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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi im a 21 year old female virgin (almost 22 soon) i never had a real relationship and i never been on a date... i have madeout with guys but everytime ive been kissed was by my guy friends who were drunk/horny. i imagine that since they were drunk their vision got f-ed up by the alcohol and they found me remotely attractive at the time...basically ive never been kissed by a sober person. :/ other than kissing im just as unexperienced as a child and at my age thats a problem, i believe for a fact that guys around my age dont want an unexperienced girl. anywayz i just feel alone b/c i personally dont know of another virgin..and it gets me sad when i think about it, i feel like something is wrong with me and im not normal. sooo i guess my question is there anyway i can build my self esteem/confidence up? (i always feel like im fugly b/c no guys ever show interest in me) also i was wondering if there are guys around my age that find a girl like me as a good thing or bad thing..? thanks for reading...
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reader, ManAfterChrist +, writes (26 July 2010):
 Well, honestly, I would prefer someone who hasn't given away their virginity yet.
But that's for different reasons; I really think it's respectable to find another (like me) that's saving herself for marriage.
I know other guys that for different reasons prefer virgins. But I also know others that don't like virgins as much.
You are still young, you have awhile before you really need to be thinking about this stuff :D
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (26 July 2010):
 so you know what helped me? I joined a dating site and basically you get a lot of emails from guys and therefore your confidence goes up,and bonus, you may just find a good guy to date!
but if you don't wanna do that, because I realize that online dating can be controversial. So perhaps you can do little things to make you feel better, like spend more time getting ready for things. Not saying that you're not beautiful not made up, but it will make you feel like you take care of yourself and give yourself some pride eventually once you do that long enough.
another thing to do is exercise. Not saying you're fat, but working out is not about losing weight, but being healthy. and the more you work out, the happier you are (natural endorphins) and the better you will feel about yourself because you are again, taking care of yourself.
sometimes if you pretend to be confident for awhile, real confidence will follow.
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