I love her & don't want to hurt her, but I am unhappy, how do I get out of this?
Q. Ive been dating my GF for over a year and past couple months she haven't gave me any affection and we ve been repeating same things everyday,school, talk at break go home and text. and ive been VERY irritated and tired of her these days. couple of ...
A. 9 July 2011: There's really no way you can get out of this without some amount of hurt I'm afraid. All you can do is be honest and tell her what you have told us. She needs to hear how you feel. This may be enough to make her take a good look at herself and ... (read in full...)
BF has drinking problem. How can I talk to him about it?
Q. My "boyfriend" has a drinking problem is the bottom line. The thing is, he only realizes he has a drinking problem and how much it effects our relationship when he's completely wasted. When he's sober and you try to bring it up to him he gets ...
A. 9 July 2011: I have not dealt with an alcoholic personally but if I were in your shoes I would issue an ultimation. Drink or me baby, and if he choses drink, take a deep breath summon your courage and walk out. It may be enough to shock him into doing ... (read in full...)
Will my next sexual encounter be painful??
Q. ok i had sex too year ago i have only been with one "ex" partner but i have a new partner now whice i love so much and im planning of haveing sex very soon but i am a bit scared will it be sore or will i bleed again will my vigina be like a virgin ...
A. 9 July 2011: You shouldn't bleed again. Make sure you have lots of KY Jelly or something like that (NOT vaseline) on hand because if you are really wet it wont hurt as much if at all.... (read in full...)
My step-sister and my boyfriend make out behind my back, should I leave him?
Q. last night i was have a convo with my boyfriend and i was asking him if he was eve going to cheat on me please tell me so i can stop wawating our times? i know i dont have the best past but nor does anyone else he told me i wish i could just get...
A. 9 July 2011: Wholey Moley there is a lot going on here. Personally I could never again trust my sister or boyfriend after that happening behind my back. I think his excuses are crap no one gets so drunk or high that they don't know when they are doing ... (read in full...)
Any possible ways that will help me get over my ex faster?
Q. Hello, It has been about 4-5 months since my ex and I were seperated. We broke up 2 months after being apart and I still have feelings for him, even with the great boyfriend I have now. I'm well aware I'll never see my ex again, so I would lik...
A. 9 July 2011: Fill your life up with things that make you happy. If you like gardening, do heaps of it, if you like painting, paint. Also make lots of time for meeting girlfriends for coffee and nights out. When you are busy you will have no time to think ... (read in full...)
My married ex told me that he is still in love with me..
Q. My ex boyfriend and I have been apart for about 2 months. It was a 3 year relationship. There were a lot of events that happened shortly after that I learned to be okay with. He is now married to a girl who he's been friends with longer than I've ...
A. 9 July 2011: He wants his cake and he wants to eat it too. He's obviously bored with married life and wanting a little spice. Tell him to take a running leap. He's had his chance with you and he blew it. Don't let him back in to ruin your life for his fun.... (read in full...)
Opinions on beards please!!
Q. Hiyaaaaa, Well this isn't really a problem more off a personal opinion and preference! I don't do art as a subject anymore but I recently bumped into my art teacher and saw him with a beard!!!!! So guys why would you guys grow a beard or ...
A. 9 July 2011: My husband has been clean shaven in the past and has had a beard. He currently has a goatee which I love. It suits him.... (read in full...)
Is it stupid to have feelings for someone I've only met twice?
Q. My best friend from college's home town is three hours from mine. When I went to visit him last summer, I stayed the weekend and met all of his friends. To make the story short, one of his friends contacted me about them comming to visit me. Ever ...
A. 9 July 2011: No it's not stupid. Love at first sight is a very real thing. Long distance relationships can work but they do take a lot of work to work.... (read in full...)
Is there a subtle way to suggest trying bondage?
Q. This is going to sound strange, but I want to experiment with bondage. I love being controlled in the bedroom and I want to ask my boyfriend about it. What is the most subtle way I can suggest this to him? Is there a subtle way to do this?...
A. 9 July 2011: Give him a piece of ribbon and ask him to tie you up.... (read in full...)
I lost intensity for things after my girlfriend dumping me!
Q. My girlfriend dumped me 15 months back saying my personality and financial position poor. we remained together for like one and half year. When I look into mirror and check my financial position then I start forgiving her that she was right dumping ...
A. 9 July 2011: A person who would dump you for your financial position is a very shallow person and well worth being rid of. That just shows that she wasn't in it for love! As for the personality bit her's sounds pretty hideous so I can't imagine her being a ... (read in full...)
Will my parents let me take the gymnastic lessons?
Q. Hi, sorry if this question seems stupid or something but I'm really nervous. So I'm an incoming freshman, and me and my two friends want to try out for cheerleading next year. I already told my mom my plans for becoming a cheerleader, and...
A. 9 July 2011: When you fear something the fantasy of the fear is always always worse than the reality. Ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? To my way of thinking the worst would be that your parents say no. But there's more than one to skin a cat, ... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to move out, I have 2 month old baby and can't get a job!
Q. okay i recently had a baby she is going to be two months in 2 months i dont have my g.e.d im so upset the father wants me to move out and i want to take the baby with me and i dont know what i should do i love him so much but he tells me he wants me ...
A. 9 July 2011: Are you able to go and live with your parents? You need some support and your Mum and Dad will be able to give you that. This guy is jerking you around and staying with him will destroy your confidence and ultimately be bad for your child. get ... (read in full...)
My nine year old son told me he has sexual feelings about me, and both men and women
Q. I have a son who is almost 10 years old and he resently told me that he's had sexual thoughts about me as well as men and women. What or how should I handle this.....I am concerned that he's thinking about men and myself in that way, but I don't ...
A. 9 July 2011: Honestly I would not make too big a deal with this. Chances are that what he is thinking of as sexual feelings may just be strong attachment to a particular person. At 9 he's not likely to have had enough experience to actually know what sexual ... (read in full...)
Why do women get involved with married men (or men who are in committed relationships) and stay with them for years together, waiting for "their man" to leave his wife/mate?
Q. Why do women (of all ages)get involved with married men (or men who are in committed relationships) and in some instances stay with them for many, many, years, waiting and hoping for "their man" to leave his wife/mate? Despite you academic success, ...
A. 8 July 2011: This is hard to comment on when you are not that kind of person but from my perspective looking in I think people like that unconsciously like being hurt. It's like they have the mindset of not deserving a committed relationship so they continually ... (read in full...)
My friend is always unhappy. How do I tell her to move on?
Q. I need help. My friend has a guy friend that she likes and he was her first kiss. He used to call her beautiful, and once he got a girlfriend that whole close bestfriend relationship changed. She tells me that she doesn't find herself beautiful. And ...
A. 8 July 2011: She needs to get away from this person completely. aremove her from his orbit and take her out for a bit of fun. Gradually she will regain her confidence.... (read in full...)
My dad is taking my marriage advice?
Q. I need advice on my relationship with my dad. My parents marriage has had a lot of turmoil for several years, and recently, it's gotten even worse. On the one hand, because my dad and I are very similar, we communicate well and I tell him the mos...
A. 8 July 2011: Your Dad is being really unfair confiding stuff to you he should be saying to your mother. Shame on him. I would tell him straight out that you are his child not his relationship and life advisor and that he needs to find someone else to talk to ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone like to talk about themselves but never want to listen to me?
Q. Why is it that people want me to listen to their life stories constantly (females especially), but when it comes to me, everyone just thinks of it as annoying. Is there a limit on how much you should talk to yourself? I know that my aspiration to ...
A. 8 July 2011: It's hard to say why people are finding your stories annoying when you haven't heard them. However I personally find people who go on and on about themselves so boring. I love to talk too but have learned to button my lip and only talk when what I ... (read in full...)
Could it be that my personality repels boys?
Q. I know will sound like every teenage girls dilemma but I have tried all te usually advice about wait for the right guy and it still doesn't help me. When I was younger I had a tendency to be a bit standoffish with boys but im not like that now. But ...
A. 26 March 2011: I'm so sorry I hated this advice when I was you're age but you are still so young so don't panic about not having a boyfriend yet. Concentrate on having a lot of fun with lots of different people. Go to the movies, parties, social's etc and enjo... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 16 March 2011: That's good. Time heals all wounds eventually.... (read in full...)
I am having an affair with my friend's wife! Is it okay to keep on with this relationship?
Q. I am having a relationship with my friend's wife. She is a wonderful lady but her husband is a real jerk. My relationship started 10 years ago when her husband left overseas for work. Then we just talked over the phone and had lunch. Subsequently ...
A. 9 March 2011: Ooooo this is DANGEROUS teritory. I would end this straight away and tell her to come back when she has left her husband. This will end badly if you keep going the way you are.... (read in full...)
I'm crazy for him and I need him
Q. Hi everybody, I am a 17 year old Bisexual male. I have these two friends, "Stephen" who is my age, and his younger brother "Tyler" who is a few years younger than us. They are both the quiet type and i'm really the only guy they hang out with. ...
A. 9 March 2011: I would say from his actions that he is fairly into you as well. Take the plunge and ask him out for a date then you will know one way or the other.
All the best.... (read in full...)
How do you know if a boy is jealous?
Q. How do you kow when a boy gets jealous? I have a boyfriend and I was wondering if hugging and talking to other boys makes him jealous? (I hug them because I've known them since preschool and I squeeze them really hard to hurt them. Like playful ...
A. 9 March 2011: Some boys would be jealous by this sort of thing and some of the wouldn't. It all depends on the individual boy. As long as you are being true to him and treating him as special then he has no reason to get jealous.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with this guy because he is SO busy?
Q. This guy (he's 26) and I (I'm 23) have been talking for about 2 years now. Him and his friends call me his "girl", but we've never had "that talk" to say we're exclusive. We've just had this implied strong connection since we met a couple years ago. ...
A. 9 March 2011: Give the guy a break. He told you he wants to be with you but is too busy. He has his head screwed on right and is trying hard to line up all his dots. Hang in there and schedule some dates with him and see where it goes.... (read in full...)
Do all teenage boys masturbate?
Q. This is kind of a weird question, but do all teenage boys masturbate? Like 13 year olds? I'm 13 and I do and I'm afraid I'm the only one in my class who does. So do all 13 year old boys masturbate?...
A. 9 March 2011: Yes they all do and a lot of girls as well.... (read in full...)
How do I get my friend back? We were friends, then dated for 2 weeks, and then she dumped me! I desperately need some good suggestions!
Q. I need help. I have posted a few times on this issue, and I am still mentally and physically destroying myself over it. I'll summarize: We were good friends for a year and a half Ended up dating for 2 weeks (sex included) Had no issues...
A. 9 March 2011: Personally I don't know why you would want to be friends with her from the way she has treated you but my suggestion would be to write her a letter on paper telling her you are sorry for your actions and you just want to be friends with her.
B... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend has a new girlfriend so why does he follow me?
Q. My ex boyfriend and i broke up about a year ago. He got with a new girlfriend right away and is on and off with her. About 6 months ago he cheated on her with me. But he got back together with her and acted like a total douchbag begging and pleading ...
A. 9 March 2011: He's a dog. Don't even give him the time of day he's not worth it.... (read in full...)
Is he or has he been cheating? How do I not run back to him? Please help
Q. Has he cheated AGAIN? how do I stay away from him? My boyfriend have been together almost 3 years and we have one child together. We have both cheated on each other. Unlike him i came forward and admitted it. I hassles him for a whole year only to ...
A. 9 March 2011: It's time to face facts this relationship is not going to go anywhere that is good for you and your child. Cut all ties with this guy have someone else drop your child off for visitation so you don't have to see him at all. It's time to find ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date him?
Q. My sister's husbands nephew and I had a serious relationship a few months ago. (including sex) later I got to thinking about how wrong it was but everyone says it's ok. the only connection between me and him is that my sister is pregnant by his ...
A. 9 March 2011: Your kids would be too distant for it to be any kind of problem. Enjoy this relationship and stop worrying there is no problem.... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should end it now to avoid being upset in the future...
Q. I am in yr11 at school and I am going out with this guy (John) who is in yr12 (lower 6th form) and we have been going out for just over 2 months now. About 2 weeks ago, John took me to one side and told me that he couldnt be with me anymore because ...
A. 2 February 2011: Relationships are hard work and doubly hard at your age because you are all still finding out who you are and where you stand in the world. My advice is to try and take things one day at a time and enjoy things in the moment they are happening. ... (read in full...)
I feel like e-mailing my ex after months of no contact...
Q. How do you convince yourself to just leave your ex in the past? It's been months since we last spoke and we don't have anything to do with each other anymore. I wouldn't say I'm over him, but I'm doing fine without him. Now I suddenly feel like ...
A. 2 February 2011: No don't e-mail him. He belongs in your past now and must stay there. Every time you think of him replace the thought with something else. e.g. think of him, go jogging, or brush teeth or paint your nails. Eventually you will stop thinking of him ... (read in full...)
Want him back... my ex!
Q. Hi, My partner of 9 months recently broke up with me. I lived out of home and he stayed every night from the day we started seeing each other then he moved in we decided to move somewhere else together so we did then we got engaged. all of ...
A. 2 February 2011: Move on if he's flip flopping like this now it wont change. You deserve better so go out and find him.... (read in full...)
I'm gay but sooooo scared of losing him!
Q. I am a gay guy and i have a best friend who i have known for around a year now. I have been in love with him since the moment i met him but there are a few problems. 1. I'm not "out". 2. He is 100% straight (as far as i know. He has a daughter...
A. 2 February 2011: PS fear is always worse than reality. The fear of losing him will not be as bad as the reality if it happens.... (read in full...)
I'm gay but sooooo scared of losing him!
Q. I am a gay guy and i have a best friend who i have known for around a year now. I have been in love with him since the moment i met him but there are a few problems. 1. I'm not "out". 2. He is 100% straight (as far as i know. He has a daughter...
A. 2 February 2011: No one is worth losing your identity for. If he can't accept you for who you are then he is not a true friend and shouldn't be in your life. Your love for him can go nowhere since he is straight so you need to move on and find someone who can love ... (read in full...)
MY man called her baby!!!!
Q. I recently moved in with my bf were goin to have a baby girl in 2 months. I thought that we had a perfect relationShip and that he was faithful to me so I didn't think twice about moving in specially bcuz now were goin to have a daughter but I came ...
A. 2 February 2011: Talk to your Mom. She will give you a shoulder to cry on and will most likely have some good advice for you.... (read in full...)
How to I face a girl that I love and hate?
Q. I don't know how to face her now. Last week, I told her the truth of her current boyfriend and she was really upset and angry because she thinks I am trying to make an excuse for her to dump him. But my intention was not and I was just trying to l...
A. 31 January 2011: The way I see it she is naturally going to be angry because you have destroyed her litle bubble of percieved happiness. We are not supposed to shoot the messenger but unfortunately sometimes the messenger is a more convenient target. Her promise ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of this nervous feeling for my first time?
Q. My boyfriend and I were discussing what would we do, for our first time having sex. We're both virgins so I'm a little nervous... How can I get rid of this nervous feeling?...
A. 28 January 2011: Unfortunately nervousness is just part of the territory with the first time. The best thing to do is to talk about it with him. Admit that you are nervous. I bet he is too. Take it slowly and you will be fine.... (read in full...)
Should I leave this abusive relationship now?
Q. I really hope you can help. I am in an abusive relationship. I do love the guy but he seems to be be intent on saying that his physical violence towards me is justified - i.e. apparently I 'press his anger buttons' when I get annoyed with things. ...
A. 28 January 2011: Oh my god yes you need to leave. Run run run as fast as you can!! This relationship will go nowhere that is good. You deserve better than this!... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid or is my wife cheating on me?
Q. Hello, I am trying to figure out if I am paranoid or if my wife might be cheating on me. We have been married 12 years and have two young children. We recently relocated for her job and I quit mine to stay home with the children. She has lost a...
A. 30 November 2010: Annalisa's suggestion of dinner is a good one! It does all sound suspicious and I totally understand you feeling this way. The key to finding out exactly what is going on is by remaining calm and not becoming paranoid. Easy for me to say I know ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend has left me for another guy but I still love her, is there any chance of winning her back?
Q. Hi there all. This is my first major break up, my girlfriend of 3 years recently went to university, i was seeing her every weekend, in till during the week she broke up with me and got with another guy. The way she did it was so awful, i d...
A. 30 November 2010: You are not a loser dude, she is! I feel your pain and understand why you are pinning after her but under no circumstances should you get back together with her after what she has done. Go with the grief, scream, cry, punch pillows and get it all ... (read in full...)
I think I fancy my step brother!
Q. Well, its a long story; He isnt my full brother; he is my step brother; Well, my mum and his dad started dating. Now they have fallen out but they still love each other.. Me and my step brother have a really good bond... But one night we st...
A. 29 November 2010: If your Mum and his Dad are not married then there is no reason you too can't have a relationship since no legalities bind you.... (read in full...)
What can I get her for Christmas that doesn't cost a dime?
Q. Ok I have a problem i have been in love with this girl for three years. I have followed her around i guess you can say i worship her. I love her more than life itself. She has been wonderful to me. She is one of the most beautiful people in the ...
A. 28 November 2010: What about making a heart shaped poem telling her what she means to you. Or a homemade heartshaped cake or homemade heartshaped chocolates.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 24 August 2010: Honestly I wouldn't confront him cause if you really stop and think about it this is a waste of time it's not going to sink in with him. Write him a letter that you DONT send and tell him everything you want to say. Get it all off your chest and ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 14 July 2010: You're welcome go forth and be happy. May the force be with you :-)... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 31 May 2010: See if I was you're mother I'd be mighty worried about you right now because if your experiencing all that you can not be acting normally. Most mothers will fight tooth and nail to help their kids when there is something wrong with them so I still ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 30 May 2010: I'm starting to wonder if you actually like wallowing in misery since you don't seem keen to follow any of the suggestions put to you by any posters. Your replies are starting to sound pretty whinny and whingey. Come on dude pull your head in and ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: Exactly my point go to the doctor and ask them to refer you to a therapist. Tell your parents you are depressed and you don't really know why. (there are hundreds of people in this situation) You need to be able to talk to someone who is not ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: So lie to your parents. Make up something that is wrong with you that they wont want to verfiy like a discharge from your penis or a urinary infection. Then tell the doctor you have had to lie to your parents and he will have to help you. You ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 25 May 2010: Doctors can't discuss their sessions with anyone else even your parents so they need not find out why you are visiting the doctor.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 6 May 2010: Again I repeat keep away from him. He's confused and it's making him unsure how to react. May I suggest you make friends with some girls. Unlike males (not meaning to male bash here) we like to talk. We like to analyse situations from every ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Just back off from him completely and let him come back to you in his own time. Like it or not he feels uncomfortable now and he needs to deal with that in his own time and in his own way. You just need to carry on as per usual and wait ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Sorry mate but your thinking is a little off here. You have no right to be angry at him. He said straight out at the beginning that he was not attracted to you and was straight. You need to put yourself in his shoes and realise that whether you ... (read in full...)
| *oo's Mum's friends
These are mutual friends, so *oo's Mum has
added them and they have added *oo's Mum!
|
