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writes:How do you convince yourself to just leave your ex in the past? It's been months since we last spoke and we don't have anything to do with each other anymore. I wouldn't say I'm over him, but I'm doing fine without him. Now I suddenly feel like e-mailing him :| I just want to know how he's doing [in general, not in relation to me, I know he's over me]. I still care about him and want to know he's okay. But if I message him, I know he won't reply, so I don't know why I'm thinking of it in the first place!I know this seems a bit pointless but can someone convince me that e-mailing him would be a stupid thing to do? I think I just behave irrationally when it comes to him.
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reader, young_and_confused  +, writes (4 February 2011):
I agree with these posters. Emailing your ex really serves no purpose. I know it is incredibly tempting because there are still embers of feeling burning in you, and this normal. But if you contact your ex one these things will likely happen:
1) You will rekindle feelings and it will be confusing and frustrating
2) You will find out he is seeing someone else which will make you jealous
3) You will begin thinking about him and doubt your decision in the past, when it was probably made with good judgment.
There really is NO good reason to do so. Just be strong, and focus on the future instead of the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): It's just a passing fancy. Deep down inside you don't want him back. Don't lead him on. Email a friend.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1  +, writes (2 February 2011):
Just wait for him to email you. Judging by your post I can see you have tried to contact him in the past, sometimes with no response. The ball is in his court.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 No don't e-mail him. He belongs in your past now and must stay there. Every time you think of him replace the thought with something else. e.g. think of him, go jogging, or brush teeth or paint your nails. Eventually you will stop thinking of him at all.
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