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Been through enough to give people help on some of their problems. I love helping people.
I do post a lot of my problems myself as i hate keeping things bottled up, this is my way of release and this brings me closer to other peoples' problems.
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I'm 11 and my period has been very heavy, should I be worried?
Q. I'm 11 and I got my period October 10. It skipped in the beginning of November and my mum said it's normal. Then, I got it right on Thanksgiving! For December, I got right on Christmas! Weird! I think their's something wrong though, because last ...
A. 26 December 2007: You are perfectly fine, you can relax! All my friends, including me have had varied amounts of blood each month. I have found in the night i bleed much heavier than in the day. Each individual has a different menstrual cycle. Some people get cramps ... (read in full...)
Vaginal piercings!
Q. i'm 14 and this is weird but i was having a conversation with a close guy friend of mine about piercings and i have had my belly button, nose, tongue and nipple pierced but what i want to get pierced is my clit he says if i did that it would be ...
A. 26 December 2007: Personally i don't like lots of piercings. I have my ears and belly button pierced, that was enough!
These piercings get infected and arn't meant to be put in such sensitive areas! I don't think you should get one for a number of reasons.... (read in full...)
Happy Xmas from DearCupid
Q. Happy Xmas everyone :-) The aunts who share their wisdom, the people who share their questions and the team of moderators who keep everything flowing onto the site! Plus the 350,000 people who visit each month Have a great Xmas! Feel free t...
A. 26 December 2007: To all on Dearcupid...
MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR
I am very thankful for being apart of this site, helping people throughout their hardest times. It is an amazing website
x x x x
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Why have I not got pregant??
Q. I'm 16 years old, and I have been having sex with my best friend who is 18. Sometimes we use protection (condoms) but most of the time we don't. He doesn't always pull out on time before he ejaculates. I'd like to know WHY i havn't gotten pregnant!? ...
A. 25 December 2007: Why do you want to become pregnant at 16? It's too young! Go to a doctor to get get checked and find out what could be wrong with you, it could be that you are just extremely lucky. My suggestion is to use protection, you are also stopping std's fr... (read in full...)
Is "giving head" and a "blow job" the same thing?
Q. I know this is stupid, but is there a difference between giving head and a blow job? And how can I do it so it feels really good for my guy?...
A. 10 December 2007: They are exactly the same thing. 'Giving head' is more of a slang and younger use of the word.
'Blow job' is used more frequently by adults rather than teens.
i hope i helped. ... (read in full...)
How often should I change my pad?
Q. I just got my first period 3 days ago i was wondering how often should i change my pad?...
A. 8 December 2007: Around 4 hours if light to medium flow. Depends on the person really, if you have a heavy flow sometimes 1-2 hrs.
Ask your mum if you comfortable enough, she will be a perfect person to ask!
good luck . x... (read in full...)
Is cumming and having an orgasm the same thing?
Q. For a boy is cumming and orgasming the same thing?...
A. 29 November 2007: Different words- same meaning.
x... (read in full...)
Is this discharge an STD?
Q. Gel-like clearish discharge from vagina, more so when I'm aroused. What is this? I'm a virgin, so I don't think it could be STD, but I'm still worried. Is there any other way to get STD?? I've only been with one guy, and he was a virgin too, but ...
A. 21 November 2007: hey hey. No need to panic!! This is normal, hen a woman is aroused it is normal to have a clearish discharge. This is like a womans' 'cum' so to speak. If it is brown or smells then you may have an infection, but NOT an STD, do not WORRY. I ho... (read in full...)
What is "going down"?
Q. what does going down on someone mean ?...
A. 10 November 2007: Slang for oral sex honey. X... (read in full...)
Did he break my virginity with dry humping?
Q. I am a 13 yr old old virgin and have pledged to remain so until marriage. I recently had an intimate moment with my boyfriend. I sat on his lap while he kissed my neck but he had an erection and I felt his penis almost at the entrance of my vagina ...
A. 5 November 2007: The writer never said you could not get pregnant at 13. They said you could not get pregnant through DRY humping. I think you should maybe read the answers properly and just give your own advice.
Honey i am glad we all helped you! I hope you well... (read in full...)
Does losing your virginity make you bleed??
Q. I am 17 and i am close to losing my virginity. I just have one question though. The first time someone has sex (females) do they bleed? and does it hurt?...
A. 3 November 2007: Yes you do bleed and yes it does hurt, depending on the female the amount of pain is different. A few people i know said they found it hard to walk the next day.
It's messy and uncomfortable first time. ... (read in full...)
I have just started my period and don't know how to tell mom...
Q. ok i am 14 and have just started my period how can i tell my mom without cringing....
A. 3 November 2007: I know it's annoying but the only way to tell her is by being straight forward. I know how you feel, when i got my first period i didn't know how to say it. A week later i plucked up the courage to tell her. You've just got to say "mum can i have a ... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregenent
Q. On October 27, 2007 I had sex with my ex and the comdom burst and he came inside me. On the 1st of November I came on my period could I still be pregnant?...
A. 3 November 2007: Yes you could be pregnant. Get a pregnancy test and put your mind at ease.
x good luck x... (read in full...)
Did he break my virginity with dry humping?
Q. I am a 13 yr old old virgin and have pledged to remain so until marriage. I recently had an intimate moment with my boyfriend. I sat on his lap while he kissed my neck but he had an erection and I felt his penis almost at the entrance of my vagina ...
A. 3 November 2007: Do not worry you did not lose your virginity. Only through penetration can you lose it.
Yet i don't see you staying a virgin until marriage if you are already having dry sex at 13. I have no problem with you doing it at that age at all, nothing ... (read in full...)
The best approach to ask a girl for her phone number?
Q. hi, i want to ask a girl for her phone number. we have spoken to each other for a while now and we are lab partners at uni. can anyone tell me what the best approach would be??...
A. 3 November 2007: xSweetiex is so right.
Just like invite her out with you to a party or with a group of friends on a friday night then just say give me your number and i will txt you the details and stuff. It works!
good luck x... (read in full...)
Are the guys that are my friends odd? Or is it just me?
Q. is is normal for guys my age 13-15 to just be interested in whos pulling who and which base theyve got to. most of the guys i know are constantly talking about it and although i find it ok, sometimes it makes me feel like any relationship im going ...
A. 2 November 2007: Sadly, yes this is "normal". Most guys around that age are just finding out and experimenting, it's all very exciting for them. It is merely a competition, boasting. Don't worry they would like you yet they may use you to add to their 'pulling/base ... (read in full...)
What is the best contraception?
Q. hey people just wanted to know.. what is the best form of contraception?? because me n my gf have jus have sex for the first time (we were both virgins) we used a condom bt I dnt feel anything n im not enjoying the sex as much as her. I want to f...
A. 1 November 2007: It depends on the person or couple. What is most popular is the pill as well as the condom. This gives you a much higher safety level taking both than just using a condom which may split. Talk to your girlfriend about it, see what she wants. Take ... (read in full...)
Can we have sex without contraception?
Q. can if i didnt 'cum' inside my gf would it be ok not to use contraception?...
A. 1 November 2007: Why risk it?? There is no point. STD'S and pregnancy isn't something to risk. It's stupid. Just use a condom, it's not hard. There is a chance of pregnancy when pulling out because of pre-cum. I do know people who have been fine and luckily n... (read in full...)
My fiance is VERY controlling. What can I do??
Q. he tells me what i can and can not do. he tries to control me. i been in this relationship for 6 months. my fiance is 47 and i am 31. Recently he has start arguing with me about people that I be around. when my cell phone rings i get worried because ...
A. 23 October 2007: Leave. Get out NOW.
I promise you the marriage will end in a divorce, and a nasty one at that!
My father is exactly as you described your fiance, manipulating. There divorce was awful, hell. It cost my mother so much and caused a lot of pain... (read in full...)
I will let him touch my breasts but am worrid this will not keep him happy enough and he will leave me!
Q. I am seeing this guy i really like there was this story where he fingerd my friend befor we were seeing each other becoz of the fact i am 13 and he is 15 i am worrid that he wants to have sex but i am not ready he keeps on putting his hands on my ...
A. 23 October 2007: Do not do anything you don't want to do! That's the thing most people forget. I am not going to say don't do anything 'sexual' as i know most people will go and do the exact opposite, even at 13 or 14.
I am nearly 16 and was ready to have sex... (read in full...)
What are the signs a girl wants you to ask her out?
Q. can anyone tell me what the signs are that a girl would like you to ask her out? everytime we meet she smiles at me and once she said to me that she was going swimming as if it was an invite. ...
A. 23 October 2007: If a girl likes you...
she will laugh at your jokes, even if they aren't that funny.
She will smile a lot and look you in the eye.
Always answer your questions and never ignore you.
Touch you ( e.g. touch your leg while laughing)
Invi... (read in full...)
I am 12, he is 28. We are in love and he says he wants me to move in with him as soon as I am 16.
Q. About a month ago I met a really sweet guy at my aunts wedding. I'm only 12 but i look alot older and people tell me i am a lot more mature than my age. He's 28 and he works with my aunt. Pretty much everyone in my family knows him and they all seem ...
A. 23 October 2007: Stop commmunicating with him honey! Please please do. Why have the police been in contact and are not allowing you to communicate? There must be a fuller reason here. Honey if the police are involved it means stay away from him! I know you are ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I am bi or just curious...?
Q. Am I Bisexual? I constantly stare at girls.. at their boobs and asses you know and of course I think of them sexually but I cannot see myself with a girl that I would really love. I can only see myself loving a guy although I am CONSTANTLY wonde...
A. 6 October 2007: It is purely curiousity. Do not panic. It is usual for young teens to be curious about sex. You are just fascinated about the different sexes and what they are like sexually. You will soon come out of it, it is only temporary. It is usual for young ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my shyness to talk to her?
Q. I am an 18yo male, never had a gf, i am normally shy but have come out of my shell recently. Anyway there is a girl i REALLY like at work, I have a laugh with and am quite good work friends with, however i have wanted to say something for the last ...
A. 6 October 2007: Well if she is saying to you "I am looking for a boyfriend" that could be a clue to maybe saying she likes you and is attracted to you. Honestly well done for coming out of your shell, it's hard i know. Just go against all your boundaries and ask ... (read in full...)
Ideas to look older? (make up, clothes, hairstyles)
Q. i am 14 years old i look a bit younger i want to look 14 or older but i still have a bit of a baby face i am about 5'2 so i am a bit small but i am still growing and i am thin too.my hair is longish but i want it longer.please can someone give me ...
A. 29 September 2007: I am not going to say "wait...you will mature with time, have fun looking innocent" I know you girls hate being told that because everyone is in a hurry to grow up now, including me.
Hair: It depends what shape your face is..You can have any hair... (read in full...)
Can I see my questions/answers if I dont have an account?
Q. hey all - i post answers on DearCupid a lot but i remain anonymous because my computer is really slow and it would take me ages to make an account. so i was just wondering how i can view questions that ive answered because i can never find them ...
A. 3 September 2007: Dearcupid should have asked you for your email address and have given you something called a verification code...something that looks like "6HGR4R".
If you havnt got it then i do not think you can check your questions..sorry. x... (read in full...)
What can I wear that would make me seem older?
Q. Whats the best thing to wear when you are trying to look older? I dont want to look seven anymore. Any tips? ...
A. 2 September 2007: Go to a shop called Topshop. They have lots of amazing teenage clothes. If you do not have one near you H & M is good (teen section).
Wear some eyeliner and mascara and if you have your ears pierced some big earrings that show.
Choose your... (read in full...)
I'm 13. Am I ready for sex?
Q. Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl 14 in two weeks an I'm stuck in a situation because I met this boy on msn and he's really nice to me an everything. I've seen him before but the thing is he wants to have sex with me and I am fine with that but I'm still a ...
A. 1 September 2007: hey hunni i am nearly 15 and had sex 1 month ago for the first time. Yes you will bleed-depending on how deep he will penetrate or "gos" depends on how much you bleed. If he thinks it isnt your first time he will be rougher. Some of my friends have ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and friends with a 14 year old girl. Others are saying this is wrong. What do you think?
Q. okay well im 17 and there's a kid who is very special to me (lets call her hannah) well she is 14 going on 15. I've known her since the day she was born and our families are very close. I have grown up with her and always looked out for her like an ...
A. 28 August 2007: To be honest you sound like the nicest guy i've spoken to. Your bond is just a strong friendship and you are basically family considering you have known her since she was born. There is nothing "wrong" or "sick" about your friendship. You are simply ... (read in full...)
White stuff is coming out of my vagina....can anyone help me?
Q. Hey got a girl problem.Ummm....for a while now I have had white stuff coming out of my vagina.I have no clue as to what it is.Is an infection or something.I do know that it can't be any type of STD because the nost I've done with a guy is makeout.I ...
A. 24 August 2007: Have you had your period? If not it is probably something called discharge. This is what you have descibed and is to clense that area and is getting you ready for havinng your period. You also get it when you have your period after or just before ... (read in full...)
Is big best, if so why?
Q. hi i am a male and not well endowed is big best if so why ...
A. 23 August 2007: thats not errect. Dont worry!! Honestly its the TECHNIQUE. Show her a good time with the way you do things. FORGET about the size. ... (read in full...)
How do I handle rejection from the lady I'm in love with?
Q. How do I handle rejection from the lady I'm in love with?...
A. 23 August 2007: Has she already rejected you.
The anonymous person below is right. I do exactly what they do. I sulk for a few days, listen to sad music, have some alone time. Think about the good memories and after a few days it leaves and you feel more ref... (read in full...)
Is big best, if so why?
Q. hi i am a male and not well endowed is big best if so why ...
A. 22 August 2007: It is'nt the size. It is the technique and the way you use the penis when it penetrates and is inside. That is all a woman wants.
Don't worry, lots of men feel their size is'nt good enough.... (read in full...)
I'm nearly 16 and have never kissed a girl, what's wrong with me?
Q. hi im 15 years old nearly 16 and i have never kissed a girl what's wrong with me? i am goin out with this girl this is only like my first girlfriend and i am scerd of kissing her because she has kissed alot of people so she will think im a rubbish ...
A. 22 August 2007: Don't worry, i know how you feel. You feel like your the only one who hasn't done this or that and everyone thinks your a "loser". Do not panic! I was terrified out of my brains before my first kiss!! Literally, it comes completely naturally, just ... (read in full...)
I have a problem with the "lower area". Do you think she'll be freaked out?
Q. Alright I'm wondering if this is enough to weird a girl out.. and it willsound a bit gross, but w/e. so here goes... I had a whitehead on the base of my penis, in other words, its basically a white bump, its not massive, but is definatley noticabl...
A. 22 August 2007: Don't worry, she won't hate you for it! If she really likes you she won't care. Spots are spots they go away. It is probably usual for some guys. Although before you do ANYTHING get it checked it could be something you do not want to let her go near ... (read in full...)
I am 16 years old and I love my 35 year old teacher...
Q. I am 16 years old, I love my 35 year old teacher, he has had a wife and 3 children. We often send messages to each other. I am willing to be his second wife. What should I do to make him propose me?...
A. 22 August 2007: Honey listen, you can't break up his family, he has children! He is sick to lead you on like this, it's disgusting. You cannot be serious to want to be his second wife. You may think you love him, but it is wrong to let things go any further then ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and I want to have anal sex with my girlfriend.
Q. I'm 19 and I want to have anal sex with my girlfriend. We have done it before and she liked it but now she won't. It is my favorite by far and I really really like doing it. Like 1 or 2 times a month would be great but she just says I'm sorry. I ...
A. 22 August 2007: She obviously, even though says she enjoyes it, doesn't. Some people don't enjoy anal sex. It depends on the person and what their body feels comfortable doing. She is probably worried about telling you that she does not enjoy it and does'nt want to ... (read in full...)
I've left her 9 facebook comments! I don't want to seem over enthusiastic. Should I hold back?
Q. ok theres this girl right, she is nearly 16 and im not even 14 yet my b day is 27th of august, and ive been trying to get close with her like some ppl on this site hav been tellin me, but im afraid ive been talkin to her too much... i dont wanna luk ...
A. 5 August 2007: Let it die downfor a while. I know it may be hard but don't talk to her for a couple of weeks, cool it down. But certainly don't hold back in the future. Just don't over do it.
I hope this helped xxx... (read in full...)
She's 15 and I'm 13 ... What should I do?
Q. ok... ive bin lukin for this girl for 4 months after a weddin which looked fantastic at. i finally meet her online and realise she is almost 2 yr older than me. what should i do? i mean how long should i wait, should i check she has a boifriend ...
A. 4 August 2007: Hey sweetie i am nearly 15. Become her friend, i know it maybe hard to keep how you feel about her inside but just see what she is looking for. Let her open up to you. Speak to her as though you care and listen to what she says. Message me fo... (read in full...)
He was my first proper kiss but now I havnt had my period since and Im a bit worried could this be linked with the kiss??
Q. Hi i Am 15, i went to Turkey in May And Me And 1 Of The Turkish Lads Who Worked At The Hotel He Was 19 Snogged. Im Still a Virgin And He Was My First Proper Kiss But Now I Havnt Had My Period Since And Im Abit Worried Could This Be Linked With The ...
A. 4 August 2007: Honey don't worry! You are for sure not pregnant! You can only get pregnant through SEX. Kissing is just fun ;) Your period is probably just late, don't panic. It is very usual for teenage girls, it's happened to me hehe. It will come again w... (read in full...)
is it safe to have anal sex during pregnancy
Q. is it safe to have anal sex during pregnancy?...
A. 4 August 2007: Yessssssss it is :)... (read in full...)
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