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writes: my boyfriend and i have been going out for more than a year. he's my first boyfriend and i really relaly love him. we've been having sex for half a year and he's the one who always initiates it. i do go down on him when i feel he wants it, but i never recieve any. and when i ask him why, all he said is 'dont know'. i dont understand why and i think its kind of selfish of him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cherriepie  +, writes (19 January 2008):
 baby, if your man isnt doing it for you, you shouldn't be doing it back! what an ass! if a guy had a problem going down on me I would have a problem even dating him. you cant let this keep going girl.
you have to force the issue! make him do it. if his problem is the taste use a little whip cream and have him lick it off..then keep his sweet head in there. hell get use to it soon enough. if he doesnt just show him the door!
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever-  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 You need to talk to him about it!
It's not fair that you should give him pleasure but he won't give you any [apart from sex but that's you both together]
If you talk about it with him maybe you could come to some sort of agreement about what happens with you both and things could work out better for you as well as him.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (18 January 2008):
 why are you telling us this? you should be telling him this! Yes he's being selfish, but you aren't helping matters by pleasing him and seeming like you expect nothing in return. Next time, make him go down on you first before you return the favour.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (18 January 2008):
 ahh.. gotta love guys.
however girls can be very much the same. i like giving. i did it.. about 8-9 times for this one girl..
AND THEN.. she told me " Oh i don't do that"
simple answer. do what i did.
don't ever do it again for them :D
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reader, Arkiteck +, writes (18 January 2008):
My question to you is, why are you doing it to him if he won't do it to you? I would stop doing that immediately if he can't give you a better answer then I don't know. There has to be a reason. I was in that situation before where a girl would do it to me and i wouldn't do it to her but that's because she had a very "unpleasant odor" down there to say the least. I was upfront with her about it though and even then still did it once in a very long while. Maybe that's the case here. Either way, find out what's going on. If your needs aren't being met, it's unfair of him to expect you meet his.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 It is very selfish on him and you should have a conversation asking for your rights! lol
Certainly if there was something in a couple that one of them did not want to try for a reason, the other person needs to deal with that. However, you should sit down and talk (not when you are having sex or fooling around), and try to negotiate. Maybe you can buy lubs with flavor or dental dams, maybe he can eat something you place there, maybe you could watch a movie where it is performed so you can talk about what exactly he doesn't like. Try to get your seductive skills bonded with your manipulation skills and you should be alright!
Good luck!
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reader, core_confusion +, writes (18 January 2008):
 For most men, its an acquired skill. Perhaps consider the idea that he may need a little guidance and encouragement. A little praise for any effort will also act as encouragment.
I guess it's possible that he genuinely doesnt like it, but thats pretty rare. It could well be more likely that its nerves through lack of experience.
Try setting the scene, nice and romantic - candles, inscence and soft lighting. Make a night of it and see where the mood takes you (and him for that matter). There are a couple of things that you can do to help. At risk of being a little up front, make sure you have a good wash before hand and that its an appealing prospect, regaurdless of how often you have a bath or shower, a wash before hand can will ensure that he doesnt feel put off. Make sure that everything is trim and tidy, rouge hairs can be a real passion killer.
Thats the formal stuff out of the way so get yourselves in the mood, just go with the flow and enjoy.
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