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*lliebellie
writes:is is normal for guys my age 13-15 to just be interested in whos pulling who and which base theyve got to. most of the guys i know are constantly talking about it and although i find it ok, sometimes it makes me feel like any relationship im going to have will just be added to their list of pulling and bases. is it just me? i know some guys who are completely different and respect girls completely. do the boys who actually boast bout which base they get to, actually like the girls theyre doing it to? im confused. maybe i just have odd guys friends i dunno.... please helpellie Reply to this Question
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (2 November 2007):
elliebellie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks people!! dont worry most of my friends are very nice and are girls so bases and pulling arent mentioned. its just a couple of boys i speak to occasioanly who all of a sudden seem to be like this. and there is one guy who is very respectful of me who i am going out with. so at least there is one :) anywayz thanks for the advice
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reader, lovehate +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Sadly, yes this is "normal". Most guys around that age are just finding out and experimenting, it's all very exciting for them. It is merely a competition, boasting. Don't worry they would like you yet they may use you to add to their 'pulling/base list'. Make sure your boyfriend likes and respects you.I do feel boys at this age are interested in nothing but bases and sex. It's life i guess SADLY. You don't have odd friends at all. Just ignore them, i can see it getting very tedious for you.Try and get them of the subject. I am 15 and it still goes on, soon it will die down. good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Yes, ellibellie, it is "normal", unfortunately. However, that does not make it fine..It was there when I was your age, but I don't remember it being so general. You said you "knew" there were other guys who had respect for the girls they liked, but you don't say you knew any personally or had any as "friends". Why not? You know, we choose our friends. They are not dumped on us. No, the girls who are talked about so are not "liked". Not as persons. Sadly, many boys today do not have adult men..fathers, to give them advice on how they should behave with girls or feel about them. And those who do are not always given good advice. But, I am sure you know many girls who are happy to be sex objects and look at boys no differently. So, it works both ways. If you are uncomfortable with the way your guy friends talk and act, maybe you should look round for others who are different. They are out there,..probably wishing they could meet someone like you.
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 It is really a difficult situation. Thing is - most relationships at that age don't last. It is fun, and it adds to the experience of life, but it generally doesn't last.
Thus - your relationships might very well end up being discussed by others, and that is why you have to keep your business private, and make sure that your bf actually likes you. Many guys are nice and respect girls, but it is true what you say - the ones who boast about it, are only in it to see how far they will get... SAD, but true.
Try and surround yourself with people who are not so hung up about bases and pullings??? This might be a safer environment for you.
Good luck girl....
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