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*aylor26601
writes:My man is 59 and ime 27. He cant get a proper erection and says its because of the drink. Ive had a c section and feel hes not attracted to me. When hes drunk his attitude changes and he once sayd 'your not that good looking and thats why I dont bother with you' all of this has made me paranoid whats your advice?
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reader, Taylor26601 +, writes (15 August 2010):
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 I assume this man is your husband or the baby's daddy. He's not a good influence on your baby. No man should be drunk when there's a baby to take care of. If a young woman like you can't attract him who else could? He's blaming his sexual problems on you, projecting his shame onto you. You need a man attentive to your needs and to help you gain confidence as a woman again. Your body should return to normal 6 weeks after the operation. I hated it when the doctor told me I had to have a c section but right now I am grateful the experience I don't have to be obvious and graphic here. You are a mother with little time to yourself but you are still a woman with intimate desires. He surely doesn't have the maturity of a 59 year old. My advice is to stay away from him. Having a baby would make him less of a priority but his animosity towards you is telling you there is underlying issues inside the relationship, and I can tell you it's all about him. His hurtful statements might left you with a feeling of shock, then numbed. If you have no choice but to live under the same roof with him, the best way to respond to him is to say to him "thanks but I disagree, I am actually very good looking. You eye sight must be deteriorating and drinking certainly doesn't help. Time to book an appointment with an eye doctor." Or, "I won't bother with you then. There are tons of attractive women out there." Never believe that you are unattractive and don't show you are affected by his statements. He has to stew in his own juice of bitterness.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 uhh why are you with a guy that flat out said "you're not that good looking and thats why I don't bother with you."????
thats a sure sign that you deserve better, it would make any girl feel insecure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): This bs behavior us becoming more and more common in men, coincidentally it coincides with the rise in free and easy to get Internet porn. Men are so brainwashed they think what they see in porn is real and compare real life women to it. What do you want with this olden anyway, dump his sorry ass
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