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writes:So I've been seeing this girl. I really like her a lot. Yesterday she tells me she is going to her ex-boyfriends birthday party, which I am fine with as they are still friends. Then I find out her birthday present to him is that her and a couple of her big breasted friends took a photo of themselves in their bras with money stuffed in them. This is what she told me "He loves boobs and we thought it would inspire him to make more money."I don't know what to say... I really don't feel good about it. I mean, since she's my girlfriend i thought i would have exclusive access to her boobs, and the thought of her ex having a framed picture of them to look at every day makes me nauseous! I almost want to end the relationship because of this...anyone have any advice? am i just being overly jealous? what should i do?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 August 2010):
 My first thought it was a gag gift. However with the ex-factor its not entirely appropriate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Frankly I think she's a bit immature, as well as her friends, but they are not the issue here,she sounds like she's still has some feeling for her ex; why else would she do such an asinine thing!Look for a woman and not a child!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI talked to her, and she says she is going to change the gift. She said it was just a spontaneous thing, and didn't think about how I would feel... What a relief!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your help everyone. I'm glad I'm not alone in my opinion of things!
I'm going to talk to her about it today and we'll see how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): Run...don't walk away from this train wreck! No good can come from this "present". You have every right to feel that you and only you have access to her boobs. Come on! How would she feel if you gave your ex a framed photo of your privates just for a birthday gift - she'd have a freakin' fit!! Get real, this is not good and it definitely says something about her character. Is this the woman you want to marry and have a family with? Now if you're just looking for a good time, Dude, you have found it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): Just let her know how you feel. I agree with LLindy87, she might have seen this as entirely harmless - even though it is not. Ask yourself, how much does she mean to me? how much do I want her in my life?
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reader, alexis23 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 No, you're not being jealous. that's not right that she'd take a photo like that. especially giving it to another man. (then again, her ex). I don't think she should be taking pics of herself in bra, with money in it? it's a little weird. next thing you know, she'll probably give Santa a ride at the mall. try not to worry about it, but tell her that you don't approve of it, if you don't.. to me, it's just a little... not right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): Pass on a pic of your privates to your ex and see how she reacts.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 If this is the first time anything like this happened, then don't break up with her, set your boundaries now...by all means you have a right to be mad, but it would be unfair to break up if she had no idea this would upset you. She might have thought because it wasn't just a picture of only her that you'd see the humor, but she didn't really think of your feelings. so you are in your thirties, be mature and work through it instead of dropping the entire relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): this is not cool - ask her how she would like you taking a risky photo of yourself and giving it to your ex... Maybe she is just naive but seems like she still has feelings for him why would she go to such a huge effort otherwise? Dont jump the gun on the dump but ask her if she thinks that what she did was alright - if she does you probably dont want to be with her anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): You're definitely not being overly jealous. This comes across a little weird to me... Have you talked to her about it yet? In my opinion, she might be doing this to either get you jealous, to make her ex really know what he's missing, or maybe she wants her ex back. In any case, it's pretty innapropriate and you need to talk to her about it. Maybe she isn't the type to get jealous, so she doesn't quite understand how you feel... If she still gives him the present, it may very well be something to end the relationship over, if you feel it's what you should do. Hope this helps! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): That is a very bizarre thing not only to do to someone IN a relationship but especially so if it is her ex. That is really weird and frankly I'd have a hard time rationalizing it because it just is quite inappropriate. Talk to her about it if you like, but you are certainly not wrong to think about leaving over this. Very strange and wrong in my opinion.
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