or later she might want to give it to you after all this could be just one huge test
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 if you both love and care for eachother - then things should go beyond sex, and should love eachother just as much. sex is an important element of a relationship - but only when both persons are ready and willing, and it is just another way of sharing your love. talk to her and see exactly where her beliefs on this start i.e is it just intercourse she wants to wait for? however, if you are not completely comfortable with her choice, then you should tell her how you feel. and just remember, that if and when you both get to it - it will be so much more special, intimate and enjoyable. meanwhile - if she is ok with other stuff (touching and oral etc) - then take this time to learn about eachother and explore eachother's bodies. hope this helps, email me if you need any help good luck
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 March 2008):
 If you love her, and you both plan to marry, then I would think she is worth the wait. Sex in a long-term relationship or marriage is certainly important - even vital. If you have no certainty, or at least intention, of marrying this gal, and you would prefer a sexual relationship, then you two are apparently a mismatch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): You should probably ask her which activities she intends to abstain from (oral, vagina, anal, manual masturbation, etc), and explain to her that you're curious and would like to make her as comfortable and supported as possible. After all, you love her, and it's best to avoid mistakes in this situation. Good luck!
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reader, superbunny +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Well, you'll have to discuss with your girlfriend if that means sex or oral sex or whatever.. Sex isn't really that important in a relationship.. It's just another way of showing someone how you feel about them. It just depends whether both parties share the same opinion of sex. Best wishes. :] x
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