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anonymous
writes:rite this is complicated ..... very complicated. where do i start - well ive lived next door to this lad 4 about 12 yrs and he was best mates with my brother, when my brother went to university me n him became very close n he was my bestest friend in the world. we were so close i wud of trusted him with my life! everyone said he really liked me as more of a mate - but we both talked about it n decided nothing wud ever happen coz he was like my brother.recently i got a boyfriend and he was fine with it n we still were soooo close. but after a very drunken stupid mistake i kissed one of his mates - we both decided to froget about it and never say anything to my b/f. i felt so bad i told my best friend but said not to say out. then one nite i get a text off my b/f saying 4 me never to talk to him again - he had found out - i was so upset but it was my own fault! but what hurt me the most is that he found out off my best mate! so i lost my best mate n b/f in one nite i was sooooo devastated!my brother found out and got involved and i was scared he was gna hurt him even tho he had hurt me in a totally differnet way.well its been like a month since that happend and im now back wit my b/f and he keeps asking me 2 become friends with my ex best mate.i text him once n he said he was past caring and stuff but he keeps asking about me to see if im ok. i miss him soooo much coz he was like the closest person in my life but he betrayed me! and my family got involved so it isnt tht easy. i def wont be the 1 to say sorry but i know he is very stubborn n wont even tho it was his fault. n its very tense when i see him coz he lives next door to me!! i just wantd to know wat people think about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Why don't you try to forgive him. It isn't easy and you have to be the stronger person - but you will feel better after doing so.
If you accept that he did wrong, but that he's learnt his lesson perhaps you can give him another chance?
Try - but only when you feel ready. x x x
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 well first of all if you miss him and feel that you are ready to let him back into your life, then maybe you should try and get together and talk to him, see why he did it, see how he feels about you etc. many ppl have been betrayed in one way or another by a friend, including myself, but we get past it and build up a friendship again. tell him that while you were hurt by wat he did, you miss him and would like to start seeing him again. is he friends with your boyf?? if he is it was a sticky situation to put him in. like i said talk to him and see wat he has to say. i hope things work out for you
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