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writes:This is going to sound strange, but I want to experiment with bondage. I love being controlled in the bedroom and I want to ask my boyfriend about it. What is the most subtle way I can suggest this to him? Is there a subtle way to do this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all of you for great answers.I guess I'm just worried he'll think I'm strange or something.But I'm going to try and muster up the courage to ask him.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (9 July 2011):
i would text or ring him tell him your really horny tell him to get round yours you want him wear sexy lingerie and tie yourself up with handcuffs for when he walks in no man will ever say no it works everytime trust me
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 Give him a piece of ribbon and ask him to tie you up.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (9 July 2011):
 They are both right.
You should just tell him.
I have been heavily involved in S&M for five years going on six.
Always have a safeword and use it when you need to use it.
Good luck! Enjoy yourself and don't be afraid to explore what you fantasize about!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 July 2011):
 Ahh...there's no subtle way of asking. Just tell him that it's a fantasy of yours, and that would he be interested in trying it. If he's not into it, respect his wishes, but who knows! Guys like adventurous girls, so he might give it a spin!
Just remember, before you start, have a "safe word", meaning if you're doing bondage or S&M, there's one word that either of you can say that both of you agree to stop *everything* when said, meaning people get untied as well. Bondage involves lots of trust.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 I think it would be easiest to start of slow by asking him to spank you or pin you down while he does things to you. Then you can work your way up to the full thing when he already sees the direction that you are going with this. If you try to jump right into things someone may get hurt or he just won't know what to do.
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reader, adamskidude +, writes (9 July 2011):
 You don't need to be subtle. Just throw him a pair of handcuffs on the way to the bedroom. It's nothing to be ashamed of :)
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