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*3puremage1
writes:I don't know how to face her now.Last week, I told her the truth of her current boyfriend and she was really upset and angry because she thinks I am trying to make an excuse for her to dump him. But my intention was not and I was just trying to let her know the other side of her boyfriend and the fact he is just using her as a temporary plan but she doesn't believe even though I got the evidence.So, she ignored me for a week. I have written a letter to apologize for upsetting her and she did not reply. I understand her feelings but I am also angry that she treats me like this. The only reason I told her is because I love her (she knows it) and she had promised she would not be angry about it since she asked to know it. But she had broken her promise. Today, she sent me a message and ask me how I am. I don't know how to face to her because I love and hate her at the same time.Please offer me some advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, morningstar9691  +, writes (31 January 2011):
I know I'm younger than you, but I've been through some similar things, only difference is *he* never tried talking to me. Just talk to her like you normally would. If she brings it up then you talk to her about it, say that she wanted to know, and there is no reason for her to get angry about it. If she doesn't bring it up, then just let it drop. She might be mad because she has been wondering if maybe he *was* using her, but she doesn't want to admit it to herself.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 The way I see it she is naturally going to be angry because you have destroyed her litle bubble of percieved happiness. We are not supposed to shoot the messenger but unfortunately sometimes the messenger is a more convenient target. Her promise meant nothing because she couldn't have known how bad she would feel about your revelation until she heard it.
If she has sent you a message then she has obviously had time to cool down and be rational about the situation so you need to get your act together and decide whether it's love or hate that comes out on top.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Why do you hate her? Yes, she wanted to know the truth but at the same time it must have been hard to hear he was using her.
She was obviously very hurt and angry, which is natural. You shouldn't hate her for that.
She's contacted you and asked how you are, so reply to her. You love her so don't lose her over this boyfriend of hers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Ok, here's what i reccomend BE NICE TO HER and confront the boyfriend and give him a good lecture if you know what I mean.
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