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41-50,
*eoruby
writes:he tells me what i can and can not do. he tries to control me. i been in this relationship for 6 months. my fiance is 47 and i am 31. Recently he has start arguing with me about people that I be around. when my cell phone rings i get worried because i know that it is him calling to check up on me and to see where I am at and what i'm doing. i don't know how much longer i can take this . i am starting to feel that i should be by myself. he doesn't show me any affection and i am getting bored with this relationship. somebody please help me. i don't know what to do.
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (24 October 2007):
This relationship is a father and daughter relationship when it is at it's best and dominant/submissive relationship at it's worse. This guy comes over as a control freak who will get his controlling ways more and more each extra day you stay with him. Ditch him and get a life for yourself. Mix with friends that you want to mix with and make sure the next guy is a lot easier going than this old fogey seems to be.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 So why are you still with this guy? You must realise now that you cant change him ( which of course is what most women who end up with these arseholes think ).
He is just getting warmed up mate, wait and see you wont be able to sneeze without him asking for explanations soon.
Wise up, move out. Put up a warning beacon for all the other girls in town - avoid this creep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Why are you still even with him? If he is controlling now then what will he be like in the future? Worse????!!!! i know because i was marriage to someone who started out just like that, he then went on to hit me and the rest is history, as they say. Please, just get rid of him now. Age is not the issue here, it never is with me, just the control thing, please get rid.
take care
xx
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reader, lovehate +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Leave. Get out NOW.
I promise you the marriage will end in a divorce, and a nasty one at that!
My father is exactly as you described your fiance, manipulating. There divorce was awful, hell. It cost my mother so much and caused a lot of pain for my family.
I don't want this happening to you or your future children.
Please take my advice. xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Don't even THINK about marrying this guy. If you think he is controlling now just wait until after the wedding! Call off the marriage and tell him you need some space to do some serious thinking about your relationship. Then make sure you get it, time alone, and reconsider your feelings for him and whether it might not be best to just call it quits. If he says he'll change make sure you give it lots of time before you get back together because control freaks rarely change. Good luck and keep us posted.
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