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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hi :) If anyone could help that would be lovely. Basically I have a problem that I've managed to create a good-girl image of myself and i want to get rid of it. I'm quite shy and not very outgoing around people I don't know very well, but im completely different around my friends. But people judge me before they know me and just assume im a quiet, boring person. Guys particularly, seem to think im too 'good', so they aren't interested in me. Aside from sleeping with everyone to prove them wrong, what can i do to make people see the real me? Thank you to anyone who comments :) x
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (18 May 2011):
 Girl, when I was your age i was also seen as a goody goody. I was always getting exceptional marks in school, i never plucked my eyebrows (and Lord,they were thick!) and my oufits weren't the greatest. Also,I was a prude. (Someone nicknamed me "sexy nun")...
Around 10th grade, I started experimenting with my hair color,I started dressing better and improved my external appereance. I was still Miss Goody Goody though.
Now, four years of university later, I have blossomed into a sexy,smart young woman. How?
First of all,it was hip hop. I said "I can have that swagger too,what stops me?"
I surrounded myself with various people.Foreigners,muslims and christians,even children!
I managed to use all the knowledge i've gained in the previous "goody goody" years. People would now look at a sexy woman who is able to talk about a plethora of subjects.
I read self-help books.
Before, I pushed boys away with my goody attitude, now I know how to act around them.
I watched movies.
I prayed.
It's been a journey,and I must say I loved the process! It wasn't always easy. I had my ups and downs. I can't say I reached perfection now,nor I want to! But I do strive to get better everyday. Not for others. For me :)
The most attractive thing ever is to be POSITIVE and have a smile on your face. Don't hide your true personality. Do not do the things your friends do just to fit in.
I remember sitting with one of my classmates and talking one day, when I was in 9th grade.
She stated "Damn, I don't want to be a virgin next year!!"
I said "what's so bad about it? You should WANT to remain a virgin!"
Everyone used to know this girl in school. Nobody knows where she is now.
READ :
HOW TO WALK IN HIGH HEELS
WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES
WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES
Good luck. You're a winner!
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reader, Blod +, writes (17 May 2011):
 Are you on Facebook? Everyone thought I was a right goody-two-shoes before I joined Facebook! Then suddenly rumours were going around that I'd gone wild and really changed. I haven't changed at all; people just didn't realize how outgoing I was until they could nose about me online! I don't think you should see your image as a bad thing though. Yeah, it has its downsides but I think it adds a bit of mystery to you. People probably know that you're more bubbly around your friends, so anyone who wants to get to know you should make that effort so that they can find out what you're really like.
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